Not invited to my Uncles wedding?
@linzmcwilliams (1552)
January 29, 2007 2:58pm CST
My Uncle was married for the second time a few months ago. My grandparents, uncles, aunties and cousins all live in Scotland but my close family live in the North of England. My parents were both invited to the wedding but my Brother and I were not. I am seventeen and he is fourteen and we are told that it is because my Uncles new wife does not life children. She's a pretty awful woman but i've never done anything to upset her and i don't let my feelings about her get in the way. I just thought my Uncle would have stood up for us and invited us. We are both responsible teenagers, well behaved and would have loved the chance to visit our Grandparents and see the whole family. My question now is would it be spiteful to leave my Uncle and his new wifes names off my wedding list? Of course i won't be getting married anytime soon but i just wanted to hear other people's opinions on the whole thing. Oh, and it would have meant a lot to my Grandparents if we were invited.
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@skyblade (482)
• United States
29 Jan 07
It is HIS wedding so he has the right to invite who he wants to invite, or not invite. I think to not invite your uncle to your wedding would be spiteful if you are just doing so to "get back" at him.
With that, I would also talk to your uncle about your feelings (probably after the wedding/honeymoon, etc as he should enjoy his wedding). I find that a lot can be cleared up if people just said how they feel.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
29 Jan 07
Many, many wedding do not allow children under the age of 18 to attend. If this wasn't stated on the invite, he should have called and told you this himself. For all you know, whomever told you it was because she doesn't like kids could be lying to you. I would talk to them both and let them know how you felt left out. If you are close to them when you get married, you should invite them.
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@rathish (284)
• India
30 Jan 07
Don't worry williams. What i say is that better to leave of their names from you marriarge invitation, if the marriage if all of by yourself i mean it's expenses taken by you, if it's not done my you i mean by your parents then it will be according to their wish, and they had called your parents right, your parents have the right to call them to your marriage , and it's wholy your wish whether to call them or not.
@elavarashan (56)
• India
30 Jan 07
Hey dont worry i will marry you and will go for a grant indian marriage? Are you interested???
@prasanta (1948)
• India
30 Jan 07
Hi,
I am an Indian. I have very less knowledge about your social system. Still, I feel -- do good to them. You will invite them. If they come, behave well. That may teach them a lesson. If they do not come, what's the problem? Many other people will come to grace the occasion. Your uncle has not done any harm to you, just he has not invited you to his marriage, and you know the cause behind that. So, why to blame him? Just feel pity for him. Aren't you understanding he is going to marry a wrong person -- who has psychological problem? Forgive him and send him a good e-mail wishing all the best.
God will make you happy, who is he to make you unhappy?
@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
That is bad. It is a shame that just because his soon to be wife doesn't like children, that he would exclude like that. I would definitely want to find out why...at some point. I understand your feelings..and if you wanted to exclude him from your wedding that would be totally understandable. However...you want to try and be a bigger person...and don't do it out of anger. However...you may change your mind before that day comes anyway. Do talk to him and make it known how you feel..and that what he did wasn't right...It is too bad he is marrying someone who obviously is insensitive and uncaring...
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
30 Jan 07
Well sometimes i think people would like to be low profile yea .... i guess after all it is your uncle wedding , he and his wife should decide who to attend the wedding yea .... if you are not invited just simply message him All the best to you marriage , i think that enough yea ...
@zuri25 (2125)
• United States
30 Jan 07
That's a pretty crappy situation for you. I bet your uncle really did want to invite you and your brother along with any other young person that didn't make the guest list. Give your uncle a break though, part of relationships (and especially marriages) is give and take. He probably agreed to keep the wedding kid-free just to keep the peace between him and his bride to be. Weddings are traditionally "the bride's day" so he was simply giving her what she wanted. As for your wedding, well, alot can happen between now and then. It's possible that you and your new aunt will find some common ground and become friends. It's also possible that she will continue to hold these ill feelings toward kids/teens and will opt not to go to your wedding if you choose to invite them. I suggest you continue to treat your aunt with respect and not let her attitude deter you from trying to show her that all kids/teens are not troublemakers.
@ritak3 (52)
• India
30 Jan 07
i can understand your situation. your uncle dint invite you for his second wedding it was only because his new wife dint want. But you should not be the same person. I feel that as they are elder to you you should always respect them as you have been always. so please invite them. i am sure when you invite them for your wedding they will for sure give it a thought that they never bothered to call you guys for their wedding and inspite of all that happened you still respect them like a good girl and inviting them. so main thing here is you should be yourself. i can understand your feelings as i have gone through somewhat same situation. take care :)
@smily_skull (133)
• Egypt
30 Jan 07
The wedding and the family cermonies are a good chances to meet the whole family members and sharing life experiences and feeling the worm of the family,so your uncle should invite you but anyway i think you don't have to take this thing in a way that make you sad,may be there are other reasons than that you've said but you don't know it.
@tanu22 (61)
• India
30 Jan 07
I think you should not keep any bad memories with you..Marriage is a time when you want everyone's best wishes,so dont loose them and if you ll not call your uncle then there's no difference between you and him.Be the best from your side no matter what world does..Invite me too I have been in north england for 3 months and had great time..
@sureshmoe (974)
• India
30 Jan 07
Don't worry..Its a second time marriage and not the first time marriage...He has some feeling internally about the second marriage...I think that so only he didn't invite u...So that's are all not the matter....
@seabreeze (659)
• China
30 Jan 07
You still are minor.You are anly seventeen age.I think that your uncles not invited you and your brother,it is primary reason.
@faylinn_chaeli (1619)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
I think you are not that young to be called children. Maybe they just want to minimize the expenses, as part of the family I think you have the right to go there because he is your uncle.
@a_robinnep (529)
• Nepal
30 Jan 07
Yes, i think u will be invited by your uncle, but what he is thinking is the main factor, why he is not invited you and your brother, if you have a crisis or not? Maybe something wrong...
@titus_rules (32)
• India
30 Jan 07
well if she is as aweful a person as u say, then y bother about going for the wedding anyway?
@cowboys33 (421)
• Australia
30 Jan 07
thats a bit mean but there is losers out there in the world like my family on my dads side. my dads cool but
