Love marriage/Arranged marriage.

i prefer arranged marriage

Marriage is the most important decision in any person's life. In arranged marriages, the boy and girl hardly meet a couple of times before they decide to get married! Logically, people marry a particular individual because they notice certain traits in that person which are important to them; traits which they do not find in other guys/girls whom they know. In other words, we all look for certain qualities in our would-be spouse. Each of us has a secret IDEAL in our heart. Most people who enter into arranged marriages are very traditional people – they are brought up with the belief that parents know best, and are encouraged to follow all traditions dutifully without asking questions. No wonder then that so many such people, despite being in severely mismatched alliances, don’t opt for a divorce, simply because they don't wish to go against our society's traditions Another strange facet is that, on the one hand, we hear the younger generation complaining about a ‘generation gap’ (meaning that their parents see things quite differently from the way they do, and that they don’t really understand each other very well), and yet, on the other hand, when it comes to finding a spouse, the same kids have no qualms about leaving the decision-making process to their elders I also dislike the arranged marriage system because it embodies the concept of “an appropriate time for marriage”. Many girls are discouraged from pursuing higher studies or careers on the premise that their “marriageable age” will then pass off and they will find it difficult to find a good match later. Another point to ponder is that for an arranged marriage, usually only a person from the same community, caste or religion is considered. I feel this is also wrong. Who says that only a Brahmin can keep a Brahmin happy, or that only a Punjabi can keep a Punjabi happy and not a Gujarati? ----BUT---- In India, Love marriage works best ONLY if you have your parent’s blessings with you, otherwise not…. coz if things ever go wrong, you may not find parental support or sympathy that easily or lovingly. When love marriage fails, you can blame only yourself and when arranged marriage fails the parents feel responsible and try to help wholeheartedly PERHAPS THERE SHOULD BE A MIDDLE WAY..... PARENTS SHOULD INTRODUCE THEIR CHOICE AND LET THEM GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER A BIT.... AND LET THE FINAL DECISION REMAIN WITH THEIR CHILDREN happy mylot day.

Arranged marriage.Also no harm in love marriage, if find co-operative partner.