get to know someone first?

I always try to get to know them first. Well, if you only know about good things about them and go to a relationship with them, it will be great at first, but once you know about bad things about them, you started to feel dissapointed and the relationship fail in a short time. If I actually know about their bad things and still love them and still wanting to be with them, then its good and it might succeed. You know, everything cause by diffrences. Boys and girls always diffrent, people cannot be the same and when that diffrences is accepted by each other and trust is thre, then the relationship would succeed.

Well..... It is important that one does get to know the other person before plunging into the relationship. You need to talk and hang out together, while you get to know them nice and proper. Just because some is god-looking you cannot hope that person to be good too!! There are not so great looking people out there, who happen to be gem of a person, someone whom you'd treasure. So, these to qualities actually do not go hand in hand with looks!!

My husband and I became friends before we ever started to date. I knew him for almost 6 months before we had our first kiss. We dated for 1 1/2 years and then were engaged for 6 months. We are happily married, and have been for the last 4 years. We never lived together before we got married, as we are christians. I think it is imperative to spend time together as friends, and to have similar likes and priorities, and you can't learn those things about people in the bedroom.

It really depends on the situation. If you REALLY like the person, grab the opportunity right on, so to speak. It's okay. Before any relationship, there is a trial and error thing. For a lot of people, though, getting to know the person first is better. In my case, I am not in a hurry to find anyone, and I have not really experienced REALLY liking someone at first sight, so I would prefer getting to know the other person first. You have to note that people tend to put their best foot forward first, then later you realize their true colors. Not so good, right?

Hi monkeynuts, I certainly like to get to know people before I decide whether I want to go out with them or not, but even then you don't really know the person, but lets face it you could be with someone for 30 years and still not truly know them. I'm certain this is a big attribute to why marriages fail, that and because people don't work hard enough at their marriages anymore, the first bad patch and the're out of there and of course the grass is always greener on the other side..

i prefer to know the person first, i think if there are a good way for a relationship, this can come automatically if you find some similar interest, but i know if dosen't start and you have start just a friendship, it's dangerous for friendship if you try to tranform this in relationship, i followed this way and luky for me i find a really good relationship near at marriage now :D

Definately get to know them some. You may end up not wanting a relationship with them. You need to see if you have a connection. Otherwise you may end up wasting or time or getting your heart broken.