why do so many supposed adults
By crystal8577
@crystal8577 (1466)
United States
February 6, 2007 1:13pm CST
feel their parents "owe" them? I am seeing so many people complain about the fact that their parents aren't paying for their college education or their wedding or what not. Your parents have supported you for a minimum of 18 years. They have clothed you, put a roof over your head, fed you. That does not include anything extra they may have done or bought for you. In the USA once you turn 18 you are legally considered an adult. That means your parents are no longer responsible for your actions. It is a parents job to raise you to be a self sufficant human being. That does not mean going into debt for things like a wedding, college or things like that. Yes, maybe they should have saved for those things, but being an adult means being able to take care of yourself. Be greatful of all your parents have done for you, instead of complain about what they aren't doing.
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@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
6 Feb 07
i agree 100% parents do alot for their kids for 18 years and that is when they need to grow up and become independent and not fuss because their parents quit helping them..instead the need to think about what they can do to give back to their parents and help them out for a change
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@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I would never had dreamed of demanding my parents to buy me things or do things for me. I would also have never confronted them on why they weren't doing something for me. I am greatful for everything they have done for me. My parents would not turn me away if I needed help, but I would never try to guilt them into helping me.
@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
6 Feb 07
i know me either but unfortunately their are alot out there that will. they need to be like us and others and be grateful for what they have and what their parents were able to do for them. how are they going to feel once they have children...you know what comes around goes around
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@mridula123 (734)
• India
7 Feb 07
well..its true that they've done so much for you unitl you're 18 and from then you're an adult. But that doesnt mean they dont have to help you after that. you're still their kid. Wel..if they cant support you because of other resons it's different!..But basic things like education just cant be funded by yourself even at 18. So i think the kid has only parents to turn up for money. Atleast if they can afford it, they must help out their kids. Also on the kid's part, they've got to be faithful to their parents and not expect too much! Even if they cant help you, you've to be grateful to your parents!
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
7 Feb 07
No one says you have to go to college at 18. There are student loans, grants, scholarships out there. There are ways to pay for college or people can work & go to school. There is not going to be assistance to help our parents in their old age because they went into debt to put someone in college. A lot of the people who except their parents to take the responsibilty are not going to help their parents if needed.
@spiritwolf52 (2300)
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11 Feb 07
It really depends on the State you live in as to what age is considered an adult. Most kids leave the nest when they reach 18.
In the old days, the father of the bride was expected to pay for his daughters wedding. Things have changed a lot since then. Now, we pay for our own.
It must be the generation. I know of plenty of kids when I was younger that put themselves through college. Whatever happened to part time jobs? They should at least pay for 1/2 their schooling. Kids these days want things handed to them. I say, go out and earn it yourself.
I'd like to see how many of these kids will be there for their parents when they need help.
@minerc (1373)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I dont get this either. I never could understand why these kids feel this way. When I grew up and left the house I never expected my mom to buy me a car or pay for my college. It was up to me she did her job she raised me with good moral's and values. She struggled while we were growing up it was time for her to enjoy her income. To spend it on herself and treat herself for all the work she done with us.
@chaygylmommy (2470)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I agree! Most people have great intentions when they start having kids and say they will save X amount of money for college funds, weddings, etc. But, sometimes things get hard and you just can't do it. I have 2 kids...my 5 year old son and my daughter is almost 3. My husband and I had big plans, but you know my son's savings acct has $20 in it after 5 years!
Parents don't OWE their children anything. When these people get married and have children of their own, they will see how the "real world" works.
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@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
11 Feb 07
In my humble oppinion once they reach adulthood it is the children that owe something to the parent and that is to let them know they care I know so many elderly (myself among them)who would give anything just to get a phone call let alone a visit .Getting old alone can be very lonely!they gave you life is it too much to ask that they give you a little of there time?
@apky12 (769)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I agree with you. My parents still definitely help me out with things every now and again but I do not expect them to at all. I am a grown adult with kids and I can take care of myself. It is a really nice thing for your parents to help you out but it is not their job to support you for the rest of your life.
