What Would You Do?

Ultimately, your child, your choice. If you closely monitor what your son is doing on Myspace, I give you a lot of credit, lisa. Not all parents check (and, actually, a lot don't even know HOW to check). Myspace is not just for kids or teens... its stated demographic is 13+ so that's 13 all the way through adulthood. People of all ages, all walks of life and with many different purposes (business and personal) use the site. If you approve of what your son has on his profile, then he knows he's not doing anything wrong. He has the option to make his profile private, giving access only to those he chooses to add, if he is personally bothered by someone's comments. If nothing else, it'll keep out the nosy relatives LOL I would have gotten on the phone with the family member myself and told her, very directly, "Thank you for your concern but I supervise my son's internet use and I am entirely aware of what he displays on Myspace." End of story. People have too much time on their hands, I swear.

It's none of that person's business to insult your kid. She should have talked to you about it in a mature way. Does your son have degrading stuff on his page? You should be more careful at what he does on there because these days there are a lot of guys that go after teens on the internet. If he's not doing anything you would'nt want him to do, you have nothing to worry about, and who cares what anyone else thinks or says.

I really wouldn't worried about what that person thinks. If think is it ok then thats all that matters some people really just don't have anything better to do or just want to stur up troblle. There will always be that person who disagree with you Im sure there is nothing wrong with the picture anyway. Some people are old fashioned also so that might have something to do with it also :) Have a great day

caution your child of the probable misuce of his profle and photo

You are the parent here not that other person I dont think its any of her buisness.

It's not like he's ruining someone's life by impregnating anothe girl. It's just something she saw on myspace.

Well in my opinion, if you are okay with what he has on there then don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. He's your kid. ;) I think it's rude for her to call you up like that. You should tell her to mind her on buisness lol. I think i's great you all who keep up with your kids on there. It's good to have close relatioships with you kids. My mom has alway been that way with me.

Well I think you should tell her to bother her own life. You're just feel guilty of what happened to your son because you allowed him to but I don't see any problem with that. Never mind about the insult it wouldn't go a long way just ignore it and later she would just feel that she was just throwing a stone to no one if nobody catched her attention.

I suppose that the best course of action in this case is to simply laugh it off and ignore ignorance. :)

I have run into this on several occasions. Quite honestly I tell them to mind thier own business. I monitor my son's online activities continually just as I do his activities in his day to day dealings with other people and friends, we have a good relationship and its not anyone elses business how I raise him other than his older brothers and father.

I would thank her for her concern but advise her to come to YOU in the future. She has no right to berate or belittle your son for his choices. You are his parent, not her. A few months ago, I was viewing the myspace pages of my sister's kids. I saw a lot of 4-letter words and some questionable content, but I know that she has a different parenting style than I do and is more permissive. I only called her when I discovered pics of one of my young nieces in a bikini, covered in bubbles on her myspace page. My sister quickly had her niece delete them. I tried to make sure my niece understood that I was worried about online predators and not trying to invade her privacy. She deleted me as a friend and it took several months for her to add me back. I would do the same thing again if someone I loved was in danger. Both of my kids have myspace pages that I review daily. They are also private, so they can only be viewed by their friends.

I think the best thing to do is to just ignore since everything's already been done. There is no sense in arguing with the lady or asking your son to change his myspace. Kids are going to be kids so this person who is giving you a hard time should act like an adult and leave the child alone.

Tell this woman the same thing you would tell your son if he wanted to do something that you didn't want him too. I call it the "Jumping off a brigde" analogy... and it goes like this My kid comes and tells me he wants to do something. I say no. He says "billy's mom is letting him do it" I say " If Billy's mom let him jump off a bridge, would you want to do that too?? I'm not Billy's mother and I can't control what she lets him do, I am however, your mother, and I'm telling you no." I've used this with other parents before.. they tell me that they don't like the amount of freedom that I allow my children to have. so I tell them... " I'm his mother, and if I feel that he is responsible, well behaved and honest, then I see no problem allowing him the freedom that he wants. I'm not your son's mother.. be glad for that." They usually shut up about it.

Well i've seen a simular thing happen on a site i run. A "moderator" personally attacked a member who posted images of gothy/cartoon images. abit like sussie darkside (he took this to open a treat and totally went metal) personally i think these are pathectic. you get some people like these who love to gate crash things, i hope your son hasn't been put of by this. Kind regards, ~Joey

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