I'm not doing this anymore.....
By Stephanie5
@Stephanie5 (2946)
United States
February 2, 2007 7:30pm CST
I'm sorry to everyone here for posting things about my personal life and issues. I guess I shouldn't of ever posted anything personal because there are some people on here that are just downright rude and I can't take their crap anymore. I don't post those things to have anyone feel sorry for me, so please don't. I just love hearing what all everyone's opinions are.
I will explain why I posted things on here...I live pretty much by myself with my kids becuz my old man (not my husband who ran off with my son) is always on the truck. And I don't ever go anywhere so I don't have a lot of friends becuz my life revolves around my kids and their school and their friends. I don't ever have a lot of adult conversation...so I like to talk to people and get their opinions on here. I like getting a new veiw on my personal problems because others can see it in a different way than I can and offer some really great advice.
To those of you (two in particular) who think I'm lying...well, I wish I was...I would give anything to have my sister(my sister isn't dead, but she's close...the drugs are killing her), my father, my cousin, and even that dog back! I would love to not fight with my soon to be ex about our son. I wish my parents weren't alcoholics, I wish that the old man I have now had no faults, but that's just not how life is. And I don't get on here and post things to make people feel sorry for me. I'm sorry that I"m human and need people to talk to. I ask questions because I need advice on certain things.
Now, you can call me a whiner, you can call me a drama queen...I don't ASK for these things to happen...and I would really rather they didn't, but they do. And I don't think that just because I talk to people about them makes me a bad person....
I have feelings and I have a heart and both are hurt...I am one of the nicest people you would ever meet and I go out of my way to help anyone, even strangers, that I can. So, please to the two people who are all over my a$$, please back off...I have my father's funeral tomorrow and then my cousins and I really don't want or need to fight with anyone...so, let's be adults and call a truce...
To everyone that responds postitively to my discussions..thank you so much for all your wonderful advice.. I truly appreciate it with all my heart! You guys are great! Have a great day.
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56 responses
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
3 Feb 07
If you put personal things out there, you have to realize you're going to be judged. And not always nicely and fairly. This is a public forum, and if you come out in public and hang up your laundry, everyone's going to see it and comment. That's how it is. I don't know anything about you, but I know that you need to be made of strong stuff to put yourself out there.
And asking for advice on general forums? Not always the best idea. Go find specialized forums that are geared towards whatever issues you need to discuss. There are dozens of them set up for everything. Putting things out in public? Makes anyone look like they want attention. And not without reason. Most people who air personal issues are looking for it. And there will be backlash, no matter what. It's how the internet works.
As I posted in a few discussion of mine, there are no safe places on the un-moderated net. If you can't take the heat, don't post in them. Because generally? Random strangers online don't particularly care if your feelings get hurt. That isn't a bad thing. It's just how we, as people, are.
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Your right. And I won't be posting anything else about anything to do with my personal problems. And I really regret ever doing so, except for the great advice that I've been given and have taken...
I can't take someone calling me a liar and saying that what is happening in my life isn't happening. I just don't understand why they are going out of there way to be rude...and they are going to every one of my discussions and marking them negatively...don't they have anything better to do? I didn't do anything at all to either of these two and they just won't stop. I've never even responded to anything they have posted. I just think it's childish and stupid and I guess I am too because I let it get to me. Lesson learned....
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@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I see both people's side. I was pretty messed up last summer and posted on a forum local to my town. BIG mistake. I don't regret posting my personal information as I was using my online screen name. When my ex "outed" my real identity and I got a stalker, that made me sit up and take notice. The guy got all up in my business and moaned about all of my posts. I replied several times to put me on his ignore list and not answer to my posts. He refused and somehow it was all my fault. Will you be judged if you put ANYTHING out there? Yep. Is it right? Not usually. Do the readers have some sort of responsibility? You bet. It's like TV; don't like what's on? Change the channel.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
12 Feb 07
Driekon I have noticed in a lot of Discussions how rude you are and I just do not understand how you are able to be like that
Steph asked for advise and nothing else, where is the Problem there. A lot of People and I mean good People are leaving because of rudeness and nastiness. Is it really neccessary?
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@mom2chriskel (1060)
• United States
3 Feb 07
awww....well I've learned that sometimes it is best not to say too much about your real life online.
Hang in there!
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@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Hi Stephanie. I also have a lot of problems and no one outside of my house that I can call on the phone and talk to. I am like you. My friends are here on Mylot. I just say what I think and tell the truth, so all I have to say is hang in there and trust in God. Anytime you really need a friend, I am here. Don't let a couple of people who want to criticize you get you down.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
3 Feb 07
It's hard to put things online that are really personal. I like you ask for advice-- Just to see what other people think and would do in my situation. Some people are just cruel. I see alot of discussions that I could add some real crude remarks-- but I bite my tongue.. It's not worth it to make someone feel bad.
Keep throwing out good discussions and take what people say with a grain of salt. SOunds like you need to get out there and make some good "real" friends.. Not just online ones. Good luck!
@raveemenon (1071)
• India
3 Feb 07
The world is crude and also rude but we donot have any choice since there is no known settelement in any other planet. So the option is only to sustain here. I can read between the lines . Your anguish and despair. You need not have to worry on all these. Your conscience is your master and that is a sufficient reason to ignore the comments. Can you or I change the world? The sucess in life depends in managing with what we have ant not with what we wish to have. kudos, you need to have iron nerves and thick skin sometimes. and that pays in due course of time. wake up and be aggressive.
@chaygylmommy (2470)
• United States
3 Feb 07
well, i haven't seen any of your posts and i am sorry about that. I would love to talk to you more. I will go as soon as I post this comment and invite you as a friend. I know how it is when things go wrong. Seems like when one thing goes bad, 100 things go bad!
This is a place where people can talk and whine and complain as much as they want. If people don't want it, then they don't have to comment. People need to really look in their own lives before judging others.
Good bless and I hope things work out for you. As I said, I'm not quite sure what everything is, but sounds like your luck is not so great now. It will get better!
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I sure wouldn't let the to bother you. If they don't believe you, they still should not be all over you. They don't need to respond if they don't want to. If you need someone to talk to then you go right ahead. You are going through alot and you need all the support you can get. Keep you head up.
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@tendaheart2002 (495)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I hate that anyone has to experience negativity on here. It should just be a fun place to chat and comment on various discussions. I wish you well with all you are dealing with. Being a single parent is never easy, we don't get enough credit. And it is truly a thankless profession.lol. I look forward to your future posts, don't change because of a small few that don't understand.
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@hannarose27 (514)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I understand where your coming from. My kids are almost 3 and 9 months old. We only have one vehicle that he always has to go to work and back. Bad things always happen to good people.Disregard anybodys negative comments, they need something to complain about because apparently there lives are just perfect. Hang in there girl. Things hopefully will get better for you.
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@OOHCUTE2340 (761)
• United States
3 Feb 07
You know Stephanie there are a great many good people on mylot that truly care what is going on with others, and the other ones, well just like being your town, or school or anything else you just gotta learn to let it go and concentrate on the positive things -- Don't give up I don't want to see you stop enjoying your discussions, and having a place to vent -- maybe just step back a little, don't let everything out there -- there are abusesive people eveywhere, which is very unfortunate but true. Don't let a few "bad" apples spoil the whole barrel.
Hang in there -
My thoughts and prayers are with you in the loss of your father and your cousins. Be gentle with yourself it's a difficult time, allow yourself time to grieve. Best Wishes :)
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Thats not right, I hope you still stay here on Mylot! DOn't leave, we should still stay here.
Some people either are trying to saying she did this, this and this! pretty much you should stay here and keep your stuff up, and thats kinda plagerizing someones and framing someone with false claims.
I hope those two people bothering you aren't Corrupt.
Something really wrong if they are.
Please people let's be nice here.
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@freezingfev (815)
•
3 Feb 07
ie..thats sad....(abt ur husband)
im sorry 2 hear that.....but look u are doin it again....talkin abt ur personel life i mean...!!
kk i agree its not really that bad..that one lovez 2 hear others opinion...but hey there has 2 b some limit rite..
!!
nyway
Cheerz
n u kw wat.....everything happenz 4 a reason...so its all gonna end up nicely...trust me
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@cabergren (1181)
• United States
3 Feb 07
So sorry for your loss. Sounds like you have been through a lot lately. Hopefully you will get some things straightened. But all I can say if you post your personal problems on a website be prepared for some people to be unkind. That's just the way some people are.
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@Lush_heidi (994)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I am truly sorry your going thru so much and being subjected to more pain. Hang in there as there are some nice people in the world. I would never make light of someones circumstances and dont judge until I walk a mile in someone else shoes!
Your in my prayers!
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@Desdemona (1301)
• Canada
3 Feb 07
awww sad to hear this.
You create your own reality. Take that as you may.
I think "some" people have to realize that behind every discussion/reply their is a real person sitting behind a computer with feelings.
Life is full of morons but I believe the majority of people don't intend to hurt anyone's feelings. Sometimes sarcasm is communicated wrong and sometimes our different language/culture is taken in a wrong context.
More or less, take things with a grain of salt in life. You will not always like what you hear either.
I think you have to figure out what your goal of mylot is. Is it for fun? to meet new friends? earn money? debate an interesting topic? get advice? etc...
Best of luck to ya!
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@CatEyes (2448)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Yea, I think I know which two you are referring too; I had a rude encounter with them also. They harass people and when you report them, nothing is done except that your money and points are taken away??? I find it very rude the way they post and should not even be allowed to continue here at My Lot. They are breaking the regulation/rules if one would look into it. I just don't back down from them. One called me a &&^* weak women and emailed me. Well... It hurt pretty bad. They say they are just stating their opinions, but those are not opinions and we alllllllll know this. Sorry for the encounter, but please don't stop posting things when you need to air out or vent, this is a way for you to be in touch with the rest of the world. I to am limited when it comes to human contact, so any way we can get, we need to grab for it.
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@katty0004 (386)
• United States
3 Feb 07
There's that kind where you go , they must have problem to be like they some people are like that .
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@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
3 Feb 07
I'm very sorry to hear that members of our community, have hurt you. Putting yourself out their unfortunetly will always bring a few mean spirited people around. My thinking on that is they aren't happy in their own lives, so they must have someone to make feel smaller. I don't know what the circumstances were regarding what has recently happened here at mylot. I do know that I read several of your post the other day, and you have my deepest sympathy for what your already going through and really didn't need anything added to it. Remember the trials that we go through make us stronger people, judging by the few things I know of you, you are one tough cookie. My prayers are with you. Try not to let these people get to you anymore than you already have as your going to need your strenght to get through tomorrow. Hope to hear from you soon and if ever you need an ear, you may feel free to pm me anytime. I wish you much luck here at mylot!
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@Hockey_85 (94)
• United States
3 Feb 07
It's the internet, it's a public website. If you put your private life out there, you're bound to get two reactions. A positive and a negative, some more than others. But I suppose if it bothers you, what complete strangers have to say... keeping private things off a public website would be best.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I really don't think it is WHAT they say that bothers people, it is really HOW they say it... Using profanity, and all that is really uncalled for, but I agree with you that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and they have the right to say what they want... But I think they sould be a little nicer about how they say it...
