How will you deal with a neigbor who is a habitual borrower?

It is hard to say no, but that is what I would have to do. it is something different if they don't return what they borrowed though - then they could absolutely forget about me lending them anything else, but if they do return what they borrowed and in the same good condition as when they borrowed it, then I wouldn't mind as often. I would still say no on things that I really didn't want to lend.

Perhaps it is because I am geting older, but I have given myself the gift of saying no. I can always change my mind, but I do reserve the right to say no, and you should too. And don't feel bad about it, if this is their lifestyle they also feel very welcome in your neighborhood, and will find someone else to leech off of.

Oh god we have neibours like this and it sucks. They constantly come and borrow milk,smokes you name they want it. So When we see one of these people we either lie and say we don't have anything or don't answer the door. Its easier then telling them we are sick of their mooching.

I understand your problem. I had similar issue with my neighbour previously. I put up wih for some time (for 2-3 weeks) and then I started refusing their requests politely. Slowly they recognized that it no longer works and stopped asking me.

Just tell them off, i mean seriously if they kept borrowing your stuff then its a big deal, or if they

tell them no u dont have any left

you learn to ignore them,just as I have had to do-otherwise they just keep taking and taking-besides when you tell them no they usually go and harass someone else...

I'm usualy a very generous person until I fell like I'm being taken advantage of.I had the same problem a few years back.The best way to deal with that is to be very blount and honest.I told my neighbour, "hey look I don't mean to offend you in any way but, I can't be loaning all my stuff on a regular basis.I understand your situaion . I have all my stuff for a reason,I need it and use it.I wish I could help you more but I need to take care of myself and I wont be loaning any more of my stuff to anyone.I've worked very hard to get what I have.I hope you can understand".Now if they get upset that's there problem not yours.Often people use guilt trip's as a form of manipulation.Don't let it get to you.

My parents and their neighbours borrow stuff from each other all of the time, and it doesn't seem to cause problems. Then again, it is usually one time items, and they are returned, clean, right after they are used. (Like a lawn mower, or stuff like that). If you're not comfortable lending them something, just say, I'm sorry I can't help you with that. Don't explain. If they push, just say that you're sorry, but you can't lend them that item. For plates and glasses, tell them about the marvelous convenience of rental companies. My MIL uses rented dishes when she entertains, and they don't even have to be washed when you return them. You just rinse and put them back into the boxes.

I had friends like that. They would ask to borrow something and I would either not get it back or not the way I lent it out. So I just started saying maybe some other time or naw I need it for this or that and they started backing off about asking to borrow stuff. You could always try that with your neighbors. You could also just loan them crappy stuf and maybe that would get them to stop asking. Good luck.

I guess love thy neighbour,love thy yourself...however this saying doesnt go in the present modern day world today because evrybody is trying to seize the opportunity to be the best..nobody wants to be the poor lamer,,,evrybody wants to become rich by beg,borrow,steal..

I don't mind lending my stuff so long as it is returned in the same shape as I lent it in. I have a few neighbors like this, but we're all friends now, and if ever I need something, I know I can go to their place and borrow it. It works both ways here.

If they return them in the same condition or better I personally would not worry about it. If you do not like them borrowing tell them that you need it for something or say someone lika maby your parents or someone gave it too you as a gift and they would be upset if it got broke. You could also tell them it broke if you do not plan to use it for a while. Then if you use it again tell them you got it fixed if they see you.

Seriously,you need to have a talk with them. If you don't and this continues, you might just lose all of your stuff. You have rights and just because they are your neighbors doesn't mean they can always borrow your stuff. Seriously, i wouldn't take it. they might just be the type that go over the limit and misunderstand your hospitality

I made a large "happy shopper" sign and put it on my front door when I had a flat and a neighbour who half lived from my cupboards. She was very put out but didn't ask to "borrow" anything else, never returned anything either. Luckily since I movedinto my bungalow my neighbours rarely borrow from me.

I would probably start asking the neighbors for favors. Once they see that it takes help from both sides of the fence, to be true neighbors they would tone it down a bit.

Be frank with them. Don't beat around the bush but be nice and tell them that enough is enough.

Habitual borrowers are a pain, for sure. I would just say nicely, "Hey, come on, you guys have been here X amount of time, and you are not settled in yet"? Let them borrow one more thing, with the provision that you are going to have to curtail the borrowing because when you go to use something it is gone...and at their house. Whatever you lend that last time, with that provision, assume you will never see it again! Maybe they just want to keep you in their lives, so they borrow things to have an excuse to talk to you and socialize?

just try to tell them that i also lakes this it may be good idea try to make this.they will feel u donot want to give them.and stops doing that

Be straight up and tell them how you feel, theres no other way