After break up can lover again become friends
By mathurvarun
@mathurvarun (980)
India
January 26, 2007 8:33am CST
After a break up can the guy and girl again become friends dont u think the ego part can come in between??
21 responses
@mayenskie (1307)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
all break ups are painful on both sides. i dunno but maybe they can be civil but the friendship will never be the same again. and eventually they will both end drifting away from each other. happy memories of the two of you, about the way you were once been, would be too painful to even think of. maybe not seeing each other after break up can help each other move on and well.. who knows a year or two, when u meet again. u'l just laugh about the silly past.
@chel621 (98)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
It depends upon the breakup.. For me and in my situation, i really want to me and my husband to be friends again after a 1 year breakup.. But now i'm still in the process of healing my heart and maybe time can tell if we can be friends again... just for the sake of the kids.
@hitzphillygirl (1235)
• United States
26 Jan 07
Of course. But speaking from experience, I wouldn't recommend it. I got my heart broken last night by my ex-boyfriend, who I was still pretty damn crazy about.
@mathurvarun (980)
• India
28 Jan 07
but that what i want to ask..after such a tragic break up can u become friends again...Didnt all the time that breakup comes in ur mind whenever u see that boy or girl..then how can u become friend again
@ms_fery (251)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
one of my friend is having this personality that she wants her exes to be her friend again, i must say she is unique but luckyly two of her exes is her friend. i even asked her why she wants her exes to be her friend then she told me that if time comes the right girl will find her exes she will tell her ex "that do not make a mistake like what you've than to me." unique isn't it? i think it hard for women to accept but for men i don't think it is hard they definitely accept this.
@lotusrose2007 (106)
• India
27 Jan 07
It depends upon the mental maturity and nature of those two persons involved
@mathurvarun (980)
• India
26 Jan 07
ya but dont u think they are trying for a patch up...after a break up.. a patch up..do u really think its a good idea
@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
I think that depends on the past lovers. Some still feel the bitterness so they prefer not to be friends with their ex partner. But some ended their relationship as a mutual decision, so they are not having a hard time being friends with their ex-partners.
@doodlebug5250603 (1993)
• United States
26 Jan 07
i have never been able to break up with someone and still be able to be their friend. i dont' know why it's that way. i guess it's because we usually breakup because we are mad at each other about something... so i guess there's still anger there.
@mathurvarun (980)
• India
29 Jan 07
But if that person want to be remain friend with u then can't u become his friend?
@kuntal41101 (366)
• India
30 Jan 07
there are very rare examples where it has been done successfully. But majority don't end up this way results in more frustration and depression.
According to human psychology the partner with whom you have gone to very deep emotional relationship and even physical relationship will never gonna have a friendship at all!!
Without a great deal of maturity on both the sides its not possible and please do not try it !!
@miguelcanas (321)
• Portugal
26 Jan 07
I think so, but is not easy, if the relationship was healthy and the persons talk easily each other.. they could become friends.
@mathurvarun (980)
• India
29 Jan 07
After a long distance between them do u think it can be cover up so easily?
@goldensun (68)
• Colombia
26 Jan 07
Yuo know i think it depends how "grown you are", actually i broke with my last girlfrien six months ago and we continue beeing friends
@unpretty14 (63)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
i think it will work but the hardest this is unequal feelings. it's really hard if one person still wants a romantic relationship and the other doesn't. but if both people really accept that the romance is over, it will work.
would you be okay hanging out with the other person and his new gf/bf? would the other person be okay hanging out with you and your gf/bf? if the answer is, "not now buy maybe someday," you could, perhaps, work towards an eventual relationship by starting with an email or snailmail -only relationship. :D