Does love make you a better person?

@SignMe (1031)
India
January 28, 2007 9:31am CST
Do you think people who fall in love become better people? We commonly see in movies that a bad person becomes suddenly good when he falls in love. You saw something like that in real life?
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
28 Jan 07
Just being able to love makes you a better person. If you love yourself that makes it easier for others to like and then love you. On occasion only does a great relationship improve a wayward soul. The norm does not bear that out. Hope that this gives you an idea of what you seek!
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• United States
29 Jan 07
I agree...you have to love yourself first to be able to love others..:)+
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
Thanks for your comment. Loving ourself? I did not got what exactly you mean.
@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
I definitely think love makes us better people. I love my children and want them to be proud of me and the things I do, therefore I try harder. I don't believe bad people suddenly become good people however, I think it takes more than that.
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@SignMe (1031)
• India
28 Jan 07
Oh, thats cool. I too think bad people cant just be good once they are in love. Thanks for your comments :)
@weemam (13372)
2 Feb 07
Yes I really think it does because when you fall in love you try so hard to please the other person , So you are not thinking about just yourself xx
@SignMe (1031)
• India
3 Feb 07
Yes I agree with you. Loving somebody puts some pressure to be good for them :)
@aelyus (634)
• Romania
31 Jan 07
yes,love have opened my eyes,made me to be much better,gave me the strength to go farther,to pass over my problems,to be more confident in my powers!
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
Thats lovely. I wonder what kind of a person you were before falling in love. You really mean you changed so much after in love. Nice to hear that. Thanks for your comments :)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
PErsonally i do agree that love really changes a person to become better and i can a test to that myself. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and i guess because with that i was able to become focus on what ive wanted in my life. Everytime he appreciates me and the things i do, i also learned to appreciate myself more and the things i do. I become more inspired in reaching my goal since he has always been apart of every goal i have in life. Because of him, i learned to love my life more and realized my potential as a person.
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
Wow...that is so good of you. Wish your love life continues like that. As you said people in love have to be focussed on their partner, that makes them a better person on time. Thanks :)
@cabergren (1181)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I don't think that love makes you a better person. I know people who are in love and still aren't that nice of people. It just depends on the person, some people are just not nice.
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
Hay you are one person, who said it fair and square. Thanks. "Love is not necessarily a reason for changes in person, but it all depends on the individual", thats what you said right? Thanks :)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I think it is God's love that makes you a better person...knowing that no matter what..the is One who will always love you ...thats what makes a person good:)+
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
You are right. People having love for good feel better and that makes them better :)
@brokentia (10389)
• United States
28 Jan 07
I think love can change a person for the better. I have seen people that were just womanizers that would cat call any pretty woman and try his best to get with her. But when he finally met the person he wanted to be with...it stopped. Because he found what he was looking for. Because he realizes there is something else to a woman besides her body. I think in that way, yes, people do become better people because it makes the person stop and see people for who they really are and gives the person a sense of compassion that they may have been lacking before.
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
Thanks for your comments. You very well narrated the real life scenario, how love can in a better way. :)
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
31 Jan 07
I don't tend to believe HollyWood and love. In the real world love has so many meanings and levels it's hard to figure it all out, but I think that people are still who they are and make choices. If falling in love makes them better it is because they chose to be better or they choose to stop the activities that made them look bad, but at any time that can change with a thought. So I would say love can make us fake it pretty good for a time.
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
Thanks for your opinion, yes, you are right, the real life love is not same as one we see in movie.
28 Jan 07
i think it is different in different circumstances. for example, i a better when i am in love as it gives me a purpose to get up in the mornings and i find i am very happy. however in some relationships people become violent and therefore love is a very bad thing for them
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
Thanks for your comments. You mean to say, love could be sad at some times. Would appreciate if you could elaborate little bit on that :)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I think generally, yes. Love is chemical and can control the mind. I am very much in love, and it makes me feel great. I am generally a nicer person because of this. I don't think you could take a serial killer, and turn them into a saint with love, though.
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
Interesting definition, " Love is chemical", thanks. But you are very well said, the hardcore criminals cant be just made better overnight :)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
i dnt see it on someone else but i had experience it...love change me and made me a good person...perhaps because when u love someone else u learn how to sacrifice on how u going to take care of ur love one
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
Wow, nice to hear that. You experienced it yourself, nice for sharing that. :)
31 Jan 07
I think that is just something invented by the movies to make life seem more romantic and wonderful than it actually is. I dont' think you can change a personality, but people are more likely to be in a good mood if they are in love.
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
Oh yes, you are right. Its bit exaggerated bit in movies as usually they do for all. In reall life it wont be just like that. Thanks :)
• Israel
31 Jan 07
i think so...coz ur in love it brings out the best in you....
@SignMe (1031)
• India
31 Jan 07
Hay what if the best of a person is worst? I mean if you love, say some terrorist like Osama Bin Laden etc his best is destroying all his so called enimies. Thats the last thing we want. I hope you did not meant that, just kidding :)
• Pakistan
28 Jan 07
yes...it happens....love totally changes a person...it makes a person polite, more caring, more sensitive, more at heart for others...
@SignMe (1031)
• India
29 Jan 07
Thank you :)
@AskAlly (3625)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
Love makes all the difference. Once any person has a loving support system it will make big changes in their lives.
@SignMe (1031)
• India
28 Jan 07
Thanks, "Love support makes lot of changes in life" - a nice addition.
@ashjoe76 (1422)
• India
28 Jan 07
Depends on what our idea of love is. LOve in general, to the entire world we live in makes us better people. But love for specific people can have both positive and negative effects on us. The moment we claim we love a person, we tend to be possessive and become susceptible to more hurt. Some people say that it's all part of life, to be loved, to be hurt, and to survive the upas and downs. All such personal love are necessarily selfish, but if we look at life, all our deeds are selfish in one way or the other. So, we have a choice, finally, to make ourselves better through all kinds of love, if we know how to channelise it.
@SignMe (1031)
• India
29 Jan 07
Fabulous stuff from you, thanks. "Loving someone and be very possessive can be a very selfish thing at times". Hmmm... I think loving everybody could be a better solution :)
@anex84 (465)
• Bulgaria
28 Jan 07
I believe so. When you love someone, you want to be better for them. You want more than anything to see them smile or to hear them laugh, and if that means changing yourself for the better, then why not?
@SignMe (1031)
• India
28 Jan 07
Thats quite intelligent thinking, you mean to say, if someone loves someone, he tries to be a better person. Thanks :)
@rlshaw (871)
• United States
28 Jan 07
I'm not sure if love makes you a better person, But it does change you.. It makes you care more about other people then just yourself and thats a good thing..So I guess that makes people better.. BUt you can fall in love with the wrong person and can change you for the worse if they pull you into the wrong life style.
@SignMe (1031)
• India
28 Jan 07
Oh yes, people who love a wrong person may end up with sad consequences. Thanx :)
• India
28 Jan 07
Yes i think that love makes you a btter person becas love is a gift of god so if you fall in love then you r near to god so it is better to be near to god.
@SignMe (1031)
• India
28 Jan 07
Good, "love takes you to near god" - thats nice idea. Thanks