Why do women want to have kids so badly?

I really wanted to have babies even before I got married. It was something I was so excited about for a long time. I think maybe because women are innately caring and loving compared to men that we tend to be obsessive about wanting to have babies whom we can care for and look after and give all the love that we are so able to give.

I really think it has something to do with biology. I think there is something within us bilogicially that makes us want and need to have chldren (kind of self driven). I have it and I have 2 kids. I want a 3rd one so badly even though I know rationally that I need to wait.

it is aswell good to want a child or more,if you are given the chance in life to be a mother it is because you where ment to be one.Don't feel worried about you image you have now about no being a good parent.Children should not be cute and giggly,only the most beautiful being you've ever seen and you will forget about seeing the trouble.

I think it's pretty normal for women to want babies. Not everyone does, but there are definitely a lot of us that do. Part of it could be that you want to share that with your husband. But if you aren't ready yet, don't rush into it and try before you feel ready to deal with it. Babies are a lot of fun sometimes. But they can also be a real pain. My son has always been a little angel baby. He's never been a crier, except for about three weeks when we first got home after being at my parents' house for about 12 days. He was having a hard time adjusting to sleeping in his room by himself again. Anyway, I know my baby is much easier than most babies. And there are still days that I want to pull my hair out. Having a baby forces you to grow up a lot, though. Before I got pregnant with my son, I could spend a lot of money on myself. Now, my husband practically has to force me to spend any money on myself, without it being something that I will use for the whole family. Recently he told me to spend $100 on me. I ended up with a 4th crockpot (I think I have all the sizes now), a bread machine, and a food dehydrator. I just couldn't find anything that I wanted for just me anymore. My baby and my husband are too much a part of my life now to think about just me anymore.

Its just the thought of having somethng for your own thats not bought its a part of you. Some people change when they find out a baby is on the way, but if you think you aren't ready then waut until you are there is nothing wrong with admiring something its like a new car you don't buy every car you are in love with. Its alot to be a parent trust me I am a 17 year with an 8 week old son. But I love him I was one of the ones who changed my ways.

I have no idea why lots of other women seem to want them so badly, or why they think i'm so strange for not wanting them badly (or at all at the moment). Persoanlly i feel no desire to have one, i guess i just don't have any maternal instincts at the moment. People keep telling me (mainly women, i might add) that i'll change my mind one day. Guess we'll have to wait and see on that one.

you know, a lot of people have these feelings. I will tell you that once you hold that child, a lot of things fall apart! you realize it's not just you and you DON'T CARE! LOL I have 2 kids and they can be pains sometimes, but I have so much more patience with my own kids than I do other peoples' kids...even my own nieces and nephews. LOL If you have any sort of doubts, I would wait, but your whole perspective of life changes once that baby comes.

I can see your frustration about this subject, but I don't think it's so irrational.... having a child is not like desiring an ice cream or something else good and beautiful. First of all having a baby is a big responsability. You are worried for the fact that your children will be more trouble than cute and giggly, this thought makes you a future responsible mother, you don't say stupid things as "I'll have a baby and I'll have a lot of fun", you know that having a baby is really hard, but I'm sure that your future children will give you a lot of satisfaction.