how to overcome shyness?

@yana0806 (565)
Philippines
February 4, 2007 2:09am CST
any help please.
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16 responses
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
you just need to be more open with other people, go out as often as you can so you can overcome shyness. have at least a lot of acquaintances and greet them if you see them walk by..
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• Switzerland
8 Feb 07
That audio book has helped me a lot (having it on the iPod was like having my personal coach when I needed it!) A Guide To Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence http://www.AudioBooksCorner.com/Title.aspx?titleId=8931 Am seeling it now in my own audio book store, there is an affiliate program, if you want to buy it, sing up as an affiliate and get a discount: http://www.AudioBooksCorner.com/webmasters.html
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Underneath the shyness, the real issue is usually a low self-esteem and fear of failure. Once you face those two demons, the shyness will be so much better. You must ask yourself what is the worst that could happen in the given situation, and plan for how you'd deal with that situation. Taking the shyness in small steps helps too. For instance, planning to go to a fast food restaurant and speaking to one stranger. Then graduate to something larger. The longer that it remains an unfaced demon, the larger of a demon it will seem to be!
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• Philippines
4 Feb 07
Join social activities in your community. im sure it will help you to overcome your shyness. Meet different people. Don't be a loner. Communicate with others. Don't make you feel that your different with others.
@rakesh_07 (684)
• India
4 Feb 07
shyness can be overcome by the following ways : 1. dont be scared or nervous... 2. always think that your opposite person is ur brother/sister ...... this overcomes ur shyness 3. never think others will make fun of u....be frank and speak what u think is right...but think twice before u speak...... hope this helps........
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@byfelisa (45)
• United States
7 Feb 07
There are 5 things that help you overcome shyness. I found I needed a greater Self-Esteem, more self-confidence, not to be so self-conscious (worry about what people think, how you look or fit in), to socialize more around people and to face what scares or troubles you head on. This is roughly what I had to work on to improve myself and stop being so shy. First, going around in circles that I loved and made me happy and then venturing out into other things I wanted to learn about helped. You have to questioned yourself about what is it that is making you feel this way and come up with solutions. Staying positive and making goals for yourself are GREAT! It is a work in progress so you have to spend time on each thing and really be yourself and know yourself. Try to better your handling with stress, anxiety and your people phobia. Stay positive and always honest with yourself. Little by little you will notice the changes. It comes with time which depends solely on you. The more you mingle with others and get involved in things the less nervous you will be. Truly, because you won't give yourself time to think only about you or being uncomfortable and nervous around them. I hope in some way I was able to help answer your question and share some insight with you and others. Thanks for the discussion.
@luzamper (1357)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
If you are shy and you want to overcome it, try to mingle with people, participate in conversations, not necessarily discussions, take responsibilities or the lead in doing things or activities in school or in the community, and learn as many things as you can so that you develop self confidence. Shy people are sometimes insecure, they do not know what to do and so they lack self-confidence and to avoid this, one has to learn and study things necessary in life and in his surroundings or environment. We are people and we can easily make adjustments. We are adaptable to any situation. If you are a student, do good in your class standing. If you are employed, do good in your work. If we are good, shyness can be overcome.
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@sikkim (113)
• India
4 Feb 07
do not be afraid of situation if you run away from the crowd it will follow you once you face it the game is over.
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@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Overcoming shyness can be a life long process if you don't take steps to make it better. I am 66 and still have a problem with it. Not like when young but it still is there. A major part of my shyness is the belief that I am not good looking or that I just don't measure up somehow. I have never been told this but something in the mirror just doesn't look right. Of course it didn't help much that I was mostly bald by 30. If your avitar is a picture of you I can't see that being your problem. I find that I am constantly watching people who I meet to judge how they are excepting me. I don't talk much so can't really expect them to react to me but at the same time when I run across someone who is very open and friendly I find it easy to do the same. Do you find that also? Take it a day at a time. Question every feeling you have when confronted with this and keep telling yourself they are wrong. Instead of looking at the negitive find the positvie side of it. Before long you will be thinking more positive and it will help more than anything else. Does it get easier? Yes it does with time and dedication. But look at what you have to gain.
@merkava (1225)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
I overcame my shyness by not trying to think about that I AM a shy person. Specially when I'm with a new set of friends I must take a first step into starting a good conversation. When I was courting my girlfriend back then she had a lot of friends and I don't know how to approach them. I first listened to what they were talking to so that I know what they're interests are then I proceed.
@Chinese (55)
• Canada
7 Feb 07
I would just talk normally like you talk to your "boy" friends!
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@ekwits (510)
• Thailand
23 Feb 07
Become shyness when you are not self-confident ,nothing to say. About work, when i am not prepare well ,i shy to speak like get nervous to speak and i think that will speak incorrect and think that the teacher will understand or not. Get shy when i speak and everyone starred at me.
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• India
3 Mar 07
Shyness.. really dificult to find currect answer for that. As i think they should attend parties and some communities festival, which makes him/her to overcome shyness.. generally this kind of peoples having very limited friends. so i think if his/her friends try then it might be help to overcome from shyness. i mean atleast they share openly whatever probles arrives with him/her.
• India
1 Mar 07
shy should not be in life .if u feel shy then it is better to sit at home.do to shyness people are not taken in the job,as do to his shyness he can't speak with his customer frankly.to remove that shy from ur body u should participate in huge activities like solo signing ,dance,taking frankly with ur friends etc in school & college days itself.i don't have a bit of shyness feelings in me..
• United States
26 Feb 07
don't be loner just communicate with others........
• Singapore
24 Feb 07
There is really nothing to feel shy of, learn to be bold, bring out the courage and build-up the confidence that is within you.