best response Question

The best response is chosen but the person who originated the questions so I think they have a right to choose whoever they want. I have seen many where I don't agree and I would have chosen someone else but I didn't start the discussion. Many people are not open minded enough to realize that even if someone doesn't agree with them, htey still make a valid point and give a great answer. What bugs me more is when people give the first person the best response just because they were the first to respond. I really read all the responses to my questions and I give the best response to the person who shared the most intelligent, well thought out and interesting response whether I agree with them or not. I also usually wait a few days before giving out the best response in order to allow for more responses.

Personally I never rate anyone as having the best response. This is an opinion based site and I don't feel I can judge anyone's opinion as being "The Best". And I agree with you, it is not fair to mark the first person who agrees with you as having the best response. I have never given anyone a negative rating and don't ever plan on doing that. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, in my opinion.lol

I actually have a really hard time trying to select a the best response. I have some that are a few weeks old and I have yet to select a best response! When I look at responses, I look to see who had the most well thought out response. The most creative response when it applies to my discussion. If a response is well thought out and written, it does not matter that person does not agree with me...because if it is that well written then it would make some very valid points! As for giving people a negative rating because they do not agree with the opinions...that is just plain wrong! I think the only time a negative should be handed out is if the person did not even bother to read the discussion or gave a response that had nothing to with the discussion! And if they give on or two words answers. But I am sure that I have been giving negative ratings because some just don't like how long my responses are.

Everyone has a different way of choosing 'the best response', and one way is to choose the one that is closely aligned with the persons own opinion and thoughts. Is there something wrong with that?--no. Is it fair?--well not to those who have opposing views in a discussion, but all the same you can't force everyone to be open-minded and judge a response based on quality versus who side they have chosen. Myself, I give (+) to every response, where I can tell the person really gave it some thought and put their heart and intelligence into their shared words. It doesn't matter if their views are not aligned with my own. In the same respect, if a person tossed me a couple of words for the sake of posting, or plagiarized, or just gave me rubbish, well, they can expect a (-). I do rate everyone who comes to my discussions. I also wait at least a week-2weeks to choose a best response, unless a response really jumps out at me sooner. The response does not have to be in agreement with my own view either. I want someone to blow me away with their words, and show me that they really are passionate about what they say. If they succeed, I will choose their response. You are probably right though, that some people will give everyone that doesn't agree with them (-), which that is not fair. I say fine, you want to choose the best response as being a response closely aligned with your views--so be it. But, you shouldn't penalize well thought out responses, where a person actually took the time to share their words intelligently, by rating them with a (-). We should only reserve the (-) for those responses that are in violation of mylot rules or are pointless and frivolous. We should also use the (!) to report scammers.

Some of us take the Best Response selection seriously and others do not. I have often wished to give 2nd best response when I have had two good answers. Some will give best response to the first person too that answers the discussion. Just a shame. When there are no clear guidance from Management then we are left to do as we see fit within the brief suggestions they leave for us. Keep on doing your thing and so shall I and then over time perhaps things will improve or even out to be more fair for everyone!!

Well, some people probably do that. I'm pretty sure that there are people out there who also mark negative ratings on people just because they don't like them or don't like their avatar or whatever. Sad but true. Personally, I almost never mark someone who disagreed with me as a best response unless they really added something to the discussion to make me think differently about it. I DO however give positive ratings to ANYONE who took the time to type out a decent response to my question, whether they agree with me or not. I reserve the [-] button for one word answers, rude or hurtful posts, people who don't bother to read the question, and assorted other things that are against the guidelines here.

It is hard to say if they are giving out negatives just for disagreeing. Guidlines say they should not, but who knows. Some people say your first response is your best response as that is what keeps the discussion alive.

I know for myself choosing best response isn't always easy. I've had some where there were several good ones, some agreeing some disagreeing. It's a matter of trying to determine the best one in your opinion. For example lets say you have two really good responses, you can only give out one best response, do you give it the one that agrees or disagree with you? Both are excellent in their own right and neither is better then the other, what do you do. Many will be biased to pick the one that agrees with them. It's not that the other one wasn't just as good it's just a matter of personal choice. Best Response is a personal choice to place and feelings do come into it. Fair or not that is the way life is in just about everything, not just mylot.

I don't understand why people do that either. That's not how it was intended to be used. I usually wait a week or two to pick it. It's really hard to decide who to give it to when you have so many people giving such great advice! Anyways, I understand where you are coming from and maybe some of those that are doing this will change their ways after reading this, good job!

Some people just want to have their thoughts/opinions validated. They then give the "Best Response" tag to the response that makes them feel the best... As in the one that validates their opinion. Public forums, like mylot, are no different than a soap box if you decide to use them that way. Stand on your corner of the internet and shout... Ignore (or shout louder at) those passerby's who don't agree with your message and only acknowledge those who do...

Yes everyone does have their own opinions in different topics, as for myself I do not choose the the best response by people with the first response to my opinion as someone else could very easily have a better response and not necessarily my opinion but it could change my mind on something I am discussing as well, and so you are right it is not fair at all.

actually, i've made only on ethread (2 now) and the best response i chose was not one that i agreed with, but the one that was best explained. the person had presented ideas in a most agreeable manner, and got my vote. i may not have agreed, but still, it was a good response, and i was happy just for that. but yes, most peopl would select a best response to the first person who might agree, but they should do that only if the person has come clean with facts and not just started a rant on what they think they should feel on the topic. but that's nothing anyone can complain about. it's their best response. everyone else may as well just live with it.

Probably so missyd79. And I noticed that you yourself haven't picked a *best response* to this discussion. All I can say to that is: bravo! I would like to one day see my fruit of labors in ALOT of responses too. But not "unfair" ones as you have said.

dont mind that because in mylot we are free to share our opinions and posts and we are free also to rate their posts or discussions. so just dont mind them its up to them what rating would they rate you aslong as your serious and honest enough in posting a discussion.keep up the good work.

I've always thought it was good friends giving each other best responses... I don't care... I like to give out pluses every discussion I go to... usually the page my post is on, cause that's where I find myself, and then I always go back, and back, as I heard it's good for the cookies on the computer to do that rather than keep going forward, forward, forward.. so I end up back on the first page of the thread and plus the discussion and most of the posts on that page.. (then i go back to the list of discussions, usually "discussions my friends have started". sometimes I surf.. but always go back sooner or later, til I get to the first mylot page.. sometimes reloading them. I think giving negative ratings to someone who thinks differently than yourself, is way unkool.

I give best response to the person that clearly understands what the discussion is about. They give a quality response to the topic. I never give a negative rating to anyone for having a difference of opinion. The only time I do give negative ratings is when the response is short or one or two words. I report any response that is irrelevant to the discussion.

I do not think that is a fair way to rate peopole at all! To me it shouldn't matter if the person has a different opinion from mine, that is how the world goes around. It would be super boring if we all had the same thoughts on things.

I try to wait until I get a few responses but if I don't get very many then I decide who has the best and I only do a negative to one word answers or the ones that have nothing to do with the topic.

Well, it is fair. We're allowed to pick a response that appeals to us - for whatever reason. That means we can pick any one we want. There's not strict guidelines, it's our preference. Some men prefer women with short hair, is that fair to women with long hair that don't get the dates? That's the beauty of diversity. I have plenty of discussions that I haven't picked a best response for yet. Either because I don't think I got a response that was better than any of the others, or because I don't think the discussion has been out long enough. I have had a couple where I really like 2 responses and would liked to have picked them both. That was hard. I only give (-) to people that are giving worthless responses. If I have a response that doesn't agree with me, and is not one-word or totally rude, I give it a +. If it's rude or one-word or I don't understand what they are saying I don't rate it.

some people will take the time to read all the answers to a question, but there are also people that will just the first answer that is according to their ideas, so they expend the less amount of time for it, i take time to read all the answers and then chose the best one