Were you spanked as a kid?

Yes, that's definitely true. A swat on the bottom is much better than the child falling and hurting themselves. Some mothers really do have looks that could kill too don't they? Thanks for responding.

Thanks for your response. I certainly agree! There is a huge difference between spankings and beatings! I spank, and sometimes it leaves a slight red mark that goes away within a few minutes. Anything beyond that is not ok. I'm sorry that you went through all that as a child, but it sounds like you've had the wisdom to learn and grow from it and treat your children properly. God Bless!

LOL Thanks for sharing your story. Yeah, I remember just a couple of my spankings, one in particular I just remember because my parents both picked me up and jointly hugged me after it, which was not usual. I remember liking it, but wondering why they were being so nice to me and wondering if maybe that meant they shouldn't have spanked me. I couldn't tell you what it was I was spanked for now, but I'm sure I deserved it. I just think it's interesting that people who were spanked properly don't really remember their spankings unless it was just an unusual one. I've heard it said, and I agree, that a spanking, in a sense, purges a childs conscience. There's a sense of guilt a kid carries around when they know they've done something wrong, and if there's no punishment at all the guilt just builds and builds. But, if they're spanked for it, even at a young age they feel that in some way things have been set right and they can be happy and go on with things.

I totally agree. I'm so grateful my parents spanked me. I would have so many self control issues etc if they'd not trained me the way they did. It's so much easier to be taught it's not all about me and so many other lessons as a child, than to retrain your thinking as an adult. I'm a long ways further ahead than a lot of kids in my generation are. My parents had plenty of those sayings too... like "you want me to give you something to cry about" *Groan* But now I use it with my kids and I know why they did. LOL.

Yep, I understand exactly what you're saying. You probably remember that one experience because your were punished unfairly, that's kind of what I meant by unusual circumstances. The couple of spankings I remember were kind of like that, either I didn't deserve the spanking, or it was handled differently from the norm. I certainly believe kids keep guilt around for stuff they aren't spanked for. I could go on and on about how you can tell by the way kids act these days that they are carrying a burden of guilt that is way too heavy for them, but I won't go there. Anyway, thanks for your response!