What do you do when you have a hard decision to make??

I just looked at your profile, Oh my, you have your hands full. Nine kids, I can't imagine your life. When I have problems and can't figure them out. I hand it all to God. The best advice I could give you is to say your prayers and follow your heart. Good luck, hang on, when things get tough. Things change all the time, it will get better. Keep you chin up and keep the faith.

Someone must be around u in who u can trust.Talk with that person.Don't rush.Think positive it is very important.I wish u all the best!

Decision making is definitely not my forte. I am a total failure in terms of decision making. I find it really very had to take decisions. If I had to choose between two options in decision making, i will take long time to do it and think over it again and again, getting anxiety, etc and finally will end up with the wrong decision and regret it later. This has been my "order of the day" in terms of decision making.

I have followed you in your discussions and to me it seems as though u are a woman with her head between her shoulders and that u have alot to take care of, however u are coping with it and also doing really well. I think the best way to go about it is to follow your heart, but also listen to what your mind is telling you. Witht his combination, even if it goes wrong atleast u did your best and in the end that is all that counts. all people need to take big decisions in life at some point and i do not have a doubt in my mind that u will make the one that is right for u and for the people u love...

First off, go back and read your topic. I see a common theme...I don't know how to deal with it, I have always made bad decisions, I doubt myself, I am so confused, I am so messed up, It's all jumbled up in my mind...etc. The reason you can't decide is because of how you think about problems. I am not saying this to put you down or make fun of you. You are constantly telling yourself you can't make the right decisions. Guess what happens? You don't. It is your focus on not being able to solve your problems that casues you to not find their solutions. If you can understand how you think, you can change your thought process. Begin to tell yourself that you can find the answers you need. Even make a list of your troubles and besides them make a list of possible answers. This might help you to sort it out. Think about how you really want this major problem to end. Ask yourself what is my perfect solution or ending? What am I feeling about my life and how can I find a new road to take? This will take some effort. When you tell yourself you cannot find answers, you take away any chance of finding them. Focus on finding the answers and forget the problems. Once you figure out some solutions, concentrate on finding ways to put them into action. This major decision you are trying to make can be made...by you! If you are at point "A" (problem)and you don't like it, create a point "B" (solution)in your mind that you do like. Then work toward moving in the direction of point "B". You don't have to know the exact road to take. Keep your desired solution in your mind and the Infinite Source will help guide you. What is "right" might be what others have told you and somewhere in your mind you feel different. You have to take a big risk and think for yourself. I know you have the power and ability to choose your own solution. Beleive in your mind that you can make the best choice for yourself.

During life we all have to make some very difficult decisions. I'm facing a major one at the moment. I have learned over the years the best thing to do is to list the positives and negatives of what you have to decide before making your choice. This has helped me in the past. If it's personal you do this alone, but if it affects others you should do it with them.

why dont you try to talk about this matter with someone you trust? by sharing yo might will have a good decision later.my friend also like you, she always come to me and her other friend to decide a taough problem

Stephanie Love I really do not know what to suggest Sit down and think about it with a clear Head and not in a Mess go through everything in your Head and think of ways to decide think of the Good Points and the Bad Points as I do not know what the decision is about it is a bit hard If you can't do it on your Own Have you got a Friend or Family Member that you could talk it through with as that might help along the Way I really hope that you can sort this out

The best way to do it as far as I know and what has worked for me is to grab a piece of paper. Write down the title of the problem at the top. I then divide the paper in to two colums. I put all the GOOD things on one side and all the bad or Not as good things on the other side. Be truthful, be honest. Don't make up what you want to see, write it like it is, first things that come to your mind. Put it away for 24 hrs, DO NOT look at it, Tomorrow get it out and rationally look at what you wrote. The decision should be pretty simple or at least steer you in the right direction with less confusion? GOod LUck, I am sure it's overwhelming now, but once you Isolate it on paper it gives it a priority and a life of its own so it helps to see what it really is.

perhaps some counseling would help you maybe talking it out with someone would help you or a really good friend

i used to plan very activity in day to day life .but still i faced some short of situation as you have mentioned. in that situation i used to take decision by obeying my mind and not heart

I have a suggestion, write the problem in a paper write the positive points if you go for the decsion and also write the negative points or threats you take that decision, do the same for the other alternatives, find out which is has the best positive outcome, your mind will ask different questions in between, try to find answers for those questions, try to discuss with others if you could not find out the answers for your questions within yourself. Based on this you can take a decision. You are the father of your decision whether it is positive or negative you have to own it and i can say that we can make our decision to some extent based on our present situation it may or may not be wrong if you are right be happy and if you are wrong try to find out where you went wrong in taking your decision and try to set right next time when you make a decision. Wish you all the best

you sleep on it. think it over. weigh. consider consequences. and follow your heart.

The very best thing you can do when you have a difficult decision to make is to pray about it. Ask God to guide you to make the right decision. He will never let you down!

In every decision that you have to make in your life, be it small or big, always put God first and you will see that it will be easier for you to make a decision and that the decision you made is the best one. If everything is a mess and you cant go on anymore, remember that there is always God to be our helpful friend.

what i do is pray and give all my burden tio t he Lord. here is something for you..MArk11:24 "The Lord said, whatever you ask in your prayer, believe that you have received it and it will be yours." Prayer is not a spare tire we pullwhen we feel our life has gone flat but it is a steering wheel that helps direct our path.

You have so much on your hand, when i make decisions i actually just think hard about them, count em out one by one. if this helped. www.habboxb.com

You should start being confident about yourself first. We all make mistakes and im sure some of mine may be even worse than yours. But i always think positive that in my mistakes, ive learned something and will apply it when necessary. You should think positive too about yourself!

When i have a tough decision to make or a problem, I list them down on a paper to help me organize my thoughts and see things in a larger perspective. I write fist the problem. on the next column, I write the decisions or possible solutions on problems. I list down as many as I can provided that they are really relative to the issue. then on the third column, I write next to the decision the consequences that may happen if i do that specific decision. On the fourth and fifth columns, I write advantages and disadvantages respectively. I hope this will help!

What I do when I have a hard decision to make is that I list them down. What happened to you happened to me too several times already. It's just too depressing to think about right now. So I hope that the tip I give you wilol work for you, because it does for me. Whenever I have a decision to make, I list down my option. Like first, I write down what I want to decide on. Then next to it, I put as many decisions as I want which are very much related and will really affect my decision. On the third column, I put write the consequences that comes with it. I also list the advantages and disadvantages on the fourth and fifth columns for each decision. I do the same with a problem too. I know it too obsessive-compulsive, but it does help me. i hope it helps you!