License to Rape

No matter how we look at it, it's truly inhuman, nothing else. Maybe the elders of the community don't see it that way because of the social conventions dictated by the society. It's hard to believe that that thinking still exists today but it does which is very unfortunate.

In different cultures around the world,the belief system is so far away from our own beliefs that we look on and wonder what the people are thinking of. I do not understand how people can condone such actions,but sometimes the logic in their decision is based on thousands of years of beliefs.That does not mean I agree with them though,just that it is a different system then we are brought up with.

ya it happens n it herts too but cant do ant it anything i think every rapist sud be killed

When the thing happen, it can't be help. Actually it's hard for us to give opinion about this since my community here exactly will do the same thing, consider as a punishment and to force that rapist take the responsibility. That is why, here it is hard to decide the right punishment for them. By law it just go to jail, and surely while free time in the jail, he will think for another victim...From the victim view i do think that it is unfair and surely unfair for them being raped too. For girls out there, always keep in mind, there is no safe enough place to nothing need to worry about even your own room. Well outside is another story..

It's absolutely absurd! How can they force the girl to marry a criminal? They should have brought the rapist to court and hope for him to be sentenced for the crime he had done. It is just plain stupid to let the victim marry her rapist. What kind of life will she have with a criminal husband? Besides, it doesn't justify the crime being done.

I truly agree with you mansha. This is really the most inhuman decision. From the poor community point of view, this is perhaps a good punishment for the rapist, but this is only their point of view, you won't know what the rapist will think about it. Since the rapist are forced to marry the girl he raped, i don't think the rapist will give the girl a thoughtful marriage and who can guarantee that the rapist will not go after another victim after he married. If he really go for another victim, is it he has to marry that victim again, and who knows how many times he'll repeat his cruel intention and only need to marry that girl to escape the punishment.. my thought is the authorities should really think of a effective way to punish those rapist, by putting them to jail is just too kind to them..

well, i totally agree with you that it is the most inhuman decision... the girl is already suffer enough by being raped and it won't be easy for her to forget or erase that memory... now she is forced to marry the rapist as well and spend the rest of her life with him... i can't imagine that... it is a gain for the rapist but loss for the girl... why don't they send the rapist into jail??? and it is not true that nobody will want to marry her because she had been raped before... somebody will if he does really love her...

I know there are lots of places specially in villages where these type of things happen and I think the government should take some seediest steps to stop these times. I don't know why people do such things and also the government is so irresponsible there are so many decisions taken by the government which has no meaning sometimes they ban certain things and then also they take taxis from them. When, if you think that drinking is bad and why tool you take taxis from it you should have banned the thing at the very moment this is the dual nature of the government and there is no one to question them

I think not only should the rapist go to prison, but the parents also

Seeing that you are from India my question is this: Is that the way your government....well, your society I should say works in the country? As Americans our responses may be different than those of the Indian Culture. In my point of view it's disgusting and rather his be married to his victim he should be castrized. Alright, maybe not that bizzare, but he should definitely receive some type of penalty for his crime. In the State (well in Michigan at least) a man who rapes a child can receive several years in prison depending on which offense it is and how old the child/minor was.

I use to work with someone who had this happen to her. She is in her 50's and Native American. When she was a teen she was raped and became pregnant. Her parents and His parents made them marry each other. She did not want to marry him but she did. She was in a abusive relationship for years,he cheated on her as verbally abusive to her. He abused her even when she was pregnant. Years later she finally got a divorce. I hate that this happened to her. I asked her why did she marry him,she said that her parents were ashamed of her getting pregnant. She said they was doing what they thought was right. She started to get very upset and she started crying at work,so I changed the subject, I did not tell her was I was really thinking,sometimes it's best to keep your honest opinion to yourself. I just told her that I'm glad she is not with him anymore.

I think that's awful that they not only in essence blame the girl but are punishing her too. It's very sad, and very inhumane. That falls under the lines of cruel and unusual.

I think those who make such decision have a perversed mind. Invariably, if anyone wants to marry in that community, only what one needs to do is to rape the lady. Onece the lady is raped, it a sure banker for the man to marry ythe lady then. All those who made such decision and those that supported them should be jailed.

Yes, I agree with you, and that kind of thing is happening in my country too. I don't think the girl should marry her rapist. She must have hurted her feeling very badly now, because she must marry the man who raped him. I think that the girl hate her rapist, so why do her parents forced her to marry someone that she hate? She'll be suffered. I think you should meet the girl and ask her about her opinion about this, because marriage is a big decision of life.

Yes this is crazy! Let's hope at least he was her boyfriend and she still likes him after all that... but even then it's doubtfull.. But if he was not her boyfriend.. why that's pretty much certafiable isn't it? (In that those people should be committed for being crazy!)

Indeed, this is an unfair decision to the women. Are you from India? I heard that in your country, they give more importance to males so I guess that is the reason why the elders in your community think it is a just decision.

Hmmm, this is really a serious matter. But i think they should forget the past and look for the good future.

All of us feel shocked by what you have brought up. There are worse alternartives practised by some village communities. The rapist is asked to pay a fine by committee of village elders to the girls's family and the whole thing is forgotten. The girl may marry a who does not mind. Is that better? I dont know.

this story has shocked me its disgusting and i cant believe other people are agreeing that they should be married. What should actually happen because he raped her they should should the thing he couldnt control with which he raped her with. I dont agree at all with the marriage he should also be locked up and never see the light of day ever in his life again.

Yes I agree ,this is one of the most inhuman decisions i've come across..but the point is nothing can be done about it untill the person who suffers dosen't raise his/her voice.Because a person who suffers injustice in silence is equally as guilty as the person inflicting it .