I don't want to get Married!!!

Think that you do not need help have decided, but if really fall in love? Maybe you change idea. I have been married 10 year, then have fallen ill and have divorced. Now I live alone with my dog, I have a boyfriend since 5 years, but I do not remarry.

I'm with you on this one, I have no real plans to marry anytime soon, I just don't see myself finding one person who I want to be with forever, I think people change, and what we want in a partner changes, and we should have that freedom to find the person who we need now, not who we needed 10 years ago. If your parents are suggesting arranged marriages or just pressuring you in general to find somebody, let them know how you feel, but be sort of diplomatic about it, you haven't met anyone that you wish to marry yet, and if you change your mind and you do want to marry, you will, but it's your decision and you can and should make it alone, without pressure. Try to understand your parents viewpoint and why they feel what they do, and when you tell them your decision try to take into account what they feel and deal with their issues to help them better understand your decision.

How do you see yourself 20, 30 years from now? If you can live alone and be by yourself all your life, come to think of it. I know it's hard to adjust but it's what makes life interesting. Otherwise if we don't learn how to adjust then we are afraid to grow. I pray for you that you find the right man who will sweep you off your feet. :-D Peace!

Changes only makes people to survive. If there are no change in our life style, food, clothing, housing, or even change of mind, one cannot complete the cycle of life. that is why we pass through different stages of our life.

hi archiee. your parents must really love you so much that they want you to get married. you know what i mean? number one - sad to say our parents may not be there for us forever. they may soon leave us with precious memories to remember. what they care about you is that when they're gone and you're still single, nobody is there to take care of you. most parents think of that way, believe me. second - you will not leave your family. there will just be an additional member in the family - your husband. you may eventually build your own house but having children with your husband would be one of the greatest gift that you will ever give to your parents. and lastly, we all need to adjust to all kinds of relationships. may it be a wife, a sister-in-law or a daughter-in-law. it's just a matter of choosing the right person with the right attitude towards a very meaningful word called "family". when you fall in love, you will realize all these things. i hope you find the right person for you. and when the that time comes, you will forever thank your parents for that. blessed be! ^_^

My thought is that you will either meet someone ou want to marry or you won't, and that could be tomorrow or fifteen years from now. I don't try to predict the future any more. I would make some effort to get your parents to understand how you feel, but you just need to know that you can't change people's minds, only give them the opportunity to see how you feel.

Situation T55 may help you. Situation T55: Tina says she is not ready to get married "right now", despite her recent engagement to Peter. The couple who began dating in May got engaged in New York last month. Tina said: "Everybody in LA says they never want to get married, well I don't want to get married right now, but I do want to grow old with somebody."

hi! i don't know anything about indian customs or traditions but i know that getting married is not your parents decision. it still should be yours. they should not force you especially if you're not ready, physically & emotionally. also, you should marry the one you want to spend your life with, to grow old with, you're in love with... you cannot hurry love, you're still young, enjoy being single now for, soon you'll share it with somebody. =p

i am married 3yrs now. indian custom as well. believe me, 3yrs down the line i still struggle with the adjustment. i miss my family, our traditions we used to follow, i just miss being with them all the time. my in-laws aren't that bad, but yes they do certian things very differently, their style of cooking is different and they are very old-fashioned. it's difficult. but i love my husband, i chose to get married, wanted to get married, it helps me fulfil part of my religion. becos of all this, i have to make it work. i'm no different to anyone else. if your mother could do it, i'm sure you can as well. it's not that bad.....once you are able to adapt to the change, all that lil stuff in between will fall into place.

I believe the decision to be married or not is strictly your own. No one tell you what to do coz ultimately you are the one who is gonna go thru the life that you have chosen. I myself choose marriage not because i need to.. but because i want to.. I don't need a man coz i am independent and I believe i can take care of myself but i want a man in my life to be my companion for life, someone who is there for you hopefully thru thick and thin. someone to look out for you when you sick or simply someone to pamper you and make you feel wanted when you down and disappointed with the day you have having. Choose wisely, not because you have to but because you want to. God bless :)

Don't marry but be independent before the force of your family become dominant.

You are a strong woman, you dont need anybody to tell you when and who you will marry? Changes are going on there, (India), and it will improve for the females of your country. We have a large population of indians here and they, by our laws, not allowed to be in arranged marriages. This will follow into your country very soon I hope. You are very pretty and I'm sure there is alot of guys who will love you for who you are, and not your familys wealth.

Don't be like that. Life is short. No matter how strange the married may be, there are times when you have nod your head. Please get married. Make sure with the one your love very much. Enjoy the wedding and be prepared with the live after marriage. You will get much more happiness in your life. I hope so. As i said just now, life is short, make used of it.

I can understand your problem honey. But u have to understand onething. Everybody have to marry and have to continue his family further. Look if you do not want to marry now then it is ok. U can marry any time when u want to do. But if u say that i don't want to marry in your life then it is not good. If u afraid of that how can u marry with strange person to whom i don't know well. Then u can also do love marriage. Look most of the couples love before then marry and most of the couples marry before then love. I hope u understand what i am talking about. Chao...

miss archiee, its very difficult for a girl to settel with her husband and inlaws,but its the rules of our society that a girl should live her parents house one day,and u have to accept one day.u cant live alone ur full life.

i do not know where you are,cause i heard that in some country the woman should give dowries to the man,it will the cause for the woman which have the lower financial hard to be married,but different in my country the dowries is given by the man who want to marry the woman,it will be easy to get married as long as there is the man who want to marry her.I think married needed to all man and woman to make the goood family and happy life and also to continue our generation

I also have same idea like you. I'm also an indian. yes, you are true. For a girl its life adjustment whole throughout the life. I also don't understand why our parents just want to get us married against our will. It is really hard to live your life with a starnger.

I only suggest u marry a person who loves u but do not marry a person whom u love.It makes a lot of difference.Marrying a person is very sweet experience.Its like a adventurous experience because we are going into a new family with a new kind of person.Definately it will take time to adjust ourselves in that place but similarly it is also difficult for them also to accept u in their family.

Well, I dont suppose Marriage is necessary if you dont want to! I dont want to get married either and the same goes to my Sisters. Lol I know it may sound bizzare, but we have four of us girls in the family but none of us thinks about getting married, not that its lack of opportunity ;),but it depends on the choices we make! I have many friends who's married now with kids, although I love and adore kids Im not much into getting married and loosing my freedom. I know I sounds selfish, but I dont want my sisters to get married either, because things will be different then and the connection we have now wont be the same anymore, because Marriages alters our lives!

You can have it all. Getting married doesn't mean you have to give up your family. Once you find the right man and get married, you will gain another family. Why would it be so difficult to listen to your hubbies family? You don't have to agree with them, but you should respect them as you respect your parents. Just be a little bit more open minded. I am sure your parents want you to have your own family and don't be alone out there all by yourself.