Children - To have or not to have, that is the question.

I personally am glad to see most people think it's the individual couples choice. I see a few saying no and a few saying you must have kids. I myself would like to remain childfree if I ever get married. The way things are going I doubt that will ever happen so I won't have to worry about it.

I personally love kids but as long as their not mine. I don't have any. I'm only 19 my fiance wants kids but i personally don't. I want to live my life with out any worries besides my family, me, and my fiance. I just can't picture myself with a child. I'm sure i will change my mind later on though.

I am also in the view that it all depends on parents to have a child in any way they want. But I think I will prefer my own child in future instead of adopting.

children can take many happiness to their parents, on the other hand, their parent must spend time, money and other thing on them. so my opininion is, many people will want to have children, but for some reason they can't have children: no money, no time to born child or other reason.

I always said that I didn't want kids. Now I have 4 beautiful sons and I don't know what I would do without them. People don't know what they are missing. Kids are hard work but they are so worth it. I know alot of people who are married and don't have kids. Most of them Can not have kids for medical reasons. A friend of mine always said no kids but then she had a son. He is 10 years old. She says that she is glad that she had a baby but she will have no more. What I can't stand is people who have kids and dumped them in garbage cans or in the street right after they are born. I also hate people who have kids and abuse them. If you don't want them give them up for adoption when they are born or just be careful.

Having children means committing at least 18 years of your life to raising that child and a lifetime of worrying about that child. It also means that the other person will be in your life forever, regardless of your relationship with them, because they are part of that child. If after considering these facts, you still want children, then you should have them. I think it's more acceptable now not to have children (I have many friends that don't and won't), even if you're married. Having a child is a big decision (although some people don't put the thought into that they should) and a decision that can only be made by the two people involved.

I don't think you have to have children. In fact there are unfortunately a great many people who should not have children because they are not fit to have them. I think it's something that too many people do without giving it any serious thought at all. I don't assume that there's something wrong with married people who don't have children - I know quite a lot of couples who have consciously decided that parenthood is not for them.

I didn't get married until I was 39 so I decided not to have children this late. I never really wanted to have children anyway because I didn't think I would be a responsible parent. I suffer from depression and didn't get treatment until the last few years. That may be why I didn't feel up to the task.

When I was younger, I didn't want kids. Now tha I am older and married, my opinions have changed. Now, it is too late for me because of my age. But, I am not sorry or think that I am missing out or not worthy just because I don't have kids. They are a big responsibility and you really need the money and the time to take care of them. Some of us just can't afford to have kids. I have no regrets.

I would definitely want to have children in the near future, I definitely consider it one of my ultimate goals in life. I actually don't understand why there are people that choose not to have kids. I don't get how things work for them, I mean I don't know what goes through their mind how come they prefer not to have children. Is it because they hate kids? Or they simply would prefer not having their own? I am not sure if there's something wrong them, basically cause I don't know what their reason is why they don't want kids. But I believe they have their reason, I just don't know what.. maybe hearing from people who has that thinking (no plans of having kids) would help shed some light on us who don't understand.

I think it is a personal choice. I always wanted kids and was devestated when I was told I wouldn't get pregnant. Fortunately God had other plans and blessed me with two beautiful kids even though my pregnancies and births were hard. Now, I woul dlove to have 1 or 2 more, BUT with how hard my pregnancies were (esp my 2nd) I won't have more...I won't risk it. Some people (men and women) want to concentrate on their careers...some don't really "like" children...some don't think they could give enough of themselves to a child. All of these are good excsues not to have children. There are so many unwanted kids and mistreated kids in this world. These are born to people who don't want kids. I think that if people don't want them, then they should take precautions to NOT have them. I see nothing wrong with not wanting kids. To each his/her own. :)

me and my husband are very eager to have our own child. it is the fruit of our love. and not everyone is blessed wiht it. & that blessing is what we wanted to have. having a child is the best way we can show GOD and people how we trully love HIM and our family

I have 2 children, and yes they get on my nerves but i wudn't be without them.I respect people who choose not 2 have children as it's there choice.But just 2 say yes kids get on your nerves, yes u might not know how 2 talk 2 them , but when u have your own u both learn 2gether.No 1 hands out a book about parent hood,

My husband and I made the decision not to have kids. I am 35 years old, and have been involved with animal rescue for many years, and that keeps me very busy. There are times in my life that I have felt perhaps we made the wrong decision, and mostly I think it was because I didn't have enough going on in my life at the time. I try to do as much as I can for people who did decide to have kids and are struggling to make ends meet. I firmly believe that if you give enough of yourself, whether it is to your own children, someone else's child, animals or whatever your cause or purpose in life is, you won't regret your decisions.

I feel important to have children, I must have children to continues my blood path. for married people but don't have children looks weird for me. children can make family more happy why married if not have child? maybe you can control at when you want to have children. for me I must have.

This world already has to much people, so best we can do is give birth to less children.

I don't want any children. I don't have the patience, time, inclination or desire to have children. I don't like children all that much - I don't know how to talk to them and they get on my nerves very quickly. That life just isn't for me. I made that decision a very long time ago and I've never looked back. I don't need a child to make my life complete. That's just not for me. I have great respect for anyone who does want children and is able to have them and raise them well, but it just isn't for me. And that's okay. It's a very personal decision that I don't think anyone else has a right to weigh in on. I've had complete strangers tell me I'm a traitor to women, I'm selfish, I'm deluding myself and that I'm not a 'real' woman unless I have a child. And I can't understand that. I don't go around telling women with children that they've ruined their lives, that they're sheep or drones to social constructs or anything else derogatory and false. Why should they tell me things that are derogatory and false? Everyone wants something different out of life. And that's okay.

I have a child. I don't think this means that everyone else should. The fact that I changed my mind about wanting to have a child doesn't mean that everyone will change theirs. I've never understood the idea that everyone has to have children. Does everyone else also have to have the same type of relationship, the same career, the same hobbies? Are we all just exact copies of one another? I know plenty of people who have totally fulfilling lives without having children. I also know people who gave in to social and/or family pressures and had children they didn't want. They are miserable and their children are miserable.

I have four children and every parent will tell you there are days you try to remember when it was just you and a spouse no kids lol Some people dont want kids and that is a okay thing we are not all cut out to be parents.i think a married couple should wait 2 to 5 years before having kids that way they have time for them selves as a romantic couple. I know that I had kids in a first year and it strains a marriage it does.I love my kids and am so glad they are here with us.

The whole purpose to any life, whether it's human, insect or reptile or what ever is reproduction!!! I don't understand why someone would opt not to have a child, I feel that in a way that that's kind of selfish. I know this one couple who were married for 15 years and they never had kids, the woman always wanted them and they eventualy got a divorce when she was 39, she's now 45 and going through "the change". She really hates her x husband now and feels like her life has been a waste. I really don't understand, what's the point of getting married? If you are religious, isn't that god's plan? Isn't that the purpose of marriage? I just don't understand people like that.