If your Husband cheated on you, would you forgive him, or leave him?

I was married to two men who cheated on me. I was willing to work things out and get past it. But both of them left me for the other woman. It's not that I'm willing to be taken advantage of, it's just I know people make mistakes. When I made my vows of marriage, I meant to keep that promise. For better or worse, means just that. For some reason, people feel that marriage should last until it gets difficult, then bail out. What's the purpose of getting married, if you are going to take the easy way out.

I think you have to have proof not just a feeling. If you were thinking this over a feeling you have to think it could be trust issues. I think I would be sure before I ruined a marriage of 5 years.

I honestly dont think I could forgive him. Marriage is a sacred vow in my mind and heart and if he broke that just to get laid then I dont think I could handle being with him anymore. That is the ultimate betrayal of trust!

i think i would leave him because i couldnt ever imagine my husband with another woman. i wouldnt want to imagine it becasue it would hurt too much. and just to think that he lied to me and pretended he loved me when he was with another woman at the same time. it would disgust me. but then again, ive never been in that situation so i dont know exactly what i'd do but i dont think i could ever be with him after that.

I woudl be very hurt, very devastated beyond comprehension. (I really hope this didnt' happen to you, I really hope that you are just saying this as a "what if scenario") If it was me though, I would have to leave my husband. I would try to get all the information that I could out of him, mainly I would want to know why why why why why. I don't think that question would ever be properly answered for me. But I would have to leave him. The reason is because I had been cheated on before by my fiance before I met my husband and I tried to forgive the man, as I was in love and living with him and planning ot get married, but I never ever could. I tried for 5 years (we were together for 7) but I never trusted him again, and just grew more and more distrustful suspisious and angry. My fiance couldn't even come home from work 20 minutes late without me checking his pockets and readin ghis diary to see if he was cheating. As far as I know, he never did, but how do I know? I never trusted him after that. I just can't go through that again. When I finally broke up with my fiance, it was like a light in my heart came back on again, and I was able to see the good in life and able to realize that I was only a suspicious person because of him and what he did.

First I would confront him about it and want to find out the details. I would give him a chance to say his piece and then I would have to decide whether or not to forgive him, depending on his response and whether or not he seemed to feel remorseful. Even if I did forgive him and decide to continue the relationship, it would take a LONG time for him to win back my trust again. I would question him at every turn and he'd better not complain about it either!

Leave him. If I wasn't good enough for him once, then I'll never be good enough for him. No one deserves to put up with that.

I would confront him to be absolutely sure and get the whole story. You are basing this on a "feeling" in your heart. You very well could be right, but let me play the devil's advocate here. What if he was chatting innocently with a female online, as so many people do, and she took it all out of proportion and imagined that they had a "relationship"? Maybe they never even met. Maybe this "relationship" she is referring to is their online correspondence. Not having read the e-mails, I don't know if there was anything specific in them to say that they had met in person, but it seems as if you're at least partially thinking that this may be a misunderstanding. You don't want to throw away a 5 year relationship over an online chat. But, if he definitely had an affair with another woman, I would have him out of the house so fast that his head would spin. I truly believe that cheating is the one thing that cannot be forgiven. It makes a joke out of your marriage vows, which are personal, spiritual, and legal promises. Once a cheater, always a cheater. But give him his "day in court" to explain.

i will forgive him, but i will cheat him too!lolz seriously if i do prove that he does cheated me and that hurt me so badly, hurt that i almost did'nt know how to forgive i will leave my husband for good. even we share an account, the house we buy, the furniture and fixture and all this shared assets, this cannot hinder me to ease myself from the suffering, but of course i didn't say that i will it to him of course i will take an action legally. 5 years is nothing if i will live with full of sufferings wih him!

I would leave him in a heart beat. Once a cheat always a cheat. I told my husband when we got married that if he ever cheated on me Not to bother coming home. I dont understand why people get married if they cant stay faithful.

It all depends on the situation and the people involved. It is a very difficult decision, and there are no rights or wrongs, just what works best for each person. Some people would be able to work it out. Overcome the difficulties of the situation and even, with time, enjoy their marriage again, sometimes in an even better relationship. Some people, even if they would like to, won't be able to do this. Nothing wrong or right with them, just because their temperament would not allow then to ever forgive, understand or trust their spouse again. One person posted something about a woman that stayed with her husband after his infidelity and made his life miserable for a long time. I am sure that this woman made her life miserable as well. This will never work and in that case, leaving would probably be the best course of action. THere are many reasons why people cheat in their relationships and cheating doesn't necessarily makes the person a bad person, just a person that made a bad choice. I remember long time ago, when women stayed with their unfaithful husbands because they had no choice, or were afraid or even worried about what other people might think of them. As if it was their fault! I didn't agree with that them. HOwever, nowadays I see many people leaving without even making the smallest effort to work things our or at least think about the possibility of doing so. I don't agree with that either. Living together with someone we love is a very complex thing and requires hard work. On both sides. Life is hard and complicated and we change with time. We also do so many things at the same time that some tend to stay behind- on both parts -.Both husbands and wifes work hard and often many hours. Sometimes spending much more time at work with coworkers then at home with the family. Boundaries are often muddled and easy to step over without even noticing what really is happening... there are so many things involved that can be considerated. I believe that although it doesn't look like that, it is important to understand that the choice rests in the cheated spouse. It's their choice to decided if they want to give their spouse a chance, or even if they think they would be able to do so and go through it. ANd if they have a temperament that will allow them to bury the hatchet when things are finally all worked out - and this might take some time. It is their choice to think long and hard about what they want to do, if they will be able to do it, what their limitations are, and finally decide what will be better for them - stay or go. But none of this can be done in the heat of the moment. NOt even in the first few days, while things are bleak and it's difficult to think straight. It can be done, either way....

If my husband cheated on me... i think i will forgive him, but leave as well. Once the trust has been broken, even if he promises that he will change, the doubts will always be at the back of my mind...

I would leave my partner if she cheated on me. I would always give my all to my partner, provide her all her needs physically, emotionally, and everything that she'd ever need. And if all of that would mean nothing and still cheat on me, no second thoughts, I'd leave her. She's goto to do something way drastic to get me back. and I think it'd be quite impossible to do so because I know I'd mever just let my relationship go just like that to be left and cheated.

I have been here and I did both. After I found out that it happened I gave him another chance. From what he said, it was only a kiss so I figured okay even though I thought he was lying. I tried it for the sake of my son but when he started acting sneaky again, i was done. I left him. Even when i was with him the second time, I truly never got over it. I hated the fact that I devoted my life and my time to him only to get smacked in the face.It was the best decision I had ever made. Divorcing him was the greatest day of my life. I have since remarried and I am so happy now. When you are in the situation sometimes you don't realize that there is a much better situation waiting for you on th other side.

I would slap him around for not telling me about her, I would ask him if he wanted a divorce but I wouldnt leave him....There wouldnt be any forgiving to be had as far as him sleepign with someone else goes because I dont have a problem with that..it'd be the not telling me that would seriously p!ss me off but I would eventually forgive him (it would take a while and he would suffer the wrath in the meantime) for hiding it from me...

Well I dont know but in my case I will forgive him primarily

wow, well first of all, whatever reasons or thinking processes that he has/had that made ths a possible consideration would be my first questions? If he is not a moral person who will respect you and him self then it maybe just time to say goodbye. Also was he busted , forced to be honest or did he come forth on his own accord? This says alot about a person in itself. Next question, did he show true remorse and regret? Have his actions shown a real change.? Would he be willing to rebuild the trust between you and maintain honesty because he would have to work very hard to do that.. I would be taking all these things into consideration as well as exactly what happened and who it happened with? There have been cases of very wild women going after married men and trying to seduce them.Some of them do it as a sport so to speak, just to prove they can.You also have stalkers and so many senarios....Sometimes someone you may even know will try to pull this. I have known of people being set up. I am not making excuses but I think its important to look at who and why. If you really love the man and seek to understand him then you may want to dig deeper into what is really behind it all.

It is just "Fool Me Once, Shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me"!

In my point of view......I try to forgive but by explaining him the situation.If he is still doing the thing then I will no doubt leave him away.

Cheating is a form of infidelity and it is definitely a grave sin. But hey! I'm just a woman who savors sweet revenge! Ha! I'd definitely forgive him but not leave him. Why? Coz its will be his conscience to bother him not mine. :) Imagine an eternity being served by the man you love who cheated on you?!?!