Is it Okay to Call Your Parents by their First Names? Isn't it Disrespectful?

I have no problem at all with my children calling me by my first name. They both do call me mum most of the time, but when they find it hard to get my attention they call me by my first name and I always turn round. I don't mind as I should be taking notice of them anyway. Also they both think its a bit naughty to do that, so if I showed it bothered me then they would probably just do it more.

My sister in law calls her parent by their first names. I, like you, always thought it was disrespectful. I asked her about it. She told me that she grew up with a large extended family (many many cousins). As an only child, these cousins were her main group of friends and would often be together for play time. She explained that if she said 'mom' about 10 different heads would turn. So she got in the habit of calling her parents by their first names. I can understand this. I too have found myself yelling mom in a crowded store and not getting the response. At that point I call her by her first name. I get her attention everytime. But in general, she's always mom to me.

I call my father, dad. I never call him by his first name. He raised me and deserves to be called Dad...I think of it as an honor. Now, my mother on the other hand, I call her by her first name. I have no use for her. She was a horrible mother, destroyed our family and even helped in my and my sisters rape. She does NOT deserve to be called Mom or mother, for she isn't one. I am a very respective person, but if you don't deserve it, then I won't give it.

i am of the old school i am afraid..i would find that disrespectful..idon'tknow why..it is the way i was brought upi guess.

I think that it has something to do with culture and what people got used to. I still believe that "Action speaks louder than words" so the important aspect is the show of respect. I am not a Native American but I live here. I was born in the Philippines. Even before I got here, I know that a lot of kids call their parents by their first names (as can be seen in the movies) and I can see that even then, there is a show of respect. In the Philippines, we can't even do that! So whatever is comfortable with the parents, they can instill that to their kids as part of their training, and there is no problem. Nice question!

Absolutely not ok. Very disrespectful. My sisters and I on rare occassions will call our Mom by her first name as a "joke" because we know she did not bring us up that way. She gives us the "Mom Look" and we aplogize really fast.

I could never do that and I don't think my parents would like it either but as they say " to each their own " xx

Hi! I don't call my parents by their first names unless I'm introducing them to someone. I've always been taught that it's disrespectful. My little daughter will hear my parents call me by name when we are visiting, so my little daughter will call me by my name instead of mommy. LOL It's cute now, but it probably won't be cute when she gets older. LOL

I agree with you, I think it is disrespectful to call parents by their first names. I call mine Dad and Mama. In India we don't call even strangers by their names, we refer to them with respect..either sir/madam I felt odd when I came to the US and here everybody refers everybody by their first names..lol!

Never cross in my mind to call my parents by their first names. I'm just not use to it and wouldn't want to get use to it, either. In our culture, calling parents with their first name, is considered very disrespectful. Or calling a person older than us, by their name only (with no title like: ms, mrs, miss, or mr) is also consider rude.

The way I was taught is 'you best to not'. I mean, I've heard kids do that and I think wow, what is up with that. Just the way I was brought up.

yes i agree with u but this is not teh case in my contry like india

I call my parents mom or dad. To me it is unrespectful to call them by their first names. I wasn't raised that way.

It depends from the relationship you have with them.You may think that is disrespectful 'couse you have different habits , culture and education from the ones that do that. Sometimes it's just different way of think!

I don't like it when my kids call me by my first name. I will not answer them if they call me anything besides mom or mommy. They know this and respect my wishes. I have never called my mother but her first name. I do call my step-mother by her first name. I do because I already have a mom and noone can take the place of her.

When i was young and growing up I never called my parents by their first name and was taught that it was disrespectful so I will never do it. And when I have kids I will teach them the same thing that it is disrespectful to call your parents by their first name. It is a sign of respect and a sort of chain of command type deal.

Great discussion gave you a + rating. When I was growing up (I'm 40 now) we had to call our friends parents Mr and Mrs. We wouldn't have even thought otherwise. I don't know when, where and why it changed but yes today they call everyone by their first name. As you say even parents are being called by their first name instead of Mom and Dad. That would really bother me if my kids called me by my first name. I'm a Mom and I earned that name and the respect that comes with it.

I think it is very direspectful to call your parents by their first names. I always call my parents Mom and Dad. I have a niece who calls me by my first name without putting "Aunt" in from of it, and that has always urked me. But I don't really blame her, that is the way my sister raised her. She never had any respect for adults and that is very sad. My sister always complains that her daughter has no respect for her, yet it is her own fault for not teaching her since she was young to respect adults.

well calling your parents by there first name is a nondisciplinary act .calling them by there name tells us that he doesn't have any respect for them.well for a person like me it is very bad & i wont do a thing like this

You know when people love each other, they tend to show signs of their love. So... there's some people who hugs,others who kiss... and so on. Calling your parents by their names has to be intented not as an absence of respect, it could be seen as absence of distance, because there's intimacy, familiarity. There's love. Different people love in different ways.