family

Wow,bless your heart, at least you stood up and took care of your daughter when her mother wouldnt. realize its natural for her to ask about her mom and I would sit her down and in words she can understand, tell her mommy has a sickness and isnt well. Maybe one day she can get help for the sickness and visit. But your with me because I can take care of you and because I love you more than you will ever. I can see why your upset and I will be thinking of you and hope things gets better for you!

You have a very big heart. I think sitting down with your daughter and explaining to her in a way she would understand would be best. We often think the children are fragile and that they be happier if they didn't know about the awful things around them. But they are much stronger than we think. Your daughter also knows how much you love her, explaining these things will not make her love you less or put a wall between the two of you. Making things clear to her, will take out all her apprehensions. You are the best person to help her with this.

Well thank god she has you. I think you just need to explain to her that her mother is sick right now..and that she needs to get better ... I think you have a right to be upset...but just think of your daughter and love her and things will work out....I am sure...

You have good reason to vent. Just remember that if the mom is like that the best thing for her is to stay away. I would be honest with the baby and tell her that mom has problems and that is why she isn't around. You don't have to be hurtful about it just understanding. I hope that you can figure everything out so that you can take care of yourself and the child. My heart goes out to you.

I am not a single mother, but I have a husband who is taking care of my daughter who is not biologically his. He has been since the day she was born. Lately, she has been asking about her "sperm donor". She is well aware my husband is not her biological father. But she desperately wants to know more about her father, see him, spend time with him. And he keeps saying he will, but it never really happens. I can relate to the pain of sharing that part with your child. It is definitely hard. All you can do is weather the storm, tell your daughter what you can that is good, and allow it to subside. I know it is hard to share with her that her mother is this lady who could careless about her daughter, but if share the nice things, she will eventually learn the other side on her own. If you share with her the honest and blunt truth, she will probably be furious with you in some way.

first of al i wud like to say....HATS OFF!!! i mean u r doin wel..I cn undrstnd HOW IT FEELS WEN SUCH A SMALL CHILD ASK YA SMTHIN DAT U CNT ANSWER.................try to tel her she is a gift frm GOD,,,i mean yes it sounds funny bt stil dis wil give hr faith n satisfaction .Dont try to break d emotions of d lil child.....!!! as d tym pass she find d answer herslf....

Family to me is everything, and I do my best to try to keep things stable at my home. I have a mother who has just gotten over Bell's Palsy, but not the loss of her only son, a grandmother who is losing her mind, a step-father who has already lost his mind, and cousins who are in worse shape than I will ever be in.

one famly means father mother children, and a good relation between them

good for you you are obviously a good parent or else this wouldnt even be on your mind i think your daughter has the right to know that her mother is not well maybe you should try and tell her in a nice way that her mother is not very well and needs to be away at the moment as she gets older she may want to know more but for now let your daughter believe that her mother does love her and cant be with her because she is ill. i think you have good cause to moan if you feel like it thats what this site is all about getting things off your chest and getting usefull advice from others who may have been where you are at the moment. i live in the uk and our benefit system is very good people who cannot work due to reasons beyond their control are given a good sum to keep them afloat till they can get back to work and i think its a fair amount i myself dont need benefits but i do think that our system is very generous and helps alot of people through the hard times in their life. i wish you and your family all the luck in the world and i hope your future is alot more easier than it has been.

I salute you for that. Here in Philippines family is really the most important of all though this kind of situation is not new in here also. If I'm in your situation, I will still try to tell my daughter all the good things about her mother because the other side will be a bad contribution to the aspect of her life. Though you need to be honest about your situation of course that you can never be the same with the other family which is complete. I would rather focus on how to raise my daughter a better person.

that greatb to you ,family is all the things in a man 's life.you have a cleaver daughter,it 's lucky to you ,you should love her and take care of her.

I think it is great that you are taking the responsibility of your daughter on your own. I think you need to shelter kids a little from the truth. Perhaps just tell her that her mother loves her a lot but can't be with her right at the moment. There is plenty of time for the truth when she is older and can deal with it.

it takews guts to say that i respect u and i think u should tell her eventually but when shes older

Tell her that you will tell her when she is old enough. No need to blow up her self-esteem now.

nice ut thinking

A family means the parents,the kids,and everything that composes the family.I love my family!

Don't worry my dear there is life much more beyond Family...What you can do at present is just motivate your self towards an activity which you are very much interested and take care of your daughter and make her aware of the situation now and then... Let her get mentally matured ..

That's got to be really hard. I would tell her that her mother knew she wasn't well enough to take care of her, and that out of love, her mother did the best thing she could, and gave her to you to care for. I wouldn't encourage her mother to get involved in your life unless she is clean, because that is just a nightmare and your daughter doesn't deserve it. But if you tell her that her mother gave her to you out of love for her, it may ease it a bit that her mother wasn't well enough to take care of her. Good luck.

Its hard to face such a question from child's mouth. But I think we should look at things from her perspective and try answering accordingly.

family is the best thing made by humans that is the place where we cn share our bad and good things