advice on why some people are so clingy-please respond, I will rate!

First question I'd be asking is how close is the blood-tie between her husband and Lori? I mean it stinks of fishy from here and I'm not close to them. Of course I could be pulling on my own experience here, but I know when my ex was spending a lot of time with someone and I felt left out I had a reason to feel that way. Maybe your friend should trust her gut instincts and go along anyway no matter how much of a 3rd wheel she feels like.

She has every right to feel offended or even a little jealous.Family member or not Missy deserves some respect from this other woman.I have one question....is Lori blood related to Missy's husband?If she is....Missy needs to explain to her hubby that she feels very much disrespected by Lori only calling his Cell-Phone and not including her as a family member. If she is not.....well that's a very different situation.In that case she needs to make it clear to him that she may trust him....but that she doesn't trust the other woman.After all....if she has no bad intentions....she could include Missy at least to a point. I hope it all works out for your friend....take care!

Hmmm..Okay if this lady is a family member your friend has nothing to get jealous off...although we cant take that away in women.. Why not tell her to talk to Loriand tell her how she feels..how she wants them to be close and maybe do some bonding. Do some dinner invitation and invite Lori. Make her feel she wants her to be her friend. Let her go with her husband when he goes to Loris place.Like pretend that she has to go some place and tell him she'll drop by and say hi on her way so they can go home together.Does Lori have a kid? and is she living alone? Well,if missy and her hubby have this great relationship she has nothing to worry about but to let his husband feels she is around for him always.

I don't think her husband should be taking on all that responsibility. I understand that she doesn't have a husband, but that is not the guys fault. She needs to hire someone for all that. It sounds like she is getting free work done. I would be upset. My husband and I try to do what we can for our family, but enough is enough. I don't mind helping them, but I have my own life and my own stuff to do. I am sure your friend and her husband has their own things to do too. Her husband needs to set boundaries. Unless he really enjoys doing it. As for the bonding between his wife and the relative, I wouldn't care. If she doesn't watch it, she will be called on too. Why would she be jealous of a family member and why would he say that? Something sounds fishy. Are you sure he goes to the family member's house?

Sounds real fishy to me. Is Lori related to George by blood, or just marriage? If by blood, then I would have to say for some reason Lori does not like Missy. If she is related by marriage, then Missy has every right to be upset, in fact Missy needs to put her foot down and tell Lori to call someone else, because Lori is after Missy's man. I cannot see any reason that Lori would do all this if she is not trying to steal George from Missy. That be my 2 cents worth, LOL

I think Missy has a right to feel left out of the situation. Her husband may feel like she shouldn't be upset, but it's still her feelings. He should be working to make his wife feel included. He should also ask Lori to respect his wife and call him on their home phone. Disregarding his wife's feelings is just going to cause more problems in the future.

I totally understand. I have a family member who is like this too. However in this situation...I think that the wife should be invited too...I don't blame her for being upset. I think she should talk to her husband and that this women should find someone else to help her out. After all it is not fair to always depend on a person who is already in a relationship...and I think her husband is being insensitive to her needs. Why shouldn't she feel jealous of threatened...I know I would in that instance. You have to be careful when it comes to your man and other women....

Are Lori and the husband related in any way? if they are there is no reason for him to say that she is jealouse of her. However I think she has the right to be alittle upset. It is her family and the Lori girl could call someone else sometimes. Also I really feel that this lori girl might be using him, playing a helpless woman that can do NOTHINg by herself - I really don´t like that kind, it is humiliating. I think your friend needs to sit down and have a talk with ehr hubby about how this makes her feel-!

This lady is taking advantage of his kindness and in return she is make his wife feel bad. It is wrong of her. She should be kind and make his wife feel welcomed in her home since your friend is giving up her time with her husband. That should also be appreciated. I don't think she is jealous I think she wants to spend time with her husband and since this other women is by herself shee no longer realize that it isn't just his time that she is taking it is thiers.

Well, it seems like Lori is suffering from low self-esteen, and in unable to cope alone, or move on with her life. I do feel sorry for Misys as it must be hard, but I also feel sorry for Lori too. And, please don't take offence, but I think the husbamd is rather enjoying being so much in demand, and being "fought" over by two women! I a a very proud person, - I am not clingy at all, - quite the opposite I think - so I would not ever let my partner know if he was doing somethng that upset me like this. I would just ignore it, and carry on as lormal, and hope things improved with time, when, perhaps, Lori will meet a new man of her own.

I definitely think Lori is taking advantage of Missy. She may be excluding Lori on purpose b/c she's jealous that she has such a great relationship with her husband and Missy is going through the divorce. I don't think Missy is acting jealous but men can be very protective of outside family members. I think Missy knows she can take advantage of George and he will come do what she wants. I think most people will take advantage of a situation if they believe they can get away with it. My SIL is going through a divorce and has everyone do everything for her. They do it so she keeps on asking. If they told her she needed to do something herself, she would have no choice but to do it. Same thing with Missy. If George put his foot down and said you can do it, she would have no choice but to do it herself.

I totally think that Lori is taking advantage of George's kindness and he is too blind to see that. I also think that George shouldn't let his wife be treated that way. If he is doing all of this stuff for Lori - and I am almost sure it is usually for free or for a lower rate that she would have to pay a professional - the least thing he could do is have Lori be nice to his wife. It is not fair for Missy to be left out like this yet Lori gets to use her husband the way she wants. I think Missy should speak to her husband about it again and try to get the point across to him that Lori is being extremely rude and it is not that she is jealous.

first question what is lori's relationship to george? is it his sister his x sister in law . i would put my foot down and tell lori to call a repairman because george is not one, if she cant take the time to sit and talk with missy and at least try to find some type of common ground then missy's hubby should not be there, his time is precious and it should be spent with his wife i mean why would it be hard or uncomfortable for lori if missy did come with george and her and lori sat and had a cup of coffee and got caught up on the family and as for her calling only his cell phone i would have a problem with that too, i would tell her call the house phone not my husbands cell,, it doesnt sound like missy has a problem with george but i would nip it in the bud before she comes home and finds lori living in her house

I wouldn't put up with it. I would be talking to Lori and asking her if she was jealous of me for having my husband. That she needs to learn how to do stuff for herself. She will never go out to try to find someone else as long has he has your friends hubby on hand whenever she needs him. Lori and your friend really need to sit down and talk with or without George.

I think missy has to talk to his husband and about her being left out. She should make him understand that the things which he is doing is not good, and he has to think of their life too, before checking out with other problem. Otherwise their life would become miserable.

i would stop my husband going there immediately . obviously he thinks more of this family member than he does of his wifes feelings. shes too soft and i would be asking questions if i were her, not standing back.

it needs to be found out what kind of real relationship there is between lori and missy hubby.IT is not esential that there has to be something untoward between them. THere can be simple friendship. NOW it is up to the hubby to make sure that he takes wife in to confidence and only then goto help lori. ONCE wife has been convinced there willbe no problem.

It would be wise for Missy to talk to her husband about this. This does not sound good at all. There's just simply something wrong somewhere. It will be a welcome thing if George is able to shake this girl off his shoulder because, judging from how you related it here, that woman is up to something no wife will ever approve of. Missy must have a heart to heart talk with George and George should better listen before he gets divorced, too. I am quite sure that once Missy reaches the end of her patience of this kind of setup between George and Lori, the marriage shall break up. George should better understand that a wife's patience may run long but there is always an end to it. If George is a good friend of yours too and there is good chance you will be able to talk to him about this, you'd better take the first step. Then advice George to talk to Missy about this, in order for them to iron this thing out before it gets offhand. It could be that George is not considering how Missy feels because he enjoys the company of that scheming woman called Lori.

it has been five years since the divorce and missy needs to put her foot down and tell her husband no more. if it were me in missy's shoes i would think that hubby and lori has something going on behind her back even if they are related. how close is the relation? how much does she trust hubby? i don't think missy is acting jealous, she wants her husband home with her and doing things around their house not running to lori's who is five years not five days out of a divorce to do her work and spend time with her. ur friend needs to evaluate her situation and really try to talk to hubby about this. for the sake of her marriage.

Missy has all the right to be upset on his husband. Lori is his ex wife missy not only upset I guest she's jealous to what if by always visiting his ex wife they grew love to each other again. her husband should stop seeing his ex wife.