Gender Roles - Do you and your partner follow them?

Not really. He travels a lot, so sometimes I'm the only one around to kill bugs, change light bulbs and take out the trash. At the same time, when he is home, he helps with the cooking and cleaning. He is more into cleaning than I am. I take care of the finances.

We're the same way. My husband is a great cook, which is fortunate because I can burn water! He's also a neat freak so he's always cleaning house. Me? I'd rather be outside cutting the grass or weedeating. One year for mother's day I asked for a leaf blower/vac!

ehm, i think nowdays, it's become a normal habits in a family although it's still too extremly change for almost people. the change of roles is normal for a family nowdays, just do what you feel it's the best.

Well, I do love to cook, I like being creative and making up my own recipes. But I'm definately not the stay-at-home housewife type. I know how to handle my power tools, one of my favorite projects was my kitchen table- I sanded it down, stained it, and refinished it and 6 chairs myself. I've also painted a whole house interior, and installed hardwood flooring for friends. I also have been taking care of the budgeting/bill paying recently. He will likely always be the primary breadwinner, because I chose my field based on my love for the work, and wildlife biology doesn't pay well... I like working outdoors though, and it is long, hard hours. I hate the old gender stereotypes, we're equals and can both do the same things.

I think that gender roles are outdated and stupid. I've spent plenty of time working in construction, both building stage sets and remodeling homes. I'm pretty handy, and I'd much rather use a power drill than a curling iron. Sometimes I'd even rather use the power drill on my hair than the curling iron. And my boyfriend is totally not the typical male. For one, if he gets really upset, he cries instead of punching something. He also writes poetry, hates sports, and is a very good cook. So no...traditional gender roles are just not our thing.

We don't follow traditional gender roles. Right now I'm at work (the breadwinner) and he's at home (his day off, he only works part time in the winter). Today he'll do the laundry and clean up the house. When I get home I'll make dinner. We do what we need to do to keep the house clean, and that means I do more in the summer when he works 6-7 days a week and he does more in the winter when he works 3-4 days a week. I usually do all the cooking since I love to cook and he...well, he sucks. His version of cooking is going to Taco Bell or McDonalds. He does 99% of the laundry since I HATE doing laundry and he doesn't mind it. I do all the bills and financial stuff since he hates it and I don't mind it.

Well I guess it dont really matter, they only think that matters is that the nobody is getting offfended and the realtionship is on good terms.

Uhm I don't think our capabilities of doing things as per genders say on it has got nothing to do with genders. Mostly men and women now do each others roles even if that role is not for them. I can do what any man can do in regards to his roles at home...and my husband does somethings a woman does like cook, wash the clothes and such...Our capabities in life does have nothing to do with our growing up or developing much qualities. I believe it is with our own inner attitude that we succeed in life.

exchange of charge makes person happy.it is quite ok.

no, we never do that each other ... just no matter about that way ... both of you decide it by yourselves ...

This is cute. My boyfriend and I are a little unconventional too. He cooks I clean. I don't cook but he loves to. Plus, he is a lot more sensitive and emotional than I am, lol. Between the two of us, he is the girl and I am the guy. And I love it. hehe. So there is nothing wrong with not following gender roles. Every relationship is different after all.

In some respects we follow gender roles but in other respects,no. I work in a factory and make much more money than he does and am primarily responsible for paying the bills. However, he is in the process of building his business and is in no way unambitious or lazy. He works from home and does the majority of the housework and cooking, since I am so tired from being on my feet 8 hours a day at work doing heavy lifting. I pay all the bills and am in charge of any organization of the household. When we go out he does the driving, since I don't really like to drive and he does. We do the things that come naturally best to each of us. It's not usually an issue. Well, the housework does become an issue, but when we started having a lady come in to every other week for a couple of hours it really alleviated a lot of stress.

(hi from the lush NA forums!) As much as I'd like to think we don't, I kinda think we do! While the hubs used to be a professional chef, when it comes to everyday eating, I think I tend to make most of the meals. (maybe that's 'cause I eat most of them too!) And as far as household cleaning, I tend to instigate a cleaning session. But both of us work, and I do make more money and work fewer hours (meaning that I'm at home more to do more of the household things). Hmm.

We don't follow the roles and we don't keep track of them. We just do whatever we want; if I feel like cookin', I cook.

That's quiet unusual things I have found. Mostly men are associated with outdoor activities and women are better with home so do me and girl frnd :)