What would you do if your friend forwarded you 43 emails in one day?
By kelly60
@kelly60 (4547)
United States
February 2, 2007 6:27am CST
Do you have a friend who loves to forward emails? I have a few of those. I'ts not bad if they only forward one or two, but when they get carried away it can be a problem. I have one friend that falls into this catagory.
I have asked and asked that she stop sending so many emails. I have told her that I don't mind if she sends me one or two if they are really good, but not any more than that because I don't have time to read them all.
She stopped for about three days, and the flood was back. Just this morning I woke up to 43 forwarded emails from her in my inbox.
I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I want her to understand that not everyone shares her enthusiasm for forwarding internet jokes. Does anybody have any suggestions.
21 responses
@kritipen (4082)
• United States
4 Feb 07
I understand your difficulty. But I heard for some people it is like addiction. So I would suggest, give her a mail address that is not much used by you and let her send all forwards there. Just browse them once in a while to make sure that you will be able to have conversation on them if she brings them up. Then start indicating that you could not finish all those mails due to volume and slowly she might come around and reduce these forwards
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@the_dreamer2005 (1175)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Wow, 43 e-mails. Geez that's alot. Considering you asked her to please stop and then she sent so many, maybe she's a little upset. I'd say perhaps try asking her politely but more strong and see how she responds. If not well again, create a filter in your e-mail. Anything that has forward can automatically go to a folder or even the trash if you'd like.
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I have now filtered everything from her into a seperate folder to be sorted later. It's amazing how quickly how quickly she can fill a folder up.
Last time I talked to her about this it worked for a short time, maybe a couple of weeks, then the amount of emails slowly started creeping back up again. I don't know, maybe she just needs reminded more often.
@the_dreamer2005 (1175)
• United States
4 Feb 07
True, maybe a reminder is what she needs. But I think after a while you might become fed up with having to tell her. And I wouldn't blame you for becoming fed up.
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@kareng (59167)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I hate that. I really have a problem with it on my work email address. Our boxes have limited space. Mine fills up on a regular basis and I have to delete emails that are work related. We have a few co-workers that don't have much to do apparently and like to forward jokes. This drives me insane.
I would suggest that since you have tried to ask her nicely not to do this...to send them all back to her twice. Fill her mailbox up and let her see how it feels. I think this will cure her! Oh and if she says anything about getting 2 of each...just say oh wow, must have been an internet glitch! Good luck!
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I had a bit of fun with this one. I sent a bunch of hers back to her, some of them twice... I might have even sent a couple of them three times. Plus I forwarded some stuff sent to me by other people. I spent about an hour or two forwarding her emails over the weekend, knowing she wouldn't check her mail until Tuesday. I wonder what kind of reaction I will get.
@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
15 Feb 07
oh my god,lol...i have a little admiring to your friend,as i can not believe that how she sent out so many email to you,how she could do it?can you kindly tell us what the emails said? did her have so many words to talk about you,and did her have so much time to send the emails? i can not image it ....
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
21 Feb 07
She rarely has anything to say in her emails. Almost all of them are forwarded jokes. She thinks they are funny, so she sends them to her entire address book. I can't imagine how someone can spend so much of their work day passing emails around. The office where she works must have no work to do.
@lisado (1227)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I have friends that do that sometimes. They'll get behind in emails and then one day I get 50 from them. I use Outlook Express and set up a folder for jokes and get to them when I can. I just move them to that folder and read them when I can. If I get busy it might be a while before I get to them. That way my inbox isn't overflowing and I don't miss something important because I have a bunch of forwarded jokes.
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@alp4ce (8)
• Israel
24 Feb 07
kelly , I know EXACTLY what you are talking about, and I have a perfect solution
in the filter for her messages set the rule that if any messages that come from her do not have "{Kelly YOURLASTNAME}" in the subject they are deleted
(important to use curled braces)
then tell her that if she wants to send you an IMPORTANT message, to put the phrase in the subject line.
This will make her work to send the email and I am sure she will not paste the phrase into each and every forward.
And tell that you are doing that not because of her but because of the ammount of spam you have been getting. It worked with my friend, it will work with her as well
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
25 Feb 07
That's a good idea. That would make it a lot easier to sort through all of the messages she sends. Even filtering everything she sends into a folder is a pain because it still leaves me having to sort through it all, but this would eliminate all of that.
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
11 Feb 07
It sounds like your friend may be a little nutty with the email but you can filter them or you can go ahead and just block her so that she can't send you more emails at all.
@alexdiazgranados (678)
• United States
4 Feb 07
I personally find "chronic forwarding" to be annoying. When I was going out with my ex (who, sadly, passed away almost three years after we broke up) she had a friend named Sharon who flooded my in box on AOL with forwards. And not just one or two, but sometimes 15 or more. I tried to get her to send less, using all the diplomacy and tact I could muster, but she took offense and stopped e-mailing.
Sometimes it's easy to get someone to not send forwards, and sometimes not. It depends on the sender's maturity level and empathy toward others, I guess.
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
11 Feb 07
That's true. Sometimes she seems to understand, and sometimes it's like talking to a wall. She hasn't seemed to get offended, but she never seems to stop for more then a week at a time no matter how many times I tell her. She just says that if I didn't want her to send so much I should just say so. Then she stops, but it never lasts for long. I guess she just forgets.
@freak369 (5113)
• United States
4 Feb 07
That seems to be a bit much, I am on a few email lists so I get some junk mail here and there but I do have one friend that sends out jokes and such. Can you have them routed to your spam or junk mail folder? I know Yahoo has this, not sure what email service you use but most have a way to add an email address to the spam folder.
@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Sadly enough I had to set up a folder just for her and have all of her emails sent there. Then I can sort through them as I have time. I hate to have them all sent to the trash because I never know if she may actually send me something that isn't just a forwarded joke.
@Pekachu (1112)
• United States
4 Feb 07
perhaps you could set those emails to go into there own folder or set them to just go to the trash if she asks if you got them just say that you havnt had time to read them maybe she will get the message that you dont have time to read so many
@Wolfsbayne (314)
•
4 Feb 07
Wow, that is a lot of emails. All I can suggest if she won't stop sending them is to stop reading them. Usually you can tell that they are joke/chain mails by the header so why not delete them? I really hate email chain letters but most of the people who send them to me are very good friends so I don't tend to say anything to be honest, I dont think a friendship is worth losing for the sake of a few emails.
@pix_trix (447)
• India
4 Feb 07
lol.. nothing can be more frustrating than this. even i have this friend who sends me about 8-10 forward mails everyday.. which include jokes, chain letters, pictures n what not! its even more irritating coz i dont like keeping unread mails in my inbox since i get confused when i have a new mail, its easier when all mails are read, only the new ones are flashed! though i cant do anything about that friend.. the best i do everyday is to select all his mails and mark them as read! rest leave it to god! pls give him brains.. hehehe
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@firoafame (359)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
4 Feb 07
i have had worse. i dont even open them. see sometimes if i don't clear my inbox daily. i will have even about 120 to 200 fwds. its so irritating. i wonder where they get this from. some are really good. but still its boring to open all the mails at once
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@unusualsuspect (2602)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Tell her that you will block her if she keeps sending them. Then do it. Give her a week or so and unblock her. Tell her that's she's unblocked again, but that you will block her permanently if she starts again. If she's only an online friend, then she's not worth keeping. If she's a personal friend, you need to let her know that she's putting your relationship in danger. Why should you be afraid of hurting her feelings when she's ignoring yours?
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
4 Feb 07
She is a personal friend of mine and I don't think she means any harm. I think she just forgets sometimes, or maybe just sends to her entire address book without thinking.
I know I told her before that I wasn't going to open any more emails with attachments because a virus was detected in one coming from an email she had forwarded. That worked for about a week, and they started coming in again.
@aquarian9 (548)
• Canada
4 Feb 07
I don't get that much email from one person anymore. I remember getting those annoying chain mails and dumb jokes. That stuff annoyed me to no end. Just hit the delete button.
@zenmachado (1617)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Id say the following: What the heck is wrong with you foo?!?!?!?
Bro.. get a life or a friend that has a bigger mailbock.. geez!
Nah dawg, for reals yo, its too many e-mails, no offence.
@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
if my friend is persistently sending me the many emails over and over again, i would just delete them all and leave one copy each of the email she is sending so at least i could read it myself for her sake. after reading, probably i would also delete them. anyway, she does not know anything what you have been doing with her emails. unless you really plan to block her emails but that might hurt her if she finds out that you are blocking her emails. well, the least that you can do is to always remind her and let her understand that it's not good at all delivering 'tons'of emails which could be a reason for the suspension of your account.
@maybey (365)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I have a friend like you...I got mails from my friend, she is a girl...she forwarded almost 30-45 mails per day...the mails inside is about people in the world who need help financially and spiritually..the messages she forwarded to me is from her friends also who is member for single for christ..The mails from her is very interested that I enjoying reading her forwarded messages...I'm happy to have healthy body unlike the people mentioned in her mail...I never stop syaing thank you to the God that I have a normal life and healthy body..
