Accepting your partner's past...is it worth it?

Well it is a lot easier to accept the past if it did not start out as a lie. People fear that if someone knows the truth behind their lives that they will not see them for who they are in the present. It is so unfair of all humans to be judgemental. I believe if it is something you feel you can overcome and have seen a change from the past then yes you should accept it. Best wishes...

Only angels and saints dont lie. Telling lies is part of human nature. A human beings basic instincts of survival makes him to lie. So just that if a person/loved one has concealed ar misled any fact then it is due to that human instinct to survive the day.There is an indian beleif that if a lie is uttered to solemnise a marriage, it is accepatable. So it would me unwise to search for ghosts of the past, it only adds to the bitterness of the present. Its true it brings in mistrust,.... But the greatest gift one can possess is the willingness to forgive. One should learn to forget the past, otherwise the past will always haunt and hinder present and future happiness.

honesty and truth is the best ground and foundation in a relationship. a relationship based on lie from the very beginning is so hard to keep alive forever. if you have a bad past, try to open up to your partner about this the soonest time possible. if the person really loves you, he/she will accept your past no matter what.

Oh yes. The past is very important to me. Most people say ot shoulden't matter, but it do. Things that you could have done then can affect me in many diferent ways. If you love the person you should be able to accept most things. But I just need to be told, for my own sake. You never know, you could be at work and somebody that she did everything with can work with you and you guy's become best friends to later find out he's done everything with your partner that you have. It just dosen't sit well with me.

accepting a person's past is very different then accepting them lying to you. Accepting someone's past is actually pretty easy because if you love someone and trust them completely it's just part of the package, however if they are lying to you about something then they are betraying a trust and you need to really examine whether that's the kind of person you want in your life. If you do then you need to make sure they understand that there won't be a second chance, give them an opportunity to clear up any other issues they may not have told you about and keep the lines of communication open. DOn't set your self up to be with someone who will keep lying to you.

You can not base a relationship on a lie to start with as you have to lie to cover that lie as so on !! It far more better to be honest straight up then there are no hard feelings on either side and no gets hurt in the long run !!

Well, we all have secrets and we claim that we wouldn't hide anything from the people that we love. But, we do. So, I think we should forgive them because it is their past and it isn't the present. So, I don't see anything wrong with people having their own secrets that they don't want to share with their loved ones.

I think all relationships should be open and honest from the get go. I don't think relationships built on lies and deceit are very healthy. I imagine some can become pretty ugly when the truth does come out.

i totally aggre with you that loving someone must also accept everything about that person. if our partner lied and not tell you something taht matter ours the most then i think he/she must have their own reason. maybe he/she knows that because it going to lose our if the thing is say out. for me , i think the most important things is that she/ he is love you sincerely and not having other affairs.