Would You Marry someone OLDER then You?

@abhax123 (1695)
India
January 27, 2007 8:33am CST
One of my friend is in love with a girl who is five year older then him. They both love each other too much and have told there family that they are going to get married. The girls family has no objection but my friends family is against it. They are not allowing him to marry her, but he says he will marry her only. Talking with his family are in progress. But what would you have done? Would you marry a girl/boy older then you???? sp. girl.. i dont have any objection in marrying someone older then me... and YOU?
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@Lecaro (1100)
• Romania
27 Jan 07
my boyfriendis 6 years older than me! but that isn't a problem for us,,, and this isn't a problem for our famulies! his family loves me and my family likes him very much... so if we will get good in the future we will get married... first i need to finish my university :D i have 1 year and a half of it :D
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
27 Jan 07
Gr8 thank you
• United States
28 Jan 07
My ex-fiance is 8 years older then I and the age was nothing. To be honest with you in the begining he treated me better then any of the men my age ever had. I see nothing wrong with an age gap as long as you are both responsible adults. However I do feel that it is inappropriate, for example, for an 18 year old to be with a 12 year.
• India
27 Jan 07
Age does not matter in love or marriage. if both understands each other, share opinions and love each other age should not be a barrier.
• United States
27 Jan 07
i dont worry abt age in relationships. most people in my family are with someone older. my sisters husband is 22 yrs older thn she but thy r extremly happy. ive never seen her so happy.my love is 7 yrs older than me and my dad is 11 yrs older thn my mom. so it dnt bother me.
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@mishang (498)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
i don't see any problem if i have to marry some one that is older than me as long as i am going to marry the person that i love and i am willing to share the rest of my life with. if i'm really compatible with an older guy, then i see no problem and if i am also at the right age and already prepared for a marriage to occur, then why not.
@abhax123 (1695)
• India
28 Jan 07
Gr8
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
Age doesn't matter when it comes to whom your heart truly beats for. As long as the both of you are sincere with each others feelings & responsible enough for your actions, then go for it.
• United States
28 Jan 07
Yes I would marry someone older than me, I dont think age matters too much when your older , it just matters how you feel. I believe everyone should be aboe to follow their heart and not let anything like age get in the way of how they feel.
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
29 Jan 07
Thats the spirit
@Aali311 (6112)
• United States
27 Jan 07
My husband is almost six years older than me, if I was older than him I don't think there would be a problem at all. Age is just a number it has nothing to do with two people loving each other. My mother is about seven years older than her husband and no one seems to mind or even notices. I have no objection at all, in fact I did it.
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
28 Jan 07
Here the problem is that the girl is older then Boy
@Aexcomp (121)
• Romania
27 Jan 07
Yes but not way older than me...maybe with 3 or 4 years older than me.
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@Aexcomp (121)
• Romania
27 Jan 07
sry i posted twice...it was a mistake :D
@mom_of_3 (22)
• Japan
28 Jan 07
yes i would, by boyfriend is 15 years yonger and the love of my life. i am afraid his parents wont accept it. he says they will ......but still hasent told them my age and we have been dateing for a year, he says no need to tell them unless they ask because it doesnt matter to him....i dunno
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• United States
28 Jan 07
You didn't say how old these people are. I mean is he like 17 or 27? It makes a difference in maturity. I see nothing wrong with this. I am 6 years older than my husband. When I was dating, I dated men who were 14 years older, 10 years younger, and around my age -- age does not always have to be the deciding factor.
@abhax123 (1695)
• India
28 Jan 07
Well thats whats i mean age is not the only deciding factor
• India
28 Jan 07
what is the meaning of age gap between two. our parents fear that there would be differences ranging from views n social future. that's why they oppose this kind of marriage. also our society behave somewhat negative towards it. now the case arises here that can you marry a girl older than my age. not giving my answer in yes or no i would first draw your attention that the steps that leads us to a love marriage is knowing each other----discovering each other--love budding--caring n loving--- life compatibility... and after that comes a thought of marriage. so if one travels so long with a gal it means he has accepted every pro and con of the relationship. that the way it is. if i love any girl then there would be ni issue regarding age from my side.
@abhax123 (1695)
• India
28 Jan 07
Thats whats matter most if you love someone age dun matter but hey we also love our parents so is it right to hurt there feeling for our selfishness is it? how can we hurt our parents feeling they have taught us everything make us what we are today and we can just ran over there feeling taking for granted that they will understand..... HOW?
@ppmblist (114)
• China
28 Jan 07
usually people think a man is older than a girl ,that is normal,but a girl/woman older than a man ,that is a little strange. But I think to two person ,love is more important,if you really love her deeply ,then age is so important than love or other`s words?
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• United States
27 Jan 07
Age doesn't matter, but it is a different story if they are not both concenting adults. They are above 18? Right? If they are then as long as they are compatable then that is fine. Someone 5 years older than you is not totally out of your age range. Now dating someone 15 to 20 years older is something different as well, because you may not have much in common. Anyways,.... good luck to your friend and his fiance'
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
28 Jan 07
Thank you soo much
• India
28 Jan 07
it is very easy to fall in love with someone but the most difficult task is to continue with the relationship, so if someone really loves u do respect him/her and be with him in every situation of of life be it whatever, pls take care of ur partner
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@abhax123 (1695)
• India
28 Jan 07
Its not for mee its my friend
@Aexcomp (121)
• Romania
27 Jan 07
Yes but not way older than me...maybe with 3 or 4 years older than me. Younger is always the option.
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@kareng (62072)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I don't see a problem with this case. I can see how a concern would arise if it was like a 15-20 year gap but not like this. They are both adults and should know what they want. The parents should back out.
@sayuri001 (130)
• Japan
27 Jan 07
yes, i would marry someone older than me not considering our age gap. and if i really love the person i'll prove to everybody that no matter how people try to get in between us nobody can stop us, our love.
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@shaz6611 (951)
• Australia
27 Jan 07
5 years is nothing. My grandparents who were married in 1937 were 7 years apart and my grandma was the oldest. If 2 people are in love the age difference is very insignificant
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@tonnison (47)
• Nigeria
27 Jan 07
i dont see any offence in marrying a girl older me,it only bad when i dont love the the person,because with love we can move mountain
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@anex84 (465)
• Bulgaria
27 Jan 07
If you truly love her, then age wouldnt matter . And as for your friends, they can "recommend" all they want because they are probably jealous. I would marry for love and not for age, or my friends opionion. Besides how good are friends who are so judgemental about who you love?