Did you meet your partner on the internet?
By ginagee
@ginagee (843)
February 6, 2007 12:18pm CST
I want to know if anyone has met their partner in a chat room, or dating on-line. How safe is this to do? Were the people you met geniune? how long should you talk to them before you arrange to meet? I've looked at these online dating places but have never had the courage to actually meet someone so I would like to hear from someone who did meet the person they 'chatted' to online. Is there anyone out there who is brave enough to do that?
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93 responses
@yanjiaren (9031)
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6 Feb 07
i met mine on match.com..is anything safe?
it is all pot luck..if the person is genuine he will be..
we spoke online on the phone wrote letters and emailed for four months before we met..i have never looked back..so did my sister..she is seven years heavenly married..it is what we make of it..
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@Only1Andrea (796)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I met my husband in yahoo Christian chat. Although I did, I wouldn't just out and out recommend this to everyone, because there are alot of fraudulent people on the internet.
I wasn't even looking to be involved with anyone. It was my first day ever in a chat room and we just happened to meet and stayed in contact. A year or so later we were married. Crazy I know and I don't usually tell this story. I usually tell everyone we met through a mutual friend because people would judge me and not realize that it can really happen.
I met my husband about 6 months or so after we started in chat. We chatted every day and were on the phone constantly. It was really weird because I never thought it would happen that way.
I would CAUTION any and everyone though. I was blessed, but I also have come across some real perverts on the internet as well just from playing in the yahoo games forum. SO PLEASE BY ALL MEANS BE CAREFUL!!!!!
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@faerieingrey (323)
• United States
7 Feb 07
U agree with every point in this - it is so important to be careful. I met my boyfriend of four years online, and I wouldn't trade him for anyone in the world. But the internet is a very dangerous place, and what worked for me will not definitely work for others.
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@archiee (322)
• India
7 Feb 07
you cannot understand a person from an online dating. no one is true in today's world i am saying this as i have tried this many times ansd failed. people will just fool with you and you will never know. if you are a emotional fool then you will surely fall in a depresion. so i suggest you to stay at a one hand distance. talk but never give phone numbers and never try to meet them.
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@poojakotian (28)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Feb 07
hey i havent met anyone yet but i wud like to advise you not to fall for such things unless you are strong enough to face the consequences and move on with your life.
caution internet is a very dangerous place to do such stuff...specially to find someone you wanna spend your life with.
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@patrickowens1979 (31)
• United States
7 Feb 07
i did about 6 years ago, what happened we were talking to each other in a chat room and diddn't know it. I was at the library and i was board so i got online for the first time ever. and we literaly conected. we had so much in common that i asked her if she wanted to go see a movie or something. she said yes, so the follwing weekend i drove to meet her, the funny thing is she thaught i stood her up because i was 3 hours late. i told her why i was late then i meet her mom and dad. they are cool. anyways we got to the movie house and there was nothing playing that we wanted to see. so instead we went and grabed something to eat at this pizza place, we go back to that place at leaste once a year. then we went to a park walked around, we got to know more about each other. 5 years latter we had a child a baby boy. then we got married 6 months latter.
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@ASoldiersAngel02 (633)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I actually met my fiance on myspace.He was in the army stationed in Italy and was deployed to Iraq. I am a college student. he sent me a message asking if I would mind being friends and talking to him because he needed a sort of female companion to talk to. In the message he told me all about himself and had thoroughly read through mine and found things we had in common. I agreed because I found him to be very sincere. After a few weeks we came to find we had mutual friends though we had never met nor heard of the other. We talked everyday for a month before he asked if i would consider dating him even though we hadnt met. By this time i cared for him deeply as a friend and was more than happy to try something more. He was coming home soon to visit and we figured there was no harm in trying it out. clearly it worked because a year later we are still together and though he is deployed to Iraq now we are planning our wedding for this fall. Deciding for yourself is something only you can do. Go with your instinct. There is no harm in forming friendships and if you feel something more developing dont be afraid. Be skeptical but dont be afraid. once my fiance and I figured out we had mutual friends I went to them and essentially verified everything he ever told me and it was all true. That was a major influence in why i agreed to date him. I'm very happy with my decision. Hopefully things work out well for you.
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@Casshern (100)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 07
well love will find U if u try no matter what....
dont care if u meet her / him on date online, on the street...
i was dating with some1 i met from online...
3 times i did it...
n there's nothing 2 worry bout ...
actually my friend got married from this kind of date...
who knows ???
@lilangel1869 (126)
• United States
7 Feb 07
i meet my husband online 6 years ago. We didnt mean till 3 years after we started talking. We got married almost 2 years ago and everything has been great. Besides my husband i never really meet anyone in person from offline. But when i did i always had my mom around....
@earth2jacq (1502)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
Yes I did. I met him in one of the forums I visit. He was looking for agents to assist him in his business. I was looking for a part time work at that time so I decided to meet him. Our frequent meetings eventually resulted in a business partnership and eventually led to a romantic partnership. Just a caution though: Don't assume that what people tell you on the net is actually what they are. Be always on your guard then just for yourself if the person is being honest to what he represents he is.
@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
7 Feb 07
i met my husband online back in Jan of 2005 in a yahoo chat room we started out as friends and it grew to be best of friends.around may of 2005 we decided to be a couple wasn't til Jan of 06 we decided to meet. and let me tell you he was an absolutely a dream come true for me. we moved in together May of 06 and was married June 16th and have been very happy every since. so yes it is possible. i say talk to the person awhile and get to know them dont rush into anything to you now alot about them because its really not safe,what with all the jerks and murders out there. after you talk to the person and become friends and you know about them and caught them in alot of lies i say slowly move towards it just be careful. dont never jump into anything until you know them. if you decide to try it just be safe and good luck:)
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@freelife2 (76)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I met my husband 7 years ago in Excite.com chat room. We started out as just friends spent many hours in chat room and on phone hours at a time. We grew close for almost a year before we meet. I can say you have to be very careful doing it but it can be done. He is the best thing that could have every happened to. I feel very blessed to have him.
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@designermom (69)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I met my husband in a chat room, eight years ago, and we're still going strong. I wouldn't advise it though, no a days you never know what you're going to get...
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@arwenrey (315)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
I did not met my husband online but i had experienced dating online, i think its exciting and risky. I am careful when i communicate with him, i ask my date online to give me proof that he is sincere in his intentions in doing so he called me on the phone, sends me pictures on his vacation gateaways and even sends me money, but unfortunately we stopped communicating because i still have doubts on his intentions, we never chat online just email and in our eight months of online relationship we just talked twice on the phone because we are from different countries. In the end i realize that he is looking for a temporary companion for his vacation gateaways.
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@babydolphin (536)
• Australia
7 Feb 07
Okay, Ive actually done it hahaha well not really online dating kind of things. Couple of years ago, I spent heaps of time in a chat room, and started to get to know people from my country Indonesia (I was in Australia at that time) and we sort of became friends although we never met. And I did date several guys (one at a time hahahaha). How long should I talk to them before meeting them? Its hard to tell because it is different with anyone. What usually happens is that we chatted on line, and then they call me and we start talking on the phone etc2 and then meet up somewhere .. of course the rule you shouldnt meet in place that are too empty because it is dangerous. So we usually meet in the city where it is crowded and everyone is around.. go for lunch or dinner.. go for movies etc2.. My rule is that I only meet guys in crowded place, I dont go in their car, and I tell my friend where Im going and with whom etc. So, I feel a bit safer. Most of the guys Ive met are decent people and still friends with me until now, but I admit that there are a few that a bit nuts :P I encourage you if you really want to try for dating online then you should go.. but treat it as casual dating first, at least until you are sure and really knows the person properly :) Good luck
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@bonita002 (98)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I met my husband on a on-line datting site and we chatted off and on for about a year before we met. I knew when I first met him that he is "the one".
I would say you do have to weed out the deceitful men and women on line because there are alot of weirdos out there. please be careful but have fun too! Good luck
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@patrickowens1979 (31)
• United States
7 Feb 07
i think you should just give it a chance. if your honesteverything should work out. i never did the internet thing either till somebody told i should givie it a try so i did. it's been a fun 6 years and i hope there will be more. we are trying to have another kid hopefully we'll have a girl this time around.
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@DTP4LIFE (1)
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7 Feb 07
I am new to the whole net thing and only resently i have meet a beautiful woman on the net in the 3 months we have been talking i have fallen in love. However i have not met this girl and i know she suffers from manic depression. i do not mind this but i am still extremely wary of the legimitacy of our union and love. net relationships are perfectr in the sense you find someone who is every thing you could want mentally and spirually before the whole lust thing kicks in. but the problem will always be that you never know when you put the fone down or press the start button on your computer what is happening in that persons life. and their are many out their who are not what the say or seem. Im gonna find out next week (valentines) if my love really is my love or a waste of 3 months time and credit but if it is the later i wont be to annoyed cuz i never really lost out but many do so always be cautious.
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@bilalalikhan1 (270)
• India
7 Feb 07
i really agree with u and appreciate ur detailed answer.
U r right on spot where ur views r concerned.All the best for ur internet's journey!
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