Admit it, How important are looks for you?

Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
February 3, 2007 12:09pm CST
Many people say that looks are not important, that the main thing is inside. I agree, but i think that at least most of us have what i would call minimum standards, so that if a person complies them then looks pass onto a second degree of importance and the personality etc become the basics....do you agree? do you think most ppl care about the inside mostly or bout the body mostly? i am looking forward see your replies :)
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• United States
3 Feb 07
You have to be somewhat attracted to someone in order to be with them, in my opinion. I take everything about the person into account. I care about what's on the inside but I care somewhat about the outside as well.
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• United States
5 Feb 07
At least you're honest. Too many say that the outside does not matter when in reality it does. It matters to everyone but i think that what is on the inside should matter more and have more value.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
7 Feb 07
well said brat, the inside should always matter more, even though the outside is also important.
@weemam (13372)
15 Feb 07
If you see someone for the first time then yes looks attract but sometimes you get to know people more and you realise that IT IS what is on the inside , If I had my choice I would rather have the person who is nice on the inside , As they saying goes "looks are only skin deep " xx
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
16 Feb 07
thank you for the reply weemam.
@classy56 (2880)
• United States
15 Feb 07
whats in a person heart an how they feel inside makes a person special no matter what they look like on the outside.but a ugly person can be very pretty on the inside.me myself looks at a person for who they are.an i dont judge by apperance."looks can be deceiveing..
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
16 Feb 07
Indeed, looks can be deceiving. But well looks are not bad, if you look great it's cool...it's just a matter of not sticking to looks only, or you might find someone absolutely hollow and/or shallow.
• India
8 Feb 07
yahhh....i believe to make a strong first impression looks matter.......but after that it's ur inner soul who'll make this impression even more strong....so looks r imp. in generrating some response from other side... as it is said in a movie that looks can be deceptive.....
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
8 Feb 07
true mate...they can be deceptive...thanks for your input
@willocfc (963)
• Australia
5 Feb 07
People that say looks don't matter to them are liars. It might not be the deciding factor but it certainly plays a big part in the initial attraction. If you are not attracted to someone then you will rarely take the time to pursue it further and find out if your personalities are compatable
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
5 Feb 07
exactly, if you're not attracted minimally for the outside, its almost impossible that you will feel like discovering the inside, unless outer motivations like money, social position and such help you do it anyway...that's why i think that wealthy people date younger ppl all the time, don't you think? btw if i added you as a friend it was obviously for the looks..*looks at your avatar* hahahha
• Pakistan
5 Feb 07
I think Looks are Very very very very very important For aperson.For him or her to socialize or To to build the basis of his or her attitude... Yes Attraciton is a part of it But more than that I think It's the social and the Attitudinal Part that matters the most... I believe that The basis of a persons attitude towards life and People is greatly greatly influence dby Looks.I know many guys and girls with Awesome looks And others completely opposite..and I've noticed this change in their attitude.. Adding to that They may go into a complex about their looks.Might think that they're not wanted even though they may be needed the most....They may Think That the world does not mean a thing to them but to 1 person they may be the whole world...Yes this happens..I've seen people go in depression just because of their looks..Brings a type of Inferiority complex in them..This is what we need to change..We should be known for the person we are not for the looks we possess.. I hope I make myself clear :)
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
5 Feb 07
you did, thanks for the post
@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
7 Feb 07
I htink what's inside is far more imporatn - BUT usually you get attracted to someone's looks first. Not so much the body as the eyes, smile, and perhaps mannerisms and body language.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
7 Feb 07
totally agreed, thanks for the post bunny
• United States
3 Feb 07
You have to be somewhat attracted to someone in order to be with them, in my opinion. I take everything about the person into account. I care about what's on the inside but I care somewhat about the outside as well.
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@cuddleme01 (2725)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
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hi there. looks really matter at first. What you really notice of a person when you meet him/her is the looks.That's what greets you right? You can't see the inside. Normally, we get attracted to good looking people. That's basically the cause of attractions or crushes. But later on you will learn take notice of a person's inner beauty. If you like his/her character aside from the looks, then you will definitely like the totality of the person. Looks matters at first, but we will all grow old, our skin will wrinkle, we will loose our teeth, our hair will be white and be bald, that is why it is really the character that matters at the end.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
5 Feb 07
True cuddle...we will all see our flesh and beauty decay, so we better get mentally ready for that, and also forthe fact that our partners will follow the same way too. However i think it's impossible not to give appearance a share of importance, even though i always leave room for exceptions. In my personal case i think that i wouldn't be able to be with someone not caring absolutely nothing about the looks, i have to like her at least a little bit if you know what i mean. Well of course unless if i was with her for the money, or any other reason, but then again this would be a completely different story :)
@jojinhere (187)
• India
7 Feb 07
there is no need to admit because i always have said that my looks do matter.but all the same you wont find me in front of the mirror all day long.it is just the appreciation of the beauty of mine.this fact could be attributed to the fact that i am so handsome.anyways i am not as handsome as the monkey in your picture
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
7 Feb 07
well that is because my monkey is VERY handsome lol :)
@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
3 Feb 07
I have to say that for me that they are equally important!! I say this because i want a man that is intelligent, affectionate, can a hold a good condversation, someone that can be my best friend and shoulder at times! However, this man does not have to be the most gorgeous man alive but he does have to look good to a point. I have to be physically attracted or there is no attraction there!
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
4 Feb 07
yep, you explained very well ronita, thank you :)
@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
3 Feb 07
i agree with whats on the inside first and foremost. i have been guilty before of always looking for the looks and it turns out for me that every guy i have ran across (except my hubby) that had good looks also had nasty attitudes to me that turns a person off
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
3 Feb 07
yes i know what you mean...well i suppose we have all guided ourselves just by looks at some time in our lives. thanks for the comment
• India
5 Feb 07
I Also Accept Looks are the Most Important Part in Our Daily Life Nowadays.But Good Looks Doesn,t Mean Good Health Nor Good Attitude or Good Life.The Hard Work a Human With his Sweat in a day Describes His Good Look About Life. Looks Doesn,t Mean Everything to all as We all Know it. As For Me Look is Important But not As Important as Our Daily Work.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
5 Feb 07
thanks for the comment ;)
• United States
4 Feb 07
i think for most people looks are more important than they really want to admit. Admitting that looks do matter makes a person seem superficial and shallow. Looks may be what draws you to a person initially but without something substantial on the inside, it will fail. Looks fade, hair and teeth fall out, the gorgeous body ends up with love handles and a stooped back. What is on the inside does not fade in time however and is therefore much more important to me. i hope i am not alone in this regard. Am i?
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
4 Feb 07
you're not alone at all, i agree with you....it's just a paradox that we don't dare to admit that looks are so important for us when we all care about them. Anyway as you know, we will all end wrinkled and old so we better find something else inside
@urbangirl (1456)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
For me, there has to be something that attracts me physically to the person when I first meet them, but when I get to know them deeper and emotions are involved, the looks then don't become the important thing.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
I once had a friend who is gifted with a perfect face, a flawless skin, a long shiny hair, a body that will keep men salivating over her. In short, she is gorgeous, beautiful, etc. But as I get to know her, I began to see her true colors which are not good. Therefore, whenever I saw her, I can only see her true self and not her appearance anymore. And she became ugly to me.