Why do some men feel they are the "Boss"?

The basis for this could be what the Bible says that women should submit themselves to their husbands. And sometimes this is abused by men without realizing that they should also love their wives as Christ loves the church.

I am a male and I believe that that's how males behave. We feel that we are kind of stronger than females and some of us try to act as if we rule our wives. I know that this is totally wrong but this has been going on for a long time. Women are considered helpless in front of men. Men consider themselves more powerful than females and act this way. But I believe that this is changing slowly and one day there will be equality amongst men and women.

Yeah...I know what you mean. My boyfriend tries to pull that crap with me too...but I tell him to stuff it. I think that they just want to feel superior and think they can boss us around...but it doesn't work...

sounds like me. I think that is a big reason why me and my ex husband didn't work out. I wasn't going to let him control me.

Amen!!!! I don't want to be anyone's boss either, but I don't take order at all. Like you I'm an independant woman and have been for the better part of the last 10 years. I don't see anyone coming into my life and changing that now. I hope when I do meet someone else that he's not a bossy type because I'll just have to tell him to stick it. I'm also stubborn LOL

I think it is because men traditionally work hard in order to support themselves, their wives, and their children. If they are working to help keep your family happy and with a place to live, then don't they deserve something in return. This is a traditional idea that men are the boss and women should stay in their place - in the home with no say.

Well put and thats how I feel and if nobody likes it they can take a hike. (or something else but I wont say it) My husband trys it too but doesnt get very far. I think they do just to see how far they can get.

I find when my husband is upset with something he tries to act like he is the boss but it never works out for him either as I always tell him he is not my father and I will not be treated like some child . We are in a relationship and it has to work both ways or not at all . But I do know that on occasion , I can be just as bad when I believe I am right about something .

good for you. i think the same and my mom sais i'm crazy.... she's a little old fashioned... no man can play "boss" with me. if he's respecting me i'll do the same

Maybe because men are just naturally egoistic. The urge to feel to be always in charge is ever present with them. But I think if a man respect a woman enough he should see her as his equal and not somebody to be bossy about.

Preach on sister! I agree with you totally. Some men think a marriage license is a ownership agreement or something. Which it's not just men, some women think like that too. Everyone should be equal and no one has the right to tell the other person what to do.

afterall only one person is the boss in any place , if there are too many boss the organisation is failed , so keep distance in profession ok GOD BLessYou Hariom

Amen sister I swear My man is the same way .... He will come home all up on his high horse and he will piss me off to no end saying he is in charge he makes te money he makes the rules on and on! Then I renmind him that without me he would be alone and screwed and he gets it. but I hate fighting about this. it comes up every once in a while and I wish he would just realize we are equal

boys will be boys. guys like to feel in charge because, i dunno, it's just genetics. it's how they're put together. males are supposed to be "manly" and "manly" means having the ability to take care of things and being,,, "manly". get what i'm saying? they do it because it's the typical man thing to do. they like to take care of the people they love as any person does. i don't see any harm in letting them think they're in control or letting them be in control sometime. when they start being possessive and setting rules for you is when it's a problem.

This country for a long time held the man in higher esteem. It is only recently in our history where to be alone was ok, independent ok, buy our own houses ok. So if I remember rightly your hubby is Dutch, his land must be more like we used to be in this country. A relationship is based on give and take and it is hardly ever equal, someone is usually giving a concession. Good luck with your relationship, am hoping the lines of communication works well!

well i knw, many men do like this, i think they have their much EGO, n cant tolerate to other as same equal rights..bt its rong, they should also let to others knw that they also have rights to be same as them....

yes its funny in a way ...sometimes I think that for my boyfriend it is away to make himself feel more important ...and that I realy need him to surivive ...lol after a while he gets back off his boss kick...maybe men just start to feel alittle insecure and need away to make themselves feel like they are needed ...they have always been the boss in the "olden days" and maybe its just an instinct for them to feel like they need to boss their wives or partners... we can help them overcome this feeling ...lol

Some men feel they are the man of the family. It is called ego. Just let him feel in charge, just let it go in one ear and out the other. Men are like that. If he is not being verbally abusive it is no big deal. Other wise you guys will fight. If he is not asking anything to unreasonable I would not make a big deal of it. Hope everything goes well.

well we play a game with my hubby..on weekdays lol he has dicataorship days and on weekend i rule the roost..it is funny cos he says i would make a very good dictator.. come on my love chill..it's the weekend.. don't get stressed..here let's have a cup of tea.. no don't do that now we can have some quality time together watching amy goodman lol.. it is fun.we have it as a game so no one ever abuses power..we are like you said equal..i make sure he feels like THE MAN lol..but i don't feel less equal..he does a wonderful foot massage snd he has never massaged another woman's feet before lol.. it is give and take..we both have unique qualities which we share and give to each other..but i do know what you mean..the boss syndrome lol

My husband and I don't tell eachother what to do and neither of us acts like the boss. We are partners, equals, and we treat eachother as such. If there is something that he needs me to do, whether I want to do it or not, I usually will. The same goes for him. Neither of us WANTS to do the laundry or the dishes, but it has to get done so we take turns getting it done.