Boyfriend or Best Friend -- Friend please help me???

i always believe that "a girl and a boy cant be friends forever" love always comes in between.. i think u must go on with your best friend..coz u both know each other very much than anyone else.it includes your boy friend too.. always love the one who loves u not whom 'u' love...

BOYS DO HAVE FEELIJNGS IN HEART WHICH COMES UP IN WRONG TIMES,, I WOULD SUGGEST U TO GOO WITH UR BEST FRIEND AS U R NOT SURE ABOUT THE PERSON WHOM U LOVE BUT THE PERSON WHO KNOWS U FROM CHILDHOOD WOULD TAKE CARE OF YOU MORE,, SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO TAKE SUCH DECISIONS WHICH IS NOT IN OUR FAVOUR , I FEEL YOU SHOULD GO UP AND TALK TO UR BEST PAL, AND MAKE HIM UNDERSTAND,THERE IS A FAMOUS PROVERB "OLD IS GOLD" THIS MIGHT BE FOR YOU IN THE CURRENT SITUATION, "PYAAR USSE KARO JO TUMSE KARE,USSE NAHI JISE TUM KARO..! BECAUSE THIS WILL BE SELFISHNESS AND I KNOW U FRN U R NOT SELFISH..! IF ANY PROBLEM,, U CAN OPT ME FOR SUGGESTION..!

well .. a serious case here , if he is really intrested ... the same thing happened to me also , but that was a girl who proposed me ... we were living together from the childhood , in the same house , as they were on rental basis on down portion story , we spend many times together even with her brothers n sisters , they were 2 sisters and 2 brothers , sO one day it happened like she proposed me , and said we spend a long time together and i don't think so , there's any thing which were behind our eyes , and we know each other very well , and now i love u .. i was really shocked to listen this .. and was thinking..abt :S what is she saying .. i was in a complete shock , but the thing was that , ma parents were preparing for a committment to the other girl , then i explained her , even after that she talked to my parents but , the thing was like a full committment and the same thing happened... so my suggestion is , first check him , that do u really love him or not ... i think you know each and eveything of him , so just do one thing .. just try to take a chance and start loving him and then seee that can you live with him , because for the loving scene the ..system is fully changed now ..what you say ? so i will suggest you to check him with ways and other then that ..if you are really intrested and he is stable and you think u can spend rest of the life with him ..then i thnk you should go for it .. its no bad in it ... tC regards Alee

Well.... who else can understand this pain except for me.... coz in my life i had been at that best friend's place.... and i know how i felt when she left me for him.... I dont wnat anyone to bear the same pain again.... i suggest you to go with ur best friedn...the way he'll care for u and love u would be something u wudnt ever get from ur bf

You need to give your best friend the time and space he needs to get on with his life if you aren't in love with him. I'm sorry but you can't expect this man to sit by and watch the love of his life be with another. If the situation were reversed and you were in love with him and he loved another what would you want him to do? I don't mean to sound harsh but you really need to respect your best friends feelings and leave him be until he is ready to be around you, if ever.

You should consider the fact that marriage is a lifetime affair so you have to hook up with somebody who you know very well, somebody you can tolerate, some body you can go through every life situation with whether good or bad. You can start seeing your best friend as a marriage partner if you never saw him as that. You just have to check among them who you can always bear with.

I feel you should have been more open direct about your feelings with your best friend so that he didn't get wrong ideas and fall in love with you. Since he may be hurt now, i feel try to talk to him often and keep channels of communication open, & hopefully he may come around if he is your best friend. And hopefully your boyfriend will not feel jealous or insecure and will appreciate your efforts. Becuase it is tough to find real good friends adn you are lucky to have one. Hopefully you can talk to both of them and clear the differences. So you will not lose either of them . good luck.

Even I faced a similar situation recently and was in the same fix but i stuck to my point that Friend is always a friend and a boy friend is a boy friend no overlaps until and unless i too feel the same. And moreover any friendship which is done with some interest like this cannot be a true one. If the friend expects you to accept his proposal and otherwise he cannot take it then there was a selfish interest behind his relationship and that he cannot be trusted now.

Well I can understand the situation you are in and that is indeed a very tough decision. Now its all upto you! you will have to make a decision and that by no means is going to be easy. First thing you have to do is ask yourself that who do you love and if the answer is your boy friend then you better try explaining it to your best friend. I cannot guarantee that he will understand but you can try your best, the worst senario could be sacrificing one of them for the other. Be mentally prepared and stand by your decision ... I was in a same situation and I left both of them .... Well anyways wish you all the best :)

I think I can very much identify myself with this case, but I take the place of your best friend. Yeah, I had the same situation, and let me tell you, it hurts like hell. I had a poor score for that years exam and the whole life was twisted from there, I ended up somewhere else because of that. But now I am over it, when there was someone else who loves me even more and really is for me. Now, I realized why I didnt get the other girl, I was thankful to god, or else I would have lost this girl, who is simply made for me. So the solution you can find to your best friend is to find "his girl". Not an easy task, but she is somewhere around, if you really care for him, that's wat you can do for him. And the best part is my old best friend is, once again my best friend, all that happened in between is like a tale for me.

You need to choose!If your friend really treasured the real friendship you have,then he should understand that you dont love him.Let him know how you feel towards him and he dont have choice but to respect your decision.If your bestfriend will leave you then let it be!Then that college mate that you love,let him be your bestfriend then!

Time is the healer and the decision-maker, remember always. You yourself will come to a good conclusion. Best Wishes ! Note : Men made plans but implementation is in the hands of God.

i would definitely ask you to be with your best friend.You know him since your childhood days.He knows you properly and understands you.But you have met your boyfriend just a few months back.You cannot trust him much.You cant know about a person in just a few months and you cannot be even sure that he will support you throughout your life So just choose your best friend without any hesitation

Your case is difficult, because you're like torn in two: boyfriend on one side and your friend on the other. I think your boyfriend has no right to tell you what to do about this, like forget him, must be you who decides. Perhaps what your friend needs is time to get used to the idea that you will always be there for him but only as a friend, and once he logical pain he suffers is decreased he will go back to you...if i were you i'd give him a little bit of time

do whatever you want .

Refer to your "few days back he proposed me and said he cant live without me." I think he will leave you when he sleeps, closes his eyes and leave you alone." You can stay as a best friend, so you are independent in your life. If he becomes your boyfriend you hardly find another one to talk with more than half a day.

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I can understand your situation and yet, have you never considered that he could want more from the relationship with you? Anyway, if you are already 'tied' up elsewhere what can you do? Maybe when the hurt goes away, he will come back to you. Maybe you will not need him any more (or your husband to be will get jealous) Maybe.... Truth is there is nothing you can do. Except perhaps, review your decision to spend the rest of your life with someone else! And you will have the space to think about that.

Sorry to say but please don't thinking only yourself.You lose your best friend and that hurt your felling but what about him he lose him best friend but also he lose the love of him life.Let him alone for while maybe if he find a girl that can love the things turn to be better.But don't forget ,they will not be ever like before.

Its simple give him some time to get over it being friend for so long time he had taken for granted that as he loves you, you might also love him back but once time heals his wound he will accept it and your realation will become once again normal and dont take decision early give some time think over it and then decide what you want to do.