Will you put your parents to nursing homes if...

I agree with you 100% they had it rough taking care of all of us kids when were all little and they were always there no matter how hard they worked thaey always had time foir us..So to answer your question I think it is a shame to have to put your parents in a nursing home if there is a way you can care for them at home.

NEVER!!! I already have an estate built for them. I want them to enjoy the life they never had and with the jobs I have now I can afford to give that to them and more. I owe them everything. This is just a simple thank you present. When I get married I'll let my children visit them as often as they'd like. Of course their estate, I've hired almost a dozen helpers from security, cooks to cleaners.

If that is what my father wanted I would absolutely take care of him myself. He has made it perfectly clear that he would prefer to go to the local veterans home. He will be surrounded by people who share his love for military history and will not feel guilty about being a "burdon" on his children.

hey i think this is a silly question... ofcource every one wants to take care of their parents themselves even if they are busy. I cannot even think of that. So no more discussion on this please...

I will try to take care of my father. I don't think wrong of anyone that would have to do this because sometimes it can't be helped. But I am lucky that I have a great husband and son who will stand by me when it comes to this. My parents never turned thier back on me so how could I do that. My mom is no longer here but I want her to see when she is looking down on us that my dad doesn't have to worry. Right now my dad is 79 going on 20.

my step dad, which to me is the only father i have, is in a rest home that takes very good care of him. he has Alzheimer's Disease and sugar diabetes. i really didn't like the fact that his in they but like i said he has been very well taken care of. i believe that if he wasn't there he may not be around today and that i am very grateful for

I agree to a point. However, I may not have the resources to be able to care for my elderly parents and still work. And If I don't work, I don't get paid and no one gets cared for. Some assisted living facilities are excellent and offer an environment of apartment living with a nurse that checks the residents to see to their needs. Ideally, hiring a nurse to come to my house or either of my brothers for that matter would be the choice I would make. And perhaps if my siblings and I all pull our resources, we could arrange this. My brother has a second house on his land just for the purpose of moving my parents in if and when the need arises.

no i wont! here in the philippines people dont usually put there parents in that place we always take care of our parents till they run out of breath we do that in return on what they have done to us not like in our country they will be sent into nursing homes

i will never put my parents in nursing home in any of the situation. they compramise for me lot. they are my god. the person who put their in this home will not be a men's, they are animals.

me too.....my parents took care of me when i was a child.....now its my turn to take care of them when they get old.....but then, here in my country, parents in nursing homes are not common scenarios.....you usually find parents with their children's family....so, its really not an issue here in my country...

for me i will not put my parents into a nursing home if they are too old because they when we are bay until we came in this age they love us and care for us they make their best to became a good parents. if they became old i will not bring them to the nursing homes because i will be the one that will take good care of them!!!so that i can pay for the things that they done to me!!!

No way, circle of life what u do for them today will wait for you tommorrow when u become old.

Boy that is such a hard one. My dad had cancer, and we had hospice so he did get to die at home. Hospice was a great help. If not for them, we would have had to probably put in a home. I would try everything not to do that, but sometimes you just have no choice. They seem to give up more when they are in one of those places. Isn't sad that we live to the possibility of getting there some days are selfs? Seems so unfair.

I agree with you. I am taking care of my mother she moved in with my husband and I after my dad passed away 3 1/2 yrs ago. She is in a wheelchair and has to be transfered to bed and when she has to use the restroom I have to help her. But I look at it the same why you do they raised me so its my turn to help them. I also have 10 other siblings they don't help in any way shape or form. Its just my husband and I doing anything for her. I commend you.

i will definitely take care of my parents myself... i won't let them stay in a nursery home... that is just so pitiful... you are absolutely right... they had done so much for me... and now is my turn to do the same to them... they will stay with me if they want when they grow older...

My parents have already told me that if they ever cannot take care of themselves that they would prefer to go live in a nursing home. If it were me, I would want to be put in a nursing home.

i grow up with a very close family tie and im against on putting parents in nursing home. In their old age i thnk its our responsibility to take care of them to show our love and care as well the gratitude when they take care of us since we are in the womb until we grow up so i think its our time now to give them care. Its our parents and our own blood why should we let others to take care of them.

I would agree with your opinion. I wouldn't just "throw away" my parents in a nursing home. When they're old already, they are my responsibility already just like me being their responsibility when I was younger. I mean, why would I just let them stay in a nursing home when all my life, all they did was take care of me and worry about me. It's like a "payback time", they brought you in this world, took care of you, etc. and now it's our turn to take care of them.

i would have to say no to this. i have worked as a nurses aide in a nursing home for 6 1/2 years. i see what they go through, and i cant see doing it to my parents. you wouldnt believe the people who gets droped off and left. it is sad to see it. not to mention, only 4 out of 5 workers really truly care. i have been lucky enough to see what goes on behind closed doors, and would not do it myself. I agree with you. They took care of us, now it is our turn. I will do EVERYTHING i can to not let them ever go!! I also have been blessed to have a sister that is an RN, so between the two of us and the grandkids, we would be fine. Thanks for a great question.

I appreciate my parents tremendously!! Thing is each of us must know our limitations. My parents are currently both in their mid 60's. At the moment they are relatively healthy and can take care of themselves. We have discussed it and both my parents feel it would be a terrible hardship on me to try to take care of them. I am ill and also have a special needs 2yo who demands a lot of me physically. In my case trying to take care of my parents would be a disservice to them. I would not be able to give them the level of care they deserve! At the moment we are looking into assited living arrangements for my MIL. My sister in law can not take care of her because she has had a stroke and has MS. As I said we must each know our limitations and work within them. It is by doing so that we honor our parents the most.