Should age make more difference if the woman is older than if the man is older?

I think this is just one of those things that society has hard wired into our brains. Once upon a time, it would have been unthinkable for a man to date an older women. It just wasn't how it was done. That's just the way it was and people have a hard time letting go of traditions no matter how small and subtle they really are.

I have to admit that sometimes it makes me raise my eyebrows. I guess that since in some countries, and even in the US some time ago, it was accepted that 20+ year old men could be married to 13 year old girls and when they got older or had finished having kids they were traded in for younger wives, we don't think that much about it. Some people think that it is just a person's way of recapturing their youth by dating someone half their age. I guess it really depends on the couple if this will work or not. I can't imagine wanting to date a 20 year old guy again. I don't want to have to wait for him to grow up, ya know? Maturity levels have a lot to do with it, and most of the guys I know aren't very mature. :P

It shouldn't be! If something happened to my husband and I decided to remarry, I would want a younger man. Afterall, women usually live longer. Shhhh, don't tell my hubby!!

lol...i do not think so ,and in my opinion,the age is not the problem for the love between two persons.my boyfriend is younger than me,and we are very happy together.maybe one day,we will be married ,and i do not think there are more differences between us.

When I was dating, I would always date younger guys because I just did. I didn't think anything of it. Age is just a number, and I am not doing anything wrong. Even though I am older doesn't mean a thing. However, I do think that it is gross when a woman goes out with a man who could be her grandfather or father. To me, that is just disgusting.

I met a nice gentleman about a week ago, he works in a bar. When we first met there was flirting but nothing more than a deep gaze, wink and some jokes thrown around. I told him that I would come back to visit him (he's the bartender/owner) with some of my friends. Well, last night, myself along with about 5 of my other friends came back to visit. We had a lovely time, he locked the door and it was just my friends and his friends. We flirted, but I can tell he's a very friendly guy, because he had great convo's with all of my friends. I thought he was kind of diggin me until he asked me my age. I knew since last week that he's 31 and I told him last night that I was 19, he wasn't surprised but I could see discouragement in his eyes. He invited myself as well as my other homies to his b-day party and when it was time to say good-bye, he said it to me last and we shared a long hug, he asked me again if I was definitely going to his party( I reassured him), and we lingered by the door. Could it be that I'm just a 19 year old naive lil diva or could there possibly be a connection? I'm sure that this question or questions on there age difference would have raked/plagued there minds before they got together as well as during there relationship. In that they decided to get married despite what his parents might have thought or the opinions of others takes a lot of courage and determination. In this regards as long as they are not hurting anyone else and are happy to be together then more power to them for living there lives the way they want and with whom they want. As you have said he is an adult after all who can make his own decisions. The only foreseeable con that I can see is a physical one whereby he is 54 and she is 74. If they want to have kids then they would have to make it sooner rather than later so that the age barrier between her and the child isn't so great. However that is a long way off and nobody really knows what the future holds. It would be folly for them to deny there feelings for each other on the uncertainty of the future. Since they are consenting adults who no doubt would have thought it through they are absolutely right to live there lives for the now. I guess all you can do at this point in time is to be a supportive friend. To treat it just like any other relationship/marriage. (which it basically is anyway). If it works out then good for your friend, I'm sure that you would want to see him happy. If it doesn't work out and they separate then that's okay too as you can be there for him to help him get back on track if needs be.

As a guy, it never really made any difference to me, if a lady was older, I have never chased after young chicks, anyway.

nope, it is a mind set, it is like breaking the age old traditions your family or your culture affirms, few will be in favor, few are open-minded, others will be judgemental.. but 'God gave us the freewill, the liberty to choose ..though we have to be responsible, to take resposibility of our own actions and decisions.

i don't think so

It goes along with the 'madonna - wh*re complex'; if a woman sleeps with a hundred men she is a wh*re, if a guy does it, he is a stud. Olden men with younger women is socially acceptable but an older woman and a younger man isn't. I never date guys my own age as most of them are either complete losers or too stuck on themselves. Generally, I go out with guys that are about five years younger than me. I don't look my age so I rarely have anyone say anything about it but I do see people looking at these types of couples. Age is just a number ...

I personally think it doesnt matter whose older in the relationship and if someone has a problem with it than ignore hem because as long as the two people are in love thats what really matters anyways.Thanx for the ? tho'.

My fiance is considerably younger than me--more than 10 years, in fact. I have had a tendency to date a lot of younger guys, because I don't get along with guys my own age. They are generally either boring or unmotivated. My fiance, on the other hand, still has a lot of goals that I know he has the ability to accomplish, and he has the motivation as well. There are some people who look at it a little strangely--I have been asked a couple of times to verify that I gave the right birth years for the two of us. Of course, if he was my age and I was his, no one would think twice about it. Crazy double standards.

I think it is because that on a whole women mature much more quickly than men, but I think that if both people are of legal age and of sound mind I don't think there should be a problem. I would like to say I would only date someone older than myself but if the right man came along and he was yonger than me I would give it a shot too.