Is a suicide threat enough to keep you bound in a relationship?

That is just pathetic of him to force the girl to be with him out of pity and hopes that he won't kill himself. We all naturaly would panic and say okay let's stay together... and than reality comes in and will make us look at the bigger picture. I would tell his family. I would than attmept to break up with him again. If he threatens to kill himelf, than I would tell him that you are calling 911 and hang up on him. This may make him think twice about the thought of everyone knowing his business and manipulation.

sounds familiar... well, my sisters xhusband is really that kind of a looser... when they are married he battered my sister, insult her, do all the things you dont want to hear... even if for years my sister tried to understand him and give a chance to the marriage because they got 2 kids... but he only get worst. everytime my sister attempted to leave him or run away from him, he would threaten her that he will kill himself.. once he even told he rthat he will jump off the nearby cliff if my sister will ever think of leaving him.. for years my sister got even into hell worst marriage until we , all of us brothers and sisters worked hand in hand, helped her, have a lawyer and made it possible.. now, she looks so pretty and still so sexy as ever...while when shes wth him she looks like trash and like a schizo woman,her kids are with us, in the family, all of us take turns and help the financing, nurturing and loving the children... shes now a new and very inspired person. see, if that girl will ever make more forgiving chances to that guy her bf, she'll have to endure more trouble and in years more... a lot of misery and wider problems.. the solution i think is the one you suggested... the right thing to do in her situation, your opinion is the only first way and move that she must do.., if not the parents the school guidance councilor, or the adviser, or the guys friends and other family members of the guy. she should move now and make her life clear and back to normal.. before everything comes up like what happened to my sister.. thanks for this post. take care..^_^

Sometimes I think things like this could be a Plea for help as well, and I would definately think letting your parents and his parents know what is going on would be a smart idea. They need to have a talk with him, and see what is really wrong, and get him help if needed. This girl should have the Freedom to come and go and choose a Relationship as she sees fit. This is a form of abuse in my opinion if she chooses to stay, and will never be able to freely choose what she really wants and needs in life. I hope somehow someone can make her see this before it is too late. A Relationship should be built on Love of both parties, never just one.

This has to be a very stressful situation for her,but sometimes people tell you things,just so you can do whatever they want you to do,I was in a relationship many years ago,where I was told if I left,that he would kill me and my whole family,I was very young,and I believed him.I was so miserable,to the point that one day,I was trying to decide whether to kill myself or to kill him,I called my Mom and she said that I needed to leave asap. My family never knew that he had threatened me all those years.I finally left and got a restraining order against him,we also had children together.After all of those years of being afraid to leave,I left and he was the one afraid of being locked up,and I was finally free.we are now friends,after many years.

I agree with your way of thinking because I would also let his family know what I wanted and what he has threatend to do if I were to follow through with it. I would then sit him down and tell him that I was not going to stay and if he thought that making this threat was going to make me stay then he needed to rethink things over. I would also remind him of the old saying If you love someone let them go, if it is meant to be they will be back. Then if he tried something that would be foolish on his side as when I walked out the door I would call his family and let them know what kind of condition he was in.

This guy is crazy needs to see a counselor. I mean seriously if that was me i could careless about his life, but i see this girl actually cares about this guys life.

No, i would seek help for that person. i am not one to be threatened into staying with someone if its not right.

No...I think this is absolutely sick as an idea to keep bound to someone ... It will definitely help you for couple of days but later with time this will become futile and will loose its value.

I had someone tell me that to me as well - My family and friends told me that if she tells you she is going to kill herself then she is not really going to do it. So I did the same thing you said you would do. I told her peeps and rolled out. She never tried to kill herself tho...

You r big enough to decide what to do or not to do.Just try your boyfriend to understand ur reason.If doesn't agree take big step and tell his parents and sort it out.

That guy is acting like a little kid. If you really love someone and that person doesn`t love you anymore you should let them be free and search for their real love. It`s foolish to threaten someone with this kind of things.

Yes, sometimes. But it is not a real threat. Broken heart can cause a person to die. Even if he does not kill himself. Sadness can also kill.

If i were in the girls shoes,I would break it off,but I would give him a sharp knife as a "parting gift" to remember me by.

If i were on the shoes of that girl i will break off on him I wont be feared on the guy threat after all were both adults and he know what he was committed to his own life and it was not the basis on the relationship to make it longer and there were no mutual response from each other.

no. it should not keep you in a relationship. whatever that person does to himself/herself is her own choice and not yours.

well for me i wont allow a treat to govern me in a relationships...i will still break up with him/her...no matter what..but at least i have to tell it to anyone ...to unload all guilt feelings if it may really happen...

i dont think its a good idea..

i think that is a bad idea..I really do not like people threating their love ones like that..so do not ever do that

I agree with you. that would be the best way to handle it...

If a threat is required to keep your relationship going then i think you should better end the relationship ...