My husband's grandmother died yesterday....
By missybal
@missybal (4490)
United States
January 24, 2007 7:35pm CST
I got the shock of my life when I got a phone call from a relative that my husband's grandmother just died. She was only in her early 60's and she never complained at all of any ailment. She woke up did her usual routine went down town and the post office and bank and that. Went home and had a major heart attack and was just gone. I had grown very close to her and had never thought that she could be gone so quickly. She always seemed the best of health. I myself still have both sets of grandparents and a great grandmother, all that were not in as good of health as my husband's grandmother. She was such a wonderful woman involved with her church and she helped other's, mostly she drove a lot of people to their doctors appointments. I cried so hard because I was going to call her that morning and I had forgotten and I could have spoken to her one last time. I felt so bad because I had spent Christmas with her and didn't get any pictures. I can't even wear the slippers she got me, I just end up crying. It hurts so much because it was just so sudden and I I hadn't thought that our time together was so short. Now my husband realizes that the rest of his family lives in Kansas and we live in New York where my entire family is. He wants to move out to where his family is but I am so scared that if we do one of my relatives will pass away. I try my very best to spend time and get to know all our relatives but it is a very large family and I just feel as though I can't learn enough from them and am not giving the attention to them all I should. I guess I am just feeling remorse and will get over it, but it isn't easy. I just pray I can give enough of myself to my loved ones so they know how much I care when they pass.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
25 Jan 07
It is so sad when someone close to you passes away, I had a friend a lot younger than that die last year, just dropped and was gone, all you can do is think what a great way to go, no pain no loss of dignity and she is in a better place now, I am 99% sure we all do go to a better place....it is ok to cry and then she will help you find the strength a bit later....
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@brightbluesea (1143)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I just wanted to say that I am sorry to hear about your sudden loss. It's never easy to lose someone but I think that it can be even harder when it comes as a shock and suddenly. Hang in there-
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
26 Jan 07
Im sorry to hear about your loss. I have lost alot of people who were close to me too. I lost my dad when i was 12 years old to begin with. all of my grandparents are gone. I lost my step father too and now mom is remarried. My husbands mom is inher 80's and in the past year her health also has gone downhill very quickly. He is at her house right now visiting here. she lives 45 miles from us and he passes by there on his way home so I didnt get to go this time. He just knows inhis heart that sooner or later she will pass on. I encourage him all the time to be with her as much as he can, but with his work schedule, it is kind of a hard thing for him to do. she still drives. Its amazing. She recently had eye surgery to correct her vision and by doing so, she lost total eye sight in oneof her eyes and she started going downhill from there with her health. It was almost like she has totally given up on life. she has been in and out of the hospital more time in the past 2 months than in her whole lifetime. She also never complains so when she does get sick, we know she truly is.
@gs_india (4)
• India
25 Jan 07
I'm sorry for ur great loss. I think, she would be one of the greatest person on ur mind. really, it would hurt u....much. just cry, as long as u can. then u would realize, she wont b anymore...but on ur mind, she will never b forgotten. all d best for ur future.
@adams03605 (436)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I am very sorry to hear of your sudden loss. We also just went thru such a heartbreaking ordeal this month. My father-in-law passed suddenly on
Jan 1st.
He got to spend Christmas day with us and the kids and seemed to be very happy all day, (he is normally a grump and he knew that!) But the kids all had a great day with him and a big dinner and such. A few days after Christmas he got sick, just the stomach bug thing... or so everyone thought. Within 3 days, he was gone. They think he may have had pneumonia. But it was just a shock, a major kick in the teeth about how life works and how things can change so quickly!
Now we can just be thankful for the time that we all got to spend with him and the wisdom that he shared with us all.
This is the first time I have lost anyone so close, I have lost grandparents in the past but I was never close to them. This is going to take alot of time to heal. He was also "young" as everone tells us, he was 61.
It's to complicated to figure out the mystery of how life works. As I tell my husband daily now, just think about all the good things he did and what he gave to us during his life. That's how we need to look at it, and not to dwell on the "what if's", that doesn't make things any easier.
@vinu123 (224)
• India
25 Jan 07
Ohh we are very sorry for tht. Well it's very sad demise of your grandmother. May she get a palce in heaven. We all pray for that.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Do not fret about the pictures. I did this as well when my grandmother passed away. I have so few pictures of her. When I got all blubbery over the fact that I didn't have any objects to remember her by I remembered a day that we spent together. She told me to take something that belonged to her before anything happened to her and the vultures had a chance to ransack everything. I told her that I didn't need any objects to remember her by. The greatest thing I had was her love and that would be the greatest memory I could ever have. It was mine alone. Huggers to you.
@mgr1987 (689)
• India
25 Jan 07
very sorry for the condolence of your husband's grandma.this is the beauty of life.when someone is with us,we don't realise their value.but if they pass away,we regret very much for not being with them.from ur discussion i realise that relationship shouldn't be taken for granted.it must be valued.
@mama_of_two (268)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I am so sorry for your loss and this makes me think about my grandmother (on my mother's side). We were very close when I was living in Ohio, but now that I live in Florida we don't talk as much and I really miss that a lot.
I have thought that what if something happens to her will I ever get to say something to her before she goes. I know how hard it must be, and I am sure that she loved you very much. At least, she went quickly and there was no pain. She is now in a higher place now, and she is most definitely looking upon you and your husband keeping an eye out on you.
I apologize for my ranting, but this really makes me want to go back home really bad. I miss my family, especially my grandmother, dearly.
@tahiyya123456 (534)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I know things in life sometimes happen so quickly but if we can just remember we are on loan in this life and that we shall have to return back to our lord. But i just want to really say to you i admire you for the compassion that you have for family. So many people hold grudges towards family members. And as far as you worrying about a family member passing .remeber this: what was meant to be will not pass you and what passed you was not meant to be. take care
@kareng (59167)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Sorry to hear about your loss. Losing a loved one is never easy and when it happens so suddenly like this one it is a big shock. Hugs and take care!
@mariver101 (162)
• Indonesia
25 Jan 07
i am very sorry to hear your sudden lost..I think she is in a better place now...
@khaleel_ah (216)
• India
25 Jan 07
i am so sorry about ur husband grandmother , is she was aged or not .
