Scared of holding a baby

I too face the same problem ...i am overcautious with the babies..and hadling them is another issue...i also feel that i would drop them or something else....

at first, especially with my own children. but i soon learned to deal with it and those maternal instsincts kick in. like most people have been saying. once you get used to it and just remember to be gentle, then you'll soon get over it. if you're reallt scared. only hold the child while sitting down and use a pillow. now they have little things you can put on you body that wraps around, its like a pillow and it helps keep you and the baby comfortable while holding.

i feel like that even tough i have handled my own three children , i avoid small babies , i prefer the toddler stage.babies are so fragile i feel that if i walked around with the baby i would trip over and drop it . i didnt feel like that with my own children thank goodness .

Yes, i have also gone through this , but i do think that our mom is right,she worry & did take precaution to prevent injury to our baby sister. Yea, You love your baby sister so much but you will understand that situation now ! if you had a baby , would you let your 3 year old daughter who know nothing about baby to hold your little baby ? ....so , now we know why ....!

Yes, I hate holding babies, because I am terrified that i will drop them, or break their necks, or bruise them or something. They are so small and fragile it really is quite scary. You hold them too tight anf you could crush them.

ya it's difficult to learn

I am only 22 but I can handle a baby very nicely. I nearly know how to even change their diapers. I am the eldest in my family and we are nine cousins so I got a lot of practise handling my younger cousins. There is a 15 years gap between me and my youngest cousin. So now I can say that I have conquered my fear of dropping a baby

I feel exactly that way. I don't like to hold kids until they are at leat one year old. Even then I'll hold them but would rather not. I am the youngest in the family and all my cousins are my age. So I never had babies around me growing up. I think that's why I'm uncomfortable around them.

No, not really, but I certainly felt and feel on the fact that I can't really stand babies:D. I hope this si going to change, because how else am I going to be a good father?:)) About your problem, it resembles a kind of fobia. You know, a fear that you have, but you can't motivate it's existence.

No I have not, but then I have been taking care of my siblings since I was 6 and then my mom had another batch when I was 15, and I babysat full time. So I really did not have a chance to feel that way. On the other hand my husband did not know what to do with one; he held our son like he was glass until he started to walk. Very funny, but true. I did everything in my power to make him relax, but to no avail.

I can completely relate. My younger brother was only 17 months younger than me so I hardly got a chance to "hold" him. We were basically the same size for most of our childhood. And growing up I had no younger cousins, or friends. When I had my own baby I was pretty scared to hold him at first but it didn't take very long to get over that. Once you start caring for a baby your fears will go away.

yes, yes..it's very funny indeed. Few years back, before my little ones were born, I am too afraid to hold someone's child - fearing I might break their little bones, or perhaps of my clumsy hands, i might drop them....silly me. Now that I have my own little wonders, carrying them, even with one hand is like a norm. Sometimes, I also did some 'stunts' by holding them in an akward positions - without the fear feeling !! Funny isn't it ? Well,...maybe because i was inexperienced than. Now, it's totally different set of story. Bring them on ! I'll do some stunts with the little ones !! hahaha

Not really. Babies will always cry, and for a whole variety of reasons. It rarely means that they don't like you or your energy. Most the time it's coz they are pooping or they are hungry or just miss their mums energy and aura. You won't drop them. I assure you, the more pressure you put on yourself the harder it is to overcome that fear. Just imagine that it doesn't matter if you drop it haha. I know that sounds crazy, but you are more likely to drop something if you are nervous! hehe.

Well I can you tell this. That everyone has felt the same as you!!!!! Even I do still. When you hold a baby you always thing about caring and trying the most not to hurt the baby. The first time I took a baby on my hand was at my girlfriends home. Everyone was scared because it was my first time holding. I wasnt sure how to hold but on the end you learn it by yourself. Babies are fragile but being scared is more dangerous to look after a baby. Due to the reason we arent sure if have that kind of responsiblity.

I too am scared of holding a baby. This is mainly due to the fact that there were never babies in the house or the neighbors. This is sometimes a curse for me as I am a nursing student. Often when we go on our clinicals, I tend to stay away from babies for fear of needing to hold them.

yeah it is so scary to hold a baby bcoz it is too soft and silky slippy.there is required of higer conentration on holding a baby.

I have already held a newborn since I am a nurse and it is a part of our training that we deliver a baby. At first, I was so scared too but after a while, I already get used to it. The key to that is to hold the baby firmly .

This is a normal thing. When you first see a baby, you feel that you are a giant and the baby is a tender flower. Start off by holding just the fingers of the baby and watching the baby play. After some time, you get used to it and will learn fast. Also, you can observe others holding the baby. You will get more confidence when you see them handle it easily.

Oh I know that feeling. For years I saw my friends become parents and everytime they asked me to hold the babies for even just a very short while I was scared of dropping the babies or hurting them. But now I am a father myself and all my worries has passed. So I can just say that your worries will disappear in time. And then you just can't get enough of holding babies...

It really isn't that horrible once you have your own. Yes theyare fragile and yes mistakes can happen, but dont worry they will let you know when somthing is bothering them. Once you have one of your own everything changes (for the better)!!