Pondering the Interview.

For what it's worth, I think you've made the right decision. When something is bothering me, I toss and turn at night too. After what little sleep I do get, I usually wake up the next morning knowing what I need to do. Sounds like you've figured out the right thing you need to do on the job? Nothing wrong with that. I think the prospective employer would be happier too if you're honest about the other position being a better "fit" for you than if you took the position you don't really want and then quit shortly thereafter. Things will work out - hang in there!!

It seemed that we have the same dilemna. I'll be going to a job interview tomorrow and I'm nervous that they might give me a sales position but I feel like it's time for me to have a job with regular office hours. And I'll be going back to school soon so I'm still unsure if I want to have a job.

I agree with you. You should really look for a job that you are mentally and physically capable to do. I don't think it would be a good idea for you to start the job that they are offering you and then leave especially when other people are involved. I'm sure you'll find something. Good luck.

I am sorry to here that you are going back at square one. Choosing a job really is nerve wracking. You will be caught between necessity and self-fulfillment. If you badly need the dime and you think you can still excel well in the job where you are half-hearted, then go for it. But if you are thinking of the type of job that you will stay for the longest time, then choose one that you will be happy in. Choose one that you love. Make sure that the job you love will also be more than enough to fit your needs. Hope you decide inteliigently. God bless!

i can sure understand your thoughts on this,because i held several jobs that totally was not for me,and i was very unhappy...Usually somewhere in the back of your mind you have a thought as to what you would really like to do as far as your career...I had always enjoyed the beauty industry,so i took some college and finally went into cosmetology which would allow me to go into several fields of the beauty industry..I decided after I finished college and went and took my finals and went to austin Tx to get my license that I would go into the field of hair styling and so thats what I do and I totally love my work,until i found my bliss I was not happy...As far as what you are thinking about ,you will have to do what you feel is right for you as I did,no one can really advise you ,so if you are not totally happy taking this job then I would not do so.You must be happy in what you are doing in your career field or you will not be your best at it....If i were you I would follow what I wanted until I got there,and when you do then that is where you will excell..good luck to you in whatever you decide..

Elusive, Taking the job that best suits your situation would actually be a good thing simply because you'll less stressed out, as far as you're own schedule is concerned, taking a job that pays more is not always a good thing. I would take the job that makes your situation easier to adjust too!

If u continue like this in other interviews, u might surely not get the better jobs...

Well it is good to learn you feel responsible for the job you do. I agree with you that you should take up something to which you can do justice,that is how you are satisfied in job so best of luck for the next job oppurtunity.

Awwwwwwwww Elusive I am so sorry but no I agree with you if it is not whay you want and asked for then it is better you just do that I do hope that you will soon find something else And you are right in that type of Job where there are People involved you are better of doing what you are doing so no one gets attached My Thoughts are with you

Sorry for this process that is putting you under stress. Am still not clear as to the particulars so am unable to tell you want I might do in a similar situation. Do know that things happen for a reason and you must follow what you feel to be right for you. Still stand with you and will now think positive about the phone call you are about to make.

Well that's a shame but only you know best what kind of a job you want and if this isn't the right one for you then it's very sensible to have thought it through and then come to the decision you have .. not everyone would think of what's best for others as well as themselves ..

What kind of job is it? Just curious. I agree if you feel from the start that it's not for you, you shouldn't take it. I interviewed once for a big-time company. I was scheduled to meet with two people back to back, but I didn't make it past the first b/c I said NO. They were shocked. What happened was in the first interview: They asked how I did in Math, particularly statistics. I told them I hated statistics and got a B-. For some reason, they still wanted to continue to interview me for a job that turned out to be mostly math based. Next, they asked about traveling... said I'd be travelling 25% of the time (or 3 months out of a year). And it wasn't the nice kind of travelling where you go to meetings and hob-nob with big important people, it was travelling with a few others to another city and driving around to car dealerships to study demographics and statistics. Um, NO thanks! So I said I wasn't interested and they couldn't believe I just ended the interview 1/2 way through. Really, if you can tell it's not for you, it's not worth it. I did take jobs to "get by", such as I worked as a secretary after college, but that was something I didn't feel guilty leaving b/c the boss knew I'd be looking for a computer job. They were happy enough to get 1.5 years of computer help from me when they were only paying me as a secretary!

Good for you! I agree, it's better to not take the job if it's not for you. And if there are people you will end up getting attached to and then having to leave it's not really fair to either of you. Plus I don't think it would look to great on a resume either if you were only there for a short time. Keep looking and I'm sure you will find the perfect job.

I don't think you are back at square one!! Look at how much you have grown to recognize what you are capable of, and not just 'taking it to take it'! You should be proud of yourself hun! You are doing the right thing by making the call. The last thing they want is to hire someone for the wrong position....by calling it also shows respect for them which they will not forget, and possibly treat you with a higher priority. Good luck!

I am so sorry for you. But you have to do what you have to do. You have to do what is best for you and your family. Whenever anyone ask me for advice, I always tell them to say their prayers and follow their heart. It sounds like you are following your heart. Good luck on the next chapter of your life, things will work out. The right job is out there waiting for you.

So sorry that you don't thk the job is for you. You have to do what you think is best for you. Keep your head up, and keep looing, something will come along.

I think at this point of your life you deserve to be able to be slightly more "picky" about the job you take! Good luck!

Congratulations, You know what you want and find fit your requirements, finding a job that you would be happy doing is one thing you need to consider so that you would stay there longer. There are a lot of job you can apply to, there is the Internet and some other sources for you to get a job. Good Luck

As tough a descision as it is, you're probably doing the best thing for all concerned. If you can already forsee problems then it's best not to start. I think you may be better off being honest with them and asking if they have something better suited to your needs. I know what you mean about being unfair to people that can become attached. I work with disabled adults and children. Mostly "Mentally Challenged". I know first hand what you mean about attatchments. Good Luck, keep us informed.

I'm so sorry you are having a hard time finding the right job. Of course, you are right to be choosy about what kinds works for your needs. We don't live to work, we work to live. You are honorable to cnsider the fact that when other people are involved, you can't just leave. I wish you the best.