My daughter met a man online and wants to meet him in real life!!

Any parent would think this is really dangerous. But if you are sure that your daughter has a chaperone or a friend with her during the meeting, I think the danger would be lesser. If the daughter is really bent on meeting the guy, then it would be best to advise her that she needs to have company while meeting the guy in a public place. There are really tons of horror stories strewn over the Internet about meeting strangers and you would not want that to happen to your child.

Because the girl is 18 there really is nothing the mother can do but I would be very very concerned. There are some very sick people in the world and my first concern would be why would a man 34 be wanting to get involved with a "girl" 18. This to start with is not normal - one warning flag. Next, I am 51 years old and have myself met several men online which met to meeting in person. First meeting should always be during the daytime with a limitation as to length of time for the date - example meet for lunch, visit a bit, then have an appointment mid to late afternoon. Next would be no way should she meet him at a motel. That can only lead to one thing, trouble. I would say if the daughter insists on meeting this man he should make the trip to her town, he can get a motel for himself but she stays at home. Mom should know where they are meeting and a set time when she will return home - if the daughter is not home then Mom should start calling... I have met several men online over the last few years and a friend and I have an agreement the same as above mentioned for the mother - we have each at different times called to check on the other. I also had a bad situation where I needed to be rescued by another couple (couldn't get rid of him and was afraid he was going to follow me home) and I had a cyber stalker that ended in having the State Police get involved. I don't care how long she has been chatting, it is oh so easy to lie online and this guy could be an axe murderer.

well i wouldn't want my daughter (if i had one) to be meetin guys off the internet that is way older then her, my friend once met a guy online, invited him to OUR grad, and was weeks away from meetin him in person, however, wat stopped him from coming.....my friend suddenly got a boyfriend in town adn tolf the guy not to come, which i think might of just saved her life!!

Even though this girl is 18.. she apparently is still too naive to know why meeting this man at a motel is dangerous on so many levels. These days there are so many perverted creeps on the internet. I think the mom should absolutely put her foot down about her daughter meeting this guy in private. Does the 18 year old still live with her mother? If so, I say she does still have some control over her. Perhaps the mother should suggest inviting the guy over to the mom's house for dinner? Personally, I think it is kind of creepy that a 34 year old guy was chatting with her in the first place. He is too old for the girl.

Well i think mother should try and talk to her daughter and persuade her to meet him at a safe place where people will be around. I think a mother-daughter realtionship is much purer and stronger than any law-driven phenomenon like turning adult on 18. Legally she might not have the right to stop her, but emotionally she has every right in the world to show her the right path. Well the girl has never ever met this guy before, so it would be really sensible for her to first get to know him personally in a resturaunt or something and then go for meeting him privately if everything falls in the right place.

I definitely would not approve of this. Yes, there is a slim chance of the person to be a good person, but in reality, there is a high chane this person is a criminal, pedophile, etc. Definitely a no, if i had a kid i would never let her meet someone she met online.

i dun think that meeting online and having a real relationship can be related with each other! to me i think both thiings are pretty different!

As a mother , I would be terrified of this happening and because of her age , with no way to stop her , I would insist on going along when she met this guy . It seems strage that someone that old would travel all this way to meet someone of her age just to be friendly . It is possible he is a really nice guy but because of the whole interenet and his age it would make me so much more leary about what his motives really were .

thats groos! i believe the 18 year old girl is in danger and the man will probably rape her. but at the same time, shes 18 and she needs to do things her own way. but if i were the mother, i'd heir someone to watch over the girl. just in case it doesn't turn out right..

I think she should do watever it is that she wants to do if she is old enough to do so...but take alot of caution in doin so...I pretty much met my girlfriend on the net...and we have been together now for over 7 months...and we are sooo in love..=D

Gimmie a break! Doesn't anyone watch dateline? The big deal is anyone can say anything from behind a screen. There is no way you can trust someone. This is a recipie for disaster and disaster isn't as tasty as you would think.

well meeting a person double the age of her daugher,or the fact that she met this guy online isnt dangerous,however the fact that they want to meet outside n stay on ..is definitely dangerous. advice her not to send her child alone.. either she should accompany her or ask a friend of hers to go wth her..

If she's 18 she can do whatever she wants, and you won't be able to stop her in any way.

She's old enough to make her own decisions, but I don't think she's able to recognize the dangers of this. I'm 19, and I find teenagers (myself included) have a huge sense of immortality. We'll try anything and everything (well..within reason, some would try more). I think the best advice you can give the mother is to offer to drive her there or go there with her. If the girl doesn't want the mother around when she's on the 'date' ask her if she has any guy friends that she could go with. The motel meeting place is a big red flag in my opinion, I would try to convince the daughter that a different place would be more appropriate. Maybe the mother should offer to buy her a gift certificate to a restaurant she likes so they could go there? Sometimes you can meet really nice people online. But very rarely. One of my best friends met her fiance while gaming online, but they've been talking for years before they actually met and he's only a year older than she is.

I do not think first meet why in the motel if chatting was continuing from 6 months past?. During chatting the man told all the truth what is the guarantee of it? However, I suggest can meet in the motel but not alone, mom of daughter should accompany and meet for introduction with that man and then can do according to situation. Otherwise it may not danger but for future relationship have 90% chance to flop.

people do come across online people . being attracted by his online personality , they ask to meet the person in real life .

I also agree with you! The daughter should just meet that guy in a public place and not in some motel. She should also have an escourt incase something went wrong! She is very young nd I think it is imroper for her to go out in sme mtewl with a 34 year old guy. You really havben't fully known this guy and don't know his basckground. What if he is married?? THe best thing to do is meet him in a public placvce or in the girl(daughter's house) just to be safe!

what people fail to realize is on the net situations like that can be really dangerous. i myself met the man im married to now on here but it wasn't something we immediately jumped into. have they ever talked on the phone or at least seen each other on a web cam? Does she even know anything about him? i think that meeting at a motel like that is dangerous. at 18 she should know how the internet and the people on it are. she should be smart enough to meet some where in public.

she can be worreid but not so much she can invite him to dinner in home to she know him and her daughter not small and know the right from the wrong

hey may be that man seems to have left a good impression on her. so wats the problem in meeting, or if you think it is not too good then try to make your daughter understand