Shut Up-----A Harsh Word---kids told to do that all too often.

United States
February 6, 2007 3:50pm CST
You know the harshest word in the dictionary to me is Shut Up. I was sitting in a restaurant having a meal and this mom was talking to another adult and when the child interrupted instead of the women telling the child just a minute and I will talk to you. Granted the child had interrupted a few times but if the women would have seen what she wanted I don't think there would have been a problem. She glared at her and told her in a loud voice to shut up. How rude. There are other terms you can use. Like hush, be quiet--but it should be followed with the fact that in a few minutes you will see what she wants. I do not like those two words and they are used all to often. The above situation was not a isolated situation. I see it a lot. Adults telling children to shut up. And not in nice tones either. I wish they adults would take a step back and think about how it would make them feel if someone told them to Shut Up! They would not like it.
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• United States
6 Feb 07
One of the very important things my husband and I agreed on before having kids was language.So we have somehow strict rules , no shutup allowed even for us , no stupid , no a**h*** no many other things ,we figured if we can filter these words in the kids minds at an early age as bad words that are not allowed , may be they'll stick with it for good
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@CRiley27 (983)
• United States
6 Feb 07
If I say shut up, my kids go "Ohhhhh,mommy, you said a BAD word!" We don't say that often, is more along the lines of hush. :)
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@apky12 (769)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I agree with you. I don't like that word at all. It's very harsh and I feel taken aback when people use it with me. I never think it should be used with a child. It hurts people's feeling and it's just mean.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I agree with you totally and have to say it is one of the biggest problems I have with my 21 year old daughter, mother of my 4 year old grandson. And always says it with an "attitude". I think she says it to him more than she says anything else. I don't like telling my children how to raise their children but I have tried talking to her about this in private and have given up. When she does it now depending on my mood I either tell her to do the same or will give her "the mom look". She knows I'm not happy. Bad think is my grandson has picked up on it and caught me giving the look - one day he commented, "mommy your in trouble with grandma".
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@crickethear (1417)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Oh my gosh. Me too. I hate when I hear parents say shut up to their kids. That to me is like a parent slapping their kid as hard as they can in the face. I agree, the parents who say that wouldn't like being told that either.
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6 Feb 07
Mmmm saying shut up is very rude IMO. It's much simpler and nicer to say 'Please be quiet' or 'Hush up' in a nice tone.
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