hubby vs my parens

Parents are the one who have u with much longer time than your husband,As obvious.You think that they are not taking care of kids .So i definetely need to say something on that:- 1.Parents thougt,with which you are already familier from long time and also know about there attitudes so you can handle this by responsing them same as we are responsing here.But while responsing remember the old rule one who fear is a looser.So discuss bravely. 2.Husband,who think that kids are doing wrong must be replied by you that they are simply kidding.This help him to enjoy his kids and keep him away from angry.This can help him even in worst situation.Also you need to favour your kids i think so. 3.Kids,who are the intermediate of problems need to be taught by you.I think many educational(Kids School)institutes do this for you.They must know how to regard parents or old persons.overall they have a lot to learn so they need to learn patience. 4.And the last is the family enviornment which is created by a large number of persons in home varies from family to family.I think everypersons need to be open minded in the home to make the enviornment developing for all.

I use to have the same problem, it was hard but I finally put my foot down and told my parents that these were my kids and I was gonna raise them the way I saw fit, just as they did with me. I told them if they could not handle it then they need not come around. It almost killed me to tell them this, cause I was so scared they would choose to quit coming around, but to my suprise they chose to let me raise my children how I saw fit as long as they could continue to be a part of their lives.

Please clarify. It is hard to know what advice to give in this situation because at first you are talking about religion but then it switches to how you punish your children? Who does bringing your children up in church relate to how you are punishing them? How are you punishing them that your parents think is unreasonable? Upon knowing that information, I think we mylotters can hopefully provide more meaningful answers.

that is a hard choice to make If I was you and I agreed with my husband then I would let the grandparents know in all uncetain terms that they are not raiseing your children and that is you and your husband choice on how to raise them they can either like it or not.you can insure them that they are only the grandparents and not the parents.I am sure if you tell them that they will understand and if it ruffles their feathers so be it they will come back around if they love the grandkids

Maybe you could sit down with your parents and have a good talk to them. Explain and make them understand that you and your husband are both responsible parents and you know how to discipline your kids and know what is right or wrong for them. It is ok for them to also give advice or suggestions but never argue with them if you dont agree with their point.I dont think it's a matter of choosing between your husband and parents but it's a matter of respecting their opinions.After all, you will still be the one who will make the final decision or have the final say with regard to raising your kids.

Remember the verse that says you must leave your parents and cleeve to you spouse. Your parents need to let you and your husband raise your family without butting in. I have no idea how you might get this point across to them, but their butting in sounds like it is interfering with you and your husbands relationship, or could if it hasn't already. Good luck!

Your husband is absolutely right. You choose your husband and children over your family and your parents should know that. As a church goer, you probably know what the Bible says about marriage...you cleave to your spouse and leave your parents. These are YOUR children, not your parents, and you have to raise them how YOU see fit. Tell your husband to not even discuss it with your parents. If they try to argue about how you are doing something, I think you should handle it yourself by saying "I understand and appreciate your input, but we feel that this way is better for our children and will continue to do it that way" You need to put your parents in their place, but in a nice way.

yes it is comon in our india most families are facing that problem husbands are ehaving that if i married she must be thinkking about my family only she also having one family and she also want to meet her family they did not understand that problem but i did not like that husband and wifes are both are equal and they want thir familys to meet they must understand theses problem

we are facing the same problem...until now my mother stop on finding fault on us ..on ways how to disciplined our children...i have my own family now...and think we know now how to raise a child...i just ignore it..until such time theyre tired of it..and see for themselves that we are successful..

Every child needs discipline. I am sure your parents would agree with you on that one. Did they discipline you when you were a child? I am sure they did. Maybe your parents just disagree with your punishment methods. I don't see the corelation between how you discipline your children and your parents not being saved, maybe you can clarify that. I am happy you are bringing your children up in church. That will teach them values and compassion. Very important character traits that our society is lacking. They are your children, it is your house, and you love your parents, right? I think the best thing is for you to have a talk with your parents, with hubby, and let them know that you appreciate the advice that they are giving, but you want the opportunity to raise your children as they had the opportunity to raise theirs. Let them know that you listen to their advice, but sometimes choose not to follow it.

just tell them like they brung u up the way they wanted to and u want to bring ur kids up the way u want to because its not rite for them to tell u wat to do wen nobody was tellin them wat to do wen u were born and that u love ur kids and u want wats best for them

That is indeed a very difficult situation! Choosing your husband and your parents. Sometimes it is better that once we have our own family we will separate from our parents. Why is it that your parents are staying in your house? I mean, don't they have a house of their own? Because usually that is one of the reason of the fight between husband and wife when our inlaws would try to care for couples decision. If your parents will still stay in your house tell your husband to just understand your parents also tell your parents that they should not over react with your familys decision.

You must tell to your parents nicely to explain them that you need to dicipline and need to raise your children. I am sure if you tell them that they will understand with are giving, but you want to raise your kids as they had to raise theirs.

The decision is really up to you. Your parents and your husband can influence your choice, but it is up to you in the end. If you and your husband agree about this, then your good to go. Don't let your parents pressure you into changing your ways unless you genuinely believe what they're saying is good advice that you want to live by. I am only 16, so I don't have kids, but I would never force my kids to go to church. I believe that's a personal choice and they should get to choose. I was forced to go to church and the weekly church classes for my entire life (up to confirmation). I am now in between feelings of what I believe in religiously. My parents do force me to go to church occasionally, but I do my best not too. That is my own personal choice. I usually end up falling asleep in church, and I never pay attention. This makes church more of a waste of time for me. But enough about me... I would have your kids go to church until the age where they seem responsible enough to make choices on their own. Once you can choose if you want a snickers or m&m's, you can choose if you enjoy church. If your children are that old, I would encourage you to buy a couple children's books about god, and let them make the choice. They can always change their mind at any time in the future. All that said, don't let my opinion change your mind unless what I said really appeals to you. How you raise your kids is your own choice. It's an important choice, because you will have to live with it for the rest of your life. Best wishes!

I think you have to go with what you think is right and try to explain that to your parents , I try to support my married sons but I would never try to tell them what to do xxx

I understand somewhat your situation as in a similar one myself. Only reversed somewhat. It is hard when you have unsaved loved ones and it really creates some problems in relationships. I know how you feel.

Misery loves company. It is just a fact. Your parents not having God in their lives will never feel the same fullness that you and your husband feel. And your husband is right in letting your parents know that your children will be raised in the way in which the two of you believe. Standing up with him in these situations is the best that you can do but remember as God fearing people you have to remember to pray and ask him for guidance because you still need to respect your parents. Best wishes and I sencerely hope your parents find God.

I don't think you'll ever be able to make you parents realize your point of view. And I don't think your husband will be able to either. My personal opinion is your parents shouldnt have any say in the way you and your husband do things and the way you two teach and up-bring your children. I don't think that they should have a place to put their input on your guyss lives. You and your husband have your own lives now and if your parents don't agree with the way you're living it, then tuff for them. They should be encouraging to you and your family and not so judging and criticizing.

That is a really hard situation you have. What I would do is that to continue bring the kids to church and bring them up in your belief. Afterall they are your kids and you rules your own home.. so what you and hubby decided, then you can do it. Your parents sooner or later will see that you only want what is best for your kid.. bring this into your prayer every night so that God open your parents eyes and save them.. You cant say anything to make them agree with you.. you just need to show it with your behaviour.. by being a good person.. a good example.. then maybe your parents will see that going to church has done you some good.. and maybe they will be interested in going too :)

just because your parents arent "saved" as you call it. doesnt mean they are bad people. raising children is a hard task, i know how i was when i was a kid. i believe you and your husband should be able to punish your kids in certain ways. but also remember how much of a good person you are. and look who raised you. because its how you were raised that made you the person you are. and put that into raising your children...