Cheating Spouses/Boyfriends/Girlfriends

Cheating on your better half is simply wrong. Its unethical in my opinion. Why love a person and then betray. Its better to try not to get attracted to another person and make the best of your present relationship always try to develop it and make it better. That way you wouldnt need to have affairs with anobody else. On a personal note i've never cheated my girlfriend nor she has cheated on me. And i do have the capacity to forgive but no forget. My girl has probably similar thoughts about this matter. If you want to have affairs, never get into a relationship and date multiple people. Stick to one or have one night stands ;-)

Out of the list of relationship acategories youlisted, only sposes can actually be considered cheating. IF a boyfriend and girlfriend are agreeing to see only each other then the should be considered fiancees or something equally as exacting. Each person must decide for themselves how to handle things. I am the type that would renegotiate the relationship and remove the requirement of monogamy for both parties with the caveat that there not be any pregnancies with those who are outside of the marriage. It is more important to me that the life that has been built together so far, not ber destroyed by romantic notions that are not sustainable in reality. So I definitely would not ignore the event but I would arrange things tomake it a non-issue so that I could remain comfortable with the life I have.

Cheating is wrong in any way shape or form - totally unacceptable in my opinion!!!! I would never take anyone back who cheated on me - it's like if they have done it once more than likely they are going to do it again - especially if they know you will take them back - you are just setting yourself up for another heartbreak!!!! Cheaters are nothing more than a form of losers!!!

The 4th time? Wow - that's really sad. He must be a smooth talker. why does she feel the need to stick around while he basically disrespects her?

i havnt had any cheating bfz in my life thank god!! its a total disaster.....emotionally ...and physically!! physically bcoz i knw...i ll totally rip that gup apart....lol!! but seriously speaking....y does any1 have to cheat on their partner?? if they arent happy cant they just ed the relationship?? how would they feel when your partner cheated on u??!!

If it were my husband, I would give him one chance. I've been cheated on many times by boyfriends. It hurts and I learned that if they do it once it happens agian. I can't put myself through it over and over again. I think I deserve better than that. If I had kids with him and he cheated, I think I would leave the first time. I don't want my kids to think that it's okay and if I stay I think it would show them that it is. I would try to work it out and give him one more chance but untill it is worked out, he would not stay with me and the kids.

How does that saying go? If you do it once, shame on you, if you do it twice, shame on me. Come on now, for the fourth time. Not acceptable. He is apparently not in a relationship in his mind so what good does it do her to be there. All she is doing is wasting her time away. If she has never cheated on him then that is pretty silly for her to think there is ever a chance for them to be a strong couple. And lets face it, in this day and age we need all the strength and trust we can get just to survive in a relationship, much less to be happy everyday.

Does your friend feel she can't find someone else because she has a kid? Has her man killed her self esteem? Tell her to move on and find someone who really does love her and will be faithful. I might forgive once but never forget and if it happened again I'd probably hurt him. Don't keep your mouth shut anymore, build your friend up and let her know she deserves better and being cheated on is not being loved it's degrading and if her kid grows up seeing her put up with it they will most likely follow suit.

Personally, cheating is the one thing that I would not ever forgive. I would refuse to even try. I feel that if a relationship is in trouble or things are going wrong the couple needs to communicate and talk about it, trying to come to a resolution. If my partner were to go outside of the relationship for whatever reason, I would take that as a total lack of respect and committment. Your friend needs to wake up and take control of her life. Forgiving once is understandable if she was so inclined to believe in him, but come on. 4 times makes it obvious that he is scum. Of course it is up to her, but if she asks for your opinion, be honest with her. Ending a relationship is always difficult, especially when children are involved. The only thing that is more difficult is living with the lies and deceit that go along with a cheater. Not to mention the risks of STD's and HIV.

I don't tolerate lying in a relationship. How can I want to be with somebody when I don't even know who they really are? So no, I wouldn't take somebody back if they cheated on me. (My partner and I have an open relationship, but I look at lying as being the same as cheating.)

i wil forgive her 1 time but not the second time

I dont think cheating is a good affair. If someone do it, he can do it again and again. Cheating become the habit. Forgiveness depends on closeness. You can forgive one time only because maybe he cheated falsely. Don't bear the cheater second time. It harm you and maybe others close to you.

i would not tolerate even slight bit of dishonesty. nor would i ever forgive him. the first thing i would do would be to stop cooking for him adn doing anything for him, buy tickets and go to his parents place...... not my moms!