Stuck in a Bad Relationship

can u say me which one is the true relation ship in this? mom or dad? who is best among them

Honestly there is no better time to leave. Sometimes you just have to make a decision and go with it. If you know it's what's best for you then you have to do that. You can't wait for the perfect time, because there will always be something that comes up to stop it from being the perfect time. What happens in his life or his family's lives is in no way something that should reside on your shoulders alone. Someday they are going to have to stand on their own feet anyway, you might want to make it sooner rather than later. If they get to used to relying on you then it will be harder for them to stand alone later on. Good luck to you, whatever you decide to do.

I think it is really great that you are thinking of him, but i feel it is time for you to start thinking about yourself and do what it is that makes you happy! Does he know that you are so unhappy and on the verge of leaving? I dont not why you arent happy but i would say if you dont want to be with him then dont keep this going just for the sack of it, it will only hurt him more in the long run!

well wat is the point in being in relationship that offers nothign for you??? its all noble to not leave so that it would be beneficial for him! in a relationship you are supposed to be truthful, but you aint being tht.... leave loving him... be his pal!

I never faced that condition,i control myself to dipped in the love bcoz my parent's never allowed me to do love marriage so mostly i ignored good looking girls to save my self to dipping in the affection .there is one reason also behind this present days girls have firmity to have more than qone boyfriends they wanted to denote our loves and feeling to great extents which i don't like.thnx happy mylot day.

I don't want to sound like a cold-hearted you-know-what, but it's not your responsibility to stick around. You have to be selfish sometimes. This relationship is dragging you down - you don't want to be in it. Dragging him along certainly won't make things easier for him in the long run. Make yourself happy first. Other people come second.

try talking things out with him. you said the love is still there, but nothing else. maybe you just haven't found it. but you can't stay in a relationship purly because he needs you. you can still be there for him emotionally without dating him. you can be there as a friend instead. and the no money, no car thing...thats something he eventually has to deal with on his own anyway. you shouldn't baby him too much. there's no real reason why he can't go out and get a job, and i'm sure he can find tranportation some other way like public.

In the long run, you might beat yourself over the situation and have regrets about staying with him due to other reasons. You have to do what is best for you in the long run. Nobody can help him, but himself.

Wow ur really in terrible situation...a single decision can change either lives....either u would be set free or ur hubby would be ruin.....its really tough decision for your make....i would advice you only one thing as it always works for me be it right or worng...always listen to ur heart...nuthing else and take decision..somethings do happen or good ....ups and downs are part of life..its how u take them and learn from them....

I'm really sorry that you're going through this tough time. Honestly it doesn't sound like there would ever be a "good" time for you to leave because this sounds like it must be a pattern between the two of you. It sounds like he's the needy one and you're the caretaker and that's no way to have a healthy relationship. I think it would really be a good thing to do is to leave now and get on with your life. Not only would it be good for you but also for him because it sounds like he needs to stand a little more on his own two feet. You can be there for him emotionally and as a friend if that's what you want but you really need to learn to set some firm boundaries so that you're not taken advantage of. It would really help if you could take a look at why you got into this situation and why it is so hard to break away from. Is this a pattern in your life? Do you feel that you need to take care of someone in order to be loved? I hope this doesn't sound harsh and I don't mean it be sound critical at all. It's just that it sounds like you may need to get more in touch with yourself and how you feel about yourself before going into another relationship. Take care and I hope things work out for you soon.

I think you should start thinking about yourself not him. You sound very unhappy and it doesn't sound like this relationship is ever gonna work. You deserve better than you are getting from him. Sounds like it is about time this man took care of himself instead of having you do it. Time to move on and get your life back.

There is no better time to leave sweetie, I would end this sooner rather than later. Staying with someone due to pity or their bad circumstances isnt going to help, if its truly over, tell him you need space and to find yourself, and perhaps you can remain friends, and be there for him and his family. You deserve to be happy and life is too short to not be. Your a caring person putting his needs and his familys needs before yours, but you have to take care of your self and follow your heart! Much Luck!

Well, it is funny, because you said the love was there, in your first statement, but it also seems in your discussion that he is holding you back! Is it really difficult to do what you want to do, and still support him in his time of need? I find it hard to believe that if indeed you loved this person, you'd want to leave at all, based on my own experiences. When you truly love someone, you will find a way. If you don't then you and he weren't meant to stay. fair enough.

WAIT FOR THE BETTER TIME!!! Dont you think this is the time that he needs u most? think of it gurl!

If you're not happy, there's no way you can make him happy. It sounds like you are keeping him from the rock bottom he is going to have to hit to start making things better for himself.You are maybe dragging out a necessity. It sounds like you need to clean break as well.You are enabling eachother somehow.

This is a really hard one to figure out I can see why you fell stuck. All I can say to you is if you stay things will get worst theres no doubt in mind but really how can you go an living when your unhappy and miserable. My advice would be don't drag things out just get it over with and then eveything will get better. Good luck

I understand what you are saying and hope that things work out for the both of you but I dont understand how people say they are stuck in a relationship and how they feel they cant leave. I know you say he would be in a bad situation but it isnt your responsibility.

But PoeTalker...is there ever really going to be "a better time" to leave? It's so hard when we tell ourselves that if we just wait a little longer, try a little harder, be a bit more patient, things will work themselves out in a more palatable way. It seems as thought you've tried to work through your difficulties (and I'm sure last week wasn't the first attempt since you said it was his "one last chance"). It's definitely admirable that you don't want to hurt him but you are hurting yourself if you stay. No one should live every day being unhappy. He's always going to need someone if he has no money, no car, and family trouble. He's going to rely on someone to carry his burdens. If it's not you, it's going to be someone else, right? Do what is going to allow you to move forward in your life and not feel trapped or stuck. There really isn't going to be a magic moment where it will be ok to go.

if you truly love him you should not leave him and especially when one is really passing through his difficult times. i think if you are with him and support him through thick and thin even if he ditches you you will always have the satisfaction of you being a true lover no matter what may happen

wow i must admit your situation is tough at the moment. I think nobody but you can tell you what to do...but if you decide to stay don't do it because of his lack of money or things like that....cause if u left you could still help him anyway...you can help without trapping yourself emotionally...anyway i know the step to say it's over is tremendously hard to take wish you good luck