When did your child go in a "big kid" bed?
By chaygylmommy
@chaygylmommy (2470)
United States
February 4, 2007 9:43pm CST
My daughter is about to turn 3 and she still sleeps in her crib. She is a very small 3...just 25 lbs and she loves her crib. She has never asked for a big girl bed or anything. I have thought about trying her in a big bed, but she sleeps so good in her crib..she still can't climb out or anything.
Here is my other dilemma...we are moving to Florida in about 5 months. I am afraid to try to make any kind of major transition right now since she will have a major one in a few months. ya know?
I woudl like to hear your thoughts...when did your kids go in a "big kid" bed? My son (5 yrs) is just now going in his own bed from our family bed. My daughter never liked sleeping with us.
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@chaygylmommy (2470)
• United States
5 Feb 07
thank you. i tend to agree with you, but I have heard things from some people that she is too old for a crib. I just don't want to throw too much at her. I know kids are reseliant, but still...
anyhow, thanks for your input
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Oh my. Don't let those people bother you, you raise that little angel the way YOU see fit! She will let you know when she is ready to get a new bed. As long as she is sleeping well and is in no danger of injury from attempting to get out of it, who cares! I see by another poster's comments that you are moving soon, that alone is enough of a change for her. To be in a new room, new house will be frighning enough, why throw a new bed in the mix! That will be the one 'constant' in that new room, in that new house! Enjoy her while she is small, soon she will be the age of mine and leaving for college. Ohhhh, it hurts so bad!
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@chaygylmommy (2470)
• United States
6 Feb 07
thank you so much for the support and the ideas. :) I am going to leave her in the crib for a while longer. I don't want to stress her too much with the move.
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I think you should go with what you think is right for you. My son nvere got a big boy bed until he was fourish. he loved his crib. I would leave the side down so he could climb in and out. And even after that, he preferred to sleep on a love seat. I always had a bed and a love seat in his room.lol. Now, my grandson just got his big boy bed and he is 3. But his Poppy made it for him and he loves it. Being that you are moving soon I think it might be best to wait. Too many changes at once might not be good for the little girl.
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@chaygylmommy (2470)
• United States
5 Feb 07
thank you for your comment. I am of the same mindframe...just had some people tell me she's too old so I started thinking maybe I was just being overprotective or babying her too much since she's my littlest. :)
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Well with my neice it was when she started to constantly climb out of the crib. We then got her the normal bed since the crib wasn't keeping her in and she could get hurt worse by climbing out. I've always been told that when they do that it's the indication to move up in beds. I don't see where it would be a problem to keep her in there as long as she's safe and happy with it. If you are concerned and want to do the switch maybe when you do the move? It might work out best then. You know new house, new bed, etc. Sometimes that works well with kids but other kids it' doesn't.
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
6 Feb 07
My grandaughter just made the big switch a few weeks ago. She will be 4 at the end of April. So far, it hasn't been any problem. I don't think there is any set age. A lot of times, she likes to just sleep on the floor rolled up in blankets. I think it is a good idea to wait after getting settled in your new place.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
6 Feb 07
My daughter slept in her crib until she was almost 4. And even after that , she would often just climb out and ask us if she could join us in our bed. It took her a long time to adjust. My son, on the other hand, was in his own bed at 2 and loving it.
I wouldn't force it on her. But if possible would have her room set up with a big girl bed and allow her to get used to it naturally. Maybe take a nap with her in the "new " bed, or just lay down while reading a story.
I don't think there is any specific time where the child should leave the crib...it will come naturally when she's ready. On the other hand, nothing wrong in making the big girl bed available for her to get used to it. Set it up with a nice cover, maybe with her favorite character, or favorite color.. and she will end up loving it:)
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I was two when I started, but then again, I was a tall child since birth.
@pendragon (3349)
• United States
5 Feb 07
My little girl was about4 yrs old, and the firest week she was in it, she became deathly afraid of the dark, I think it's because the bed was so "open" compared to her crib-bed, she got over it after a week of screaming and leaving the light on,lol.
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@harwoodkp (285)
• United States
5 Feb 07
every child is different. By the time he was 2 he had a junior bed, and loved it. He climbed on before the sheets were even on. Then by the time he was three he had a full size bed. We put a small barrior on the side to keep him from falling out. He loved it instantly and he also loved the adventure of getting something new.
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@rahuldmhatre (736)
• India
5 Feb 07
well i think i went in the big kid bed since i was five years old, my parents said that i always wanted to and liked to sleep alone in the bed....i never even liked to sleep with my parents since i was three......
@hikarushidou (843)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
Maybe you bought her a really beautiful crib bed that's why she never wants to let go of it! But if you talk to her and tell her since you're moving out, tell her there will be changes. I mean its a good opportunity and maybe she'll understand.
@abovewater (36)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Both my kids were in Big Beds by the time they were two. DS took a little longer to adapt as he would "wander" after we put him to bed. He still loves to sleep in mom and dads bed from time to time even though he's 10. His bed isn't the most comfortable so i can't blame him for not wanting to. That's my next expenditure...get him a new bed and mattress.
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@apky12 (769)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I would definitely keep her in her crib. My son is 3 in April. We put him in a big boy bed. He did fine for a month and then was scared of everything. We had to put him back in his crib. I think if she's happy in it and isn't asking to be in a big girl bed or climbing out all the time you should just keep her where she is for right now. You are getting ready to have a big change in a few months so the less changes the better in my opinion.
@lvsummer (25)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I have 4 children including 3 year old twins. I switched all of my children to toddler beds at 18 months and on to twins by 3. It seems to have worked for them. But I do have to mention I did not wean any off the bottle or potty train either. They did all that themselves. I have very advanced kids it seems. Toddler beds have side rails and that helps. Try getting her a cute bed set with her favorite characters. Make it a wonderful transitional and she will not even know you are moving her out of the crib.
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@sharon613 (2321)
• United States
5 Feb 07
My child turned 4 this past September and we just were able to get him a bed about a month ago. He still occasionally likes to sleep in our bed as well.
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@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Once they start climbing out of the crib it is time because you don't want them getting hurt. I think that when you move it might be a good idea also. I new bed for a new room but if you introduce it and it doesn't work I wouldn't push it. It's hard enough to have a big change.
@fabwisp (1327)
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5 Feb 07
My youngest went in to a proper bed at 6 months old. She had a bed guard and there have been no problems.
I think in your postion I would give her a new big girls bed when you move house. And make a big deal about her havin a theme. I dont know what she likes but my little girl loves faeries. Let her help you pick bedcovers and curtains and little accessories for her new room.
Hope that helps you a little.
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@candygurl24 (1880)
• Canada
5 Feb 07
My oldest daughter was just over 2 when she was more than ready for her 'big girl bed', and my youngest was the same age. I think what helped my youngest out with the transition was that it was a 3 in 1 crib. So she went from crib to toddler bed, but it was the same.
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@angelastreit (287)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I have asked my mother and other parents and they have always told me that when a child starts to walk and also climb out of it. I think if your moving or whatever use your best judgement. If you want to move her to a big bed then make sure that she has stuff from her crib around her to make her know that she is ok. Another thing that you can do is make a party out of the big bed. Throw her a little mini family party to know that she's doing something good by going into the bed.
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@madtownsweety (418)
• United States
5 Feb 07
We switched our daughter to a big kid bed when she was about 2 1/2 we did it to make her feel more like a big kid and less like a baby. We told her that cribs are for babies and she was a big girl and didn't need it anymore we took her and let her help us pick it out and then we let her pick out the bedding it made the transition that much easier!
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