Knives In Your Back
By cfrdjlilbrat
@cfrdjlilbrat (248)
United States
February 3, 2007 11:23am CST
Don't you just love it when you work your hardest and give your all to something and someone turns around and attacks you? I have been doing everything that I can possibly do for some friends and their business and someone else just loves to constantly attack everything I do for them. The personal attacks are probably the hardest to swallow. I have never done anything to this person and yet, they use every opportunity to attack me in one way or another. Just when we think things are resolved and it's over, another attack happens. I love my friends and I love their business and I love all involved in it. It benefits so many people in so many ways, but I cannot take many more of these blatant assaults on me. I have ignored everything that has been said, every accusation, every slur and it has gotten me nowhere. We have tried to have meetings and talk it all out and again, it has gotten me nowhere. I am still being attacked. Does anyone have any suggestions? Other than quitting?
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6 responses
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
7 Feb 07
well hon if you have done all you could for someone you considered a friend and all they've done is backstab you and attack you, that only has one name: jealousy.
It sounds as if they were jealous of you, don't know why, and that makes them feel a great resentment towards you. Well nothing you should care about anymore I believe, since they've showed you what they're made of, haven't they?
Can you tell someone is your friend if blatant assaults is all you get? don't think so.
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@cfrdjlilbrat (248)
• United States
7 Feb 07
my friends are pretty much powerless to stop the person that is attacking me. it's a touchy situation and most of the time i can ignore all of the comments, but the day i started this discussion was one of those days that i just couldn't ignore it.
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
7 Feb 07
*hugs you* You know we've only met recently, bout at the same time you know you have a friend you can count on with
@MySpot (2600)
• United States
4 Feb 07
I wish I had a better idea of what was going on. It's hard to advise you without knowing the details of your situation.
Firstly, someone who is blatantly attacking you is NOT a friend! In a work relationship, this may be considered harrassment or hazing.
Secondly, just because you are being a true and loyal friend does not mean that they aren't taking advantage of you.
It sounds like you really love what you do and are trying your best to be patient and keep your cool... you should be proud. I'm not sure if I'd have enough passion for the work to overlook someone's unkind or hateful personal remarks though. I would have to address the person/people involved because it isn't fair or even reasonable for you to have to 'deal with' such attacks.
@cfrdjlilbrat (248)
• United States
7 Feb 07
i do have a strong passion for my work. the station is owned by friends and the station manager is the man i love. they help me get through the negativity from others.
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@kpfingaz (1027)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
4 Feb 07
This could get nasty if it was me. You do have a lot of patience. I'm guessing this is work related. Do everything you can to keep your job if you have no other way of getting some income. Simply tell the person that you would like to ask them something and ask them what you have done to them. Listen to what they say and try to figure out a way to resolve the problem. Sorry I can't do much else to help.
@mridula123 (734)
• India
7 Feb 07
lol..similar thing being faced by my sis!!..its a pretty hard situation.dont take in too much of pain.attack back.truth and honesty cant be hidden for long!!all the best!
@classicwoman (30)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Don't quit hun.. Hang in there. I know what you are going through. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place right now with a baby that i'm taking care of. And i just don't even know what to do anymore. In the end they will find out that they where wrong.
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