Second Hand Stores and My Husband's Shirts

If he doesn't ask where you got them I wouldn't worry about it. I wouldn't lie to him if he does ask but otherwise what he doesn't know isn't hurting you. Maybe in time you can tell him fully and he'll realize how foolish he's being.

I used to have the same problem with my husband. I love Thrift Stores, yard sales, etc. Until we both got disabled I couldn't get him to even walk in one let alone buy something from one. Then he got hurt at work, and a few yrs. later I got hurt at work and we couldn't afford buying new stuff. Having 2 teenage daughters made it even worse, until I started pointing out all the nice designer clothes real cheap at the thrift stores. Now my husband, my kids all like to go looking to see what kind of bargains they can dig up. Our finances are just beginning to get back in shape and we dont have too any more, but we still do, cause its fun now and saves us lots of money. My brother-in-law used to be a snob when it came to things like that too and he came around when hard times hit. You can find some wonderful used stuff if you just look hard enough. I would pick a few of the nicest shirts you buy and after you wash them, keep the tags and show him. Tell him how much you love him and that you are showing him by buying him the best shirts at a discounted price so you can get him more. My hubby always is dressed to the tee and he gets all his clothes from the Thrift Stores or yard sales, so do I. Prices are ridiculous now adays.

LOL!!! I think that what you're doing is great, actually. You're saving the family a lot of money, your husband doesn't know the difference, and he's apparently liking his shirts plenty enough to wear them. I am a bit surprised that he hasn't caught on yet, since you wouldn't think that you would have absolutely always had time to wash the shirts and take the tags off by the time he gets home. I guess it depends on how often you buy him new shirts, though. I admit, yes, i don't like the idea of lying. But it seems more like a white lie than a big lie. After all, if he really were disliking the shirts I'm sure that he would have complained by now. And I'm sure that you've saved a fortune! *laugH*

Oh, I love to shop second hand stores. For some reason I get the best feeling, like I am cheating the upscale retailers before they cheat me! It's a shame your husband feels that way, I would think he would admire you for being frugal with the money, leaving more money for fun things! Perhaps you could 'save' a bit of money back in a special place each time you find a great second hand bargain. When you have enough saved back to buy him something that he has really been wanting,, buy it. When he exclaims over it, say, "Well, it wouldn't have been possible had if it weren't for those second hand stores." Then tell him what you did!! He wins both ways, lots of nice clothes, some item he really badly wants, and a wife with a head on her shoulders when it comes to managing money!

there is nothing wrong in buying second hand clothing. it is much cheaper than the one you see in botiques. you will always find a great bargain.

You're not a horrible wife at all. After all as you say he can't tell the difference, no point in spending double or maybe even more for something that you like. I'm lucky that way my other half doesn't mind second hand shops at all, infact it is usually him that will say to me about going and looking to see what they have and we have had some really good bargains for both of us and for the kids.

There is a saying Don't ask don't tell. If he's not asking then don't tell. But if he were to ever ask If I were you I would tell. Then let him know how much you saved by shopping the thrift stores. I would keep track too just to show him.

What he don't know won't hurt him. Well, that may or may not be true. I see nothing wrong with it. I just hope doesn't find out, he may be hurt that you've been lying to him. Why does he hate second hand stores so much? They save you money and give people jobs. the clothes are just as good and I hope clean. I usually wash the T-shirts I get there, even if they are just for working in.

*laughs* I'll keep that trick in mind and do that to my own husband when I'm married. You are not a bad wife at all. He's just to picky. There's nothing wrong with second hand stores, many of the things you can buy from them here still have their original tags left on them. The clothing was never on anyones back to begin with! Just continue what you're doing and take him shopping with you one day. It'll be a laugh.

There is nothing wrong with second hand stores. Sometimes you can find things there that still have the orginal price tag on them. Many times rich people buy something and when they get it home decide they don't like it after all. Sometimes they will only wear something once. So it is practically brand new. I do not think you are a horrible wife. I think you are a very smart and thrifty wife.

Then i say what he knows won't hurt him!! My mom likes to pick up second hand clothes also for the children and they all look brand new and i do not see the difference. If you think that this would upset him then maybe you could consider this a little whit lie! I won't agree with you though on teh horrible wife thing because i don't believe that you are horrible!

there is nothing wrong with shopping at second hand stores. you can find brand new clothes and shoes there. that is one of my favorite places to shop. i prefer there than the mall and I can still find name brand clothes for a fraction of the cost. I also like to shop at stores such as Marshall's and Ross which sell name brand clothes that are not in "top quality" to be sold at regular high class department stores. if he doesn't like second hand stores, then maybe you can try a store like Marshall's and Ross. I don't know if you have these stores around in your area. I live in Texas and as far as I know, these stores are spread nation wide. they sell anything from Wal-Mart brand to Nautica, Tommy Hilfiger, Ralph Lauren, and other expensive clothes that are name brand, brand new, and never worn--for cheap. Hope this helps!

I am a diehard thrift store shopper. I can't see spending 3 times the money on things that are just for everyday wear. In this case, what he does not know will not hurt him.

I have a son like that. He just won't even walk into a goodwill or salvation army store. I have always, since he was old enough to voice his opinion, done the same thing you are doing now. He has gotten some great clothes from Tommy Hilfinger (sp?), Fubu, and other name brands and I have gotten a bargain! Without doing this I would have only been able to buy one or two of the name brands over an entire school year, as it is, he has gotten most of his wardrobe as name brand. His girlfriend knows this so she says she's going to keep up the tradition if/when they get married or live together.

You are right . Since he does not feel any bad aboutthe shirt youtake from second hand shop ,it is harmless . You are saving money which is very important .

hahahaha.. you should tell your husband to make him realize that it's ok to go to second hand stores, he even can't tell the difference!

The difference is that you are lying to your husband through omission. You are not harboring a very trusting relatinship with him by doing something that you know he doesn't aprove of. As a wife you should be respecting your husband, and that means not only him but also his wishes. There is never a good reason to lie to him about anything. One thing that I as a husband cherish greatly in the world is that when I get home from work there is my wife who loves me and respects me, not just me but my decisions and my chioses and my passions. Without that I would be without confidence, self esteem. She breeds those things in me because I know that she respects me. I am not saying that she never tells me when I am wrong or that I am being dumb about something but she allows me to make those decisions and then follows my lead. That is her role and she plays it so very well. God has given her a great responsiblity in that. As i watch how she responds to me it reminds me how I am called to respond to God and his way. She sets a great exsample to me in that. I just pray that all men could have such a wonderful wife as I have. By the way I love anything that is cheap! I guess you could say that your husband and I are opposites.

Nothing wrong with second hand clothes as long as they look good on you and they serve their purpose. My wife buys me second hand clothes periodically and I trust her fashion sense because I only have fashion sense enough to buy the most expensive stuff on the rack. :) My lovely wife has actually come home with stuff that we would never buy in the stores because it cost too much, but for $2.00, why not eh.

Your husband is lucky to have a practical wife. I had two husbands both of which were more than happy that I saved money by buying MY clothes second-hand but no matter how strapped we were for cash, second-hand clothes just weren't good enough for THEM. I hope you take your savings and treat yourself nicely with it.

I don't hate second hand stored as known as bundle.for person like me I think bundle is the right place to have an original brand cloth at the low price.