Raising a kid
By karlasper
@karlasper (99)
Philippines
January 31, 2007 1:38am CST
I am a single father to an eight year old boy. I see to it he is raised a good one. But lately I caught him stealing money, it is very small amount but I am worried it might be manifestation of some fearsome behavior. Others say my kid will just outgrow it. I am monitoring now his friends, his hobbies and play hoping I can get some cues. There are times I was so stressed that I nagged him badly and hitted him. I know he is having just enough pocket money for his snacks in school so I do not think he deprived. Please enlighten me. I will appreciate also if you give advice on how to deal with his behavior.
3 responses
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
31 Jan 07
I had a little bit similar situation with you with my step son at that age, but he doesnt steal money, he needed money and he wont tell us to the extent that he has to barrow and owe some money. He was told to ask if he needs something, but then its because of playing video games that is why he is luck of his budget. Yes, we did talk to him and pay his credit, but i guess he feels ashame of what he did so it didnt happen anymore. Just do not get mad, i agree that you have to talk to him sincerely and talk about how important it is to be honest and tell you if he needed something because there are only the two of you to lean on.
@karlasper (99)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
You are quite right, Filchi. Yes getting mad and hurting him was the worst thing I did to him and I actually cried in silence,of course not in his presence. I talked to him regularly before I put him to sleep or when we are praying I would ask him to pray and ask God to help him become good. I know I am doing my best to give him my quality time but it seems I cannot give the attention he needs. Is it not that he is looking for a mother figure? I have been thinking about it but I would like to believe that this is not always the theory. Have you learned of any kid growing only with a father and developed some sort of problematic behavior? Thanks for your reply by the way.
@karlasper (99)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
I have been talking to him whenever needed and I feel I have of it so much but he seem untouched. But of course I will remain talking with him. Thanks for the advice.
@hmike_d (1529)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
Kids are curious oftentimes. Talk to him sincerely and discuss the discrepancy between good and bad. Let him realize how bad is he if he insist on doing the same way. But first of all, it is always better if you win his respect for you as a father.
