Husband VS step daughter

well you are there so you can think of why they fight so often. Have you considered taking them to some family couseling? maybe there with the help of a neutral third person they could both open up about why they fight so much: jealousy for your attention, incompatible characters or whatever else is. I think it really worths the try since i suppose you're talking about the two most important persons in your life :)

Yep - I'm with you! My daughter is eight and my husband has been the only father she has ever known (since she was two), and they fight a lot. There are times that I can't leave the room without something starting between them. They usually work it out, but not until there has been a LOT of yelling, screaming, and crying. I think it's a personality clash mixed with the fact that I raised my daughter for the first two years much differently than my husband would have. She is very srong willed, and needs to understand a request or order and needs to be understood and listened to - she also needs time to cool off and think when she is worked up. My husband demands obedience and respect no matter what, and insists on talking about an issue right away. Put those two together and you have a kid who won't listen if the order doesn't make sense to her and a father who yells if she doesn't obey right away - followed by yelling by a father who insists on fixing it now and screaming and crying by a little girl who just wants to be left alone until she calms down. She and I don't have the same issues often if ever because I let her be alone and talk to her about it later. It's just a difference in personality, but it drives me nuts...in fact, I'm sure it bothers me more than it does either one of them. I'm concerned about the emotional impact on her, so I've asked my daughter about it before and she said "that's just the way we are." I don't know how to make them stop - I just keep trying to help my husband understand how she works, and I try to stay out of it as much as possible because I know they need to find their own way too. Sorry for the ramble, but I hope it helps to at least know your not alone! Good luck.

i have no this kind of problem. i think its a really big problem.

Does she have contact with her real father? Maybe she is going through some emotional turmoil about it at the moment. Maybe it is just a phase, or hitting puberty early. I havent been in your situation but maybe she would open up to you about whatever is troubling her. I hope you get some more helpful replies.

well you are there so you can think of why they fight so often. Have you considered taking them to some family couseling? maybe there with the help of a neutral third person they could both open up about why they fight so much: jealousy for your attention, incompatible characters or whatever else is. I think it really worths the try since i suppose you're talking about the two most important persons in your life :)

Well, having been away for as long as I have I can not really say I know Either of them as well as I should anymore but I think you shouyld just sit with them both and talk about it. See if there is a reason they are always arguing or if they just can't get along and take it from there.