HELP!!! I have a 2 year old and a new born.

I had a 15 month old when I had a newborn and it is tough. They just don't really know what to make of it. They don't understand why this little person consumes so much time and energy and no matter what, it's taking away from them. Their whole world has been turned upside down too. It will get better. I promise. He's 2 and testing his boundaries anyway and then there was a huge life altering change for him so that's going to make it a little worst. You'll see in no time he'll act better and love his sibling. It's normal though.

Sounds like the terrible twos :) And maybe a little bit of jealousy too. It's difficult when they are this young, I've been there and can understand the feeling of wanting to rip your hair out. I found what worked well for me was getting my oldest to help me where she could. If I was changing the baby's bum I would let her help or let her decide what clothes he should wear that day. You clearly cannot spend all your time with your two year old as you have a newborn and the two year old needs to learn patience and that sometimes he may have to wait a few moments for something he wants. I hope this helps ;)

Like most of us kids are no exception to feeling jealous. Having a new member in the family and a baby at that, would make your would have been youngest upset cause for one he is no longer the star in the family. So he sees his younger brother or sister as a competition. A competition to dad and mom's attention, a competition to toys, and a competition to almost everything. It is pretty difficult when they are young since they may not understand anything at all no matter how hard you explain because they learn things through observation. What you can do then is to let him see the baby as his brother and not as the competition. Involve him in your activities with the baby and make them close. Let him touch the baby but do have close supervision of your son always when with the baby. I bet he would recognize the baby as his sibling when it begins to smile at him.

I've experienced the same thing. My first born was very adorable, sweet little kid prior to the birth of my 2nd child. He is always been with my care and never did i leave to the nanny. I only left him once, that was when i gave birth to my 2nd child. When we came back from the hospital, i felt that my son has been possessed by some evil monster. he changed a lot. It took me a lot of months and effort to bring him back to his oldself. I spent a lot of time talking to him, i also ask him to help me take care of his baby brother and make him feel he is in charge. somehow, it works.