My sons teeth are giving him nightmares.. can give me advice?

February 10, 2007 8:28pm CST
My son hasn't been feeling well lately. Yesterday he couldn't eat much and what he did he bought back and today was the same but he is looking better. At times he bit playful but not himself, personally i think his teeth are coming out again. (he's already got two through) His cheeks are bright red at times. so i was thinking if anyone on here had advice for me? i don't know many parents other than my own and i hate asking for advice because i refuse to ask people i know. (i think they'll think i'm failing or a bad father) I have been told to try using a teething ring which has cool water inside. we have on in the fridge but earlier he wouldn't bite it, which is not normal for him as he tries to bite anything in sight. lol Anyways if he isn't much better he will be going to visit the doctor but for now i'll see if there's any secrets as i know you've probably come a cross this and found a way which could help him. (not cure but help) =) Thanks ~Joey
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
11 Feb 07
You can give him some childrens pain reliever, like tylenol or motrin. Also put some baby orajel on his gums, that will help his gums not hurt so much. Also keep some popcycles in thr freezer, kids always like them when they are teething. Good luck. Never be worried about asking for advice, people won't think you are a bad dad, we all need a little help sometimes. Kids don't come with instructions.
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11 Feb 07
Ah.. We've put some teething gel on but i hadn't thought about the pain reliever (tylenol or motrin) i have alook for these tomorrow. will be useful to have around the place just incase he's ill =) Thanks for the suggestions polly1 =) I really appreciate them. ~Joey
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Your very welcome Joey, I hope the little guy feels better.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
I would also like to add, keep an eye out for diarrhea, (gross I know, but it is scary, when little ones get it, because they lose the weight very fast, and can be in danger). Many children that are teething, tend to get diarrhea...and so, I recommend pedialite (I may have spelled it wrong). I would ask your doctor too, if you should be giving it to him now, if he is not able to eat anything. You can probably ask the pediatrician over the phone. It is always good to ask for advice, I am not a parent (yet), and I like to learn as much as I can. I learned this through my friend's children, and my neice. Good luck, hope he does better, it is so cute when they have their little teeth ;)
@Bizziebod (3497)
11 Feb 07
Hi Joey, Sorry to hear your little one isn't very well. Firstly your a first time father, people will actually think you're a good father if you ask for advice. There is no handbook that comes with children so really the only way to learn is to ask - I'm no doctor but to me it sounds like your little one is teething from the symptons you have described. Have you checked his mouth to see if you can feel anything coming through? If there is I think you've found your reason! Try Bonjela if it's still around thesedays and something cooling to eat such as yoghurt. I found Calpol was always good at bringing down a temperature and a mild pain killer. Keep a close eye on him and keep checking his temperature, if he gets worse call out the emergency doctor but If he stays the same and still looks unwell in the morning get him to the doctors! Hope all goes well!
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@Bizziebod (3497)
11 Feb 07
*Calpol and Bonjela for if he's over 6 months old I think - Check the bottle first
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@sunita64 (6469)
• India
11 Feb 07
When my sister was teething my father used to give one homeopathic medicine calcium phos that helped her a lot and without much pain she had very good teeth with which she used to bite us.
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I have looked what the other responses have been and they are pretty good. You didn't mention a fever. HOw's his temp? He could have a couple of other thing going on that are being maked by the teething issues. Taking him to the doctor is a really good idea. That way, if the doctor is willing to give your little one something to ease the misery, it will be totally with the doc's approval and there acn't be too many questions later. I don't know why people would think youa re not a good dad! YOu are concerne denough to ask, and you described what is going on with your little guy in a way that really expressed you love and deep concern. More dad's should be like you.
11 Feb 07
Best thing is teething gel or a teething ring from the fridge. I would be against it from the freezer as it could actually freeze his poor little gums. Only give him calpol or other pain relief if he has a temperature with it as its not good for their tummys and he could end up constipated. One of the best pain relief for a baby is sucking, it is a natural way for the body to control pain. I am not advocating a dummy if he doesn't have one but maybe find something else he can suck to relieve the pain. In any case it is normal for them to experience this along with the rosy cheeks, my 2 both went through it. They produce alot of saliva which is also natural but just a complete pain for all involved as they are not happy during this. Once the tooth has broken through it will stop. Heres a website that may be helpful Good luck, I remember those days as if it were yesterday!!! http://www.teething-babies.co.uk/easing-teething/self-help.php
@Sawsen (793)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I wish I knew how old your son is. My daughter is nine months old and her teeth are coming out as well. I usually just give her a teething medicine and that does the trick. And I think you can also give your baby, if it's an infant, baby tylenol, because that also eases the pain. Just be patient, I think that's the only advice I can really give.
• United States
11 Feb 07
aww poor thing!! I rememeber those days..Yes tylenol is good but Motrin is better just to let you know..Tylenol doesnt take the swelling down..and it says right on Motrin for teething babies..it takes down the swelling..and I know my son hated anything too cold..it actually hurt his teeth., so what i did was get a baby wash cloth and put cool water on it and let him suck on it..watch him though so he doesnt get it in his throat..but i will tell yoiu it helped my son soo much!! the rings and everything else nuttin..lol..all that money went down the drain lol..ohh well//.what ever will help out children!! As for the night mares..you should talk to your doc and see if you can give benydryl?? I dont know how old your son is..but i know Sky had them as well..and his pediatricain offered Benydryl to help him sleep better..it helped about 70/30 orrr..try getting a cd with waterfalls sounds,or heart beat, something soothing..and have it on repeat all night..maybe hearing that even while he is REM sleeping.it will be in the background of his brain..and calm the nightmares a bit..lots of luck to ya!
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20 Feb 07
Hi cloud_kicker =) Thanks for the advice. We took him to see the doctor again the other day and now he has an inhaler because of the cough, so he's starting to feel better although the teeth are still bothering him abit but least he's sleep better. ~Joey
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@candygurl24 (1880)
• Canada
12 Feb 07
If his cheeks are flushed, it could be a low grade fever, or could just be his teeth coming through. Try giving him some infant tylenol to see if that helps him out in any way, but if it is bothering him much more, and in turn worrying you, take him to the doctor. You are not a bad father for not knowing the answer to all your child's problems..you are just a father. All of us parent's think about this alot, but the only stupid question is the one that isn't asked. I hope he feels better soon :)
12 Feb 07
Candygurl24 =) It looks to be his teeth i can feel some coming though on his top gum. Little bugger bit me :P He's somewhat better, we're still nipping him to the doctors tomorrow to make sure it isn't anything else but he's alot more content. In fact he had a giggle fit which we haven't seen for awhile. =) I appreciate the suggestions. thank you (this goes to everyone who's posted) i'll keep these suggestion at hand incase i need 'em :)
@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
11 Feb 07
try children's motrin it always helped with mine
@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
21 Feb 07
First of all, asking for advice MAKES you a good father. NO one is given an isntruction manual on parenting, nor does having a kid automatically make you the all-knowing parent. How do other parents figure it out? By asking advice! So don'tbe afraid to ask! Teething rings should help. Chewing on a soft ring will help the teeth break through the gums (which is the painful part) and the coolness of a frozen ring will numb his gums to reduce the pain. Dont be afriad to stick your own finger in there and feel around. If his gums are bright red, and feel HOT to the touch, he might hav an infection. That might also cause the flushed cheeks. Feel free to take his temperature to make sure he doens't have a fever on top of this. BUt other than that, teething HURTS.. let hi chew on teething rings, toys, your fingers... anything soft that won't hurt him. He'll get through it.
21 Feb 07
i know from when i have looked after babies that are teething that those teething rings that you pop in the fridge are very good, and ease the burning sensation bubs has on his gums. but i know what your little monster is like, so im not suprised he hasnt started munching on it yet. but inittially children dont get the hang of it, like most things they have to be taught how to use it. i hope mr potter is feeling better soon
11 Feb 07
My Nephew has just started teething and my sister gives him baby teething pegs as they chew on them they just dissolve in their mouth, other than that she gives him a teething ring with bojela on or a plastic ice filled stick to numb his gums, hope it helps.
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• Singapore
11 Feb 07
i think you should see a doctor instead because it will be better for your son. blindly following other people's advice may only make things worse. you really love your son, don't you?
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@ironska (26)
• Italy
11 Feb 07
child is a very problem
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@jmp824 (741)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
It's normal to babies who are on teething. They feel very uncomfy with that. I had a son too, when his molars begun to spring out, that was the worst days in his life... he doesnt want to eat and he cries at night. But we parents understand it, its part of the developing process. Just try to give him soft food so as not to disturb his mouth. My son doesnt like to bite a teether, but instead bites us. Ouch..! :D
• China
12 Feb 07
teething - Baby teething
Teething rings are one option, but I'd use them in conjuction with a bit of teething meds. I know most parents think that meds and kids together will never mix in their households, however, children's panadol or tylenol work fantastic to get rid of the pain in teething. Additionally, there are some numbing medications that you can rub on the gums to sooth them. If you're up to try these they can really ease the pain and make your son so much more comfortable during teething. It can also reduce the fever associated with teething.
@drmt57 (295)
• United States
11 Feb 07
You say you hate asking for advice from people you know yet you would ask a strangers, your parents would probably have the answer to your problem, did you ever stop to think that maybe they went through the same thing with you when you were small, so ask them for advice, if they went through this with you they will be able to tell you what to do to bring comfort to your child. I don't believe they will think you are a failing father, but a father that is loving and careing and concern about the welfare of his child.
• United States
12 Feb 07
Poor baby, looks like everybody here has covered everything about teething that I could have offered. I would however ask your doctor about Motrin before giving it to your son. My doctor had a problem with Motrin and recommended Tynenol instead. I can't find the pamplet he gave me but you can read one article I found about children's motrin. I know there were other reasons why I shouldn't use Motrin I just can't remember why. http://members.aol.com/steven05johnson/childrens-motrin.html
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
I have come across here in mylot where a mother shared her most effective way of coping with her teething babies. It is just as simple as taking hold of clove oil and mix/dilute it with olive oil. Rub the concoction on your baby's gums and this will give the baby a very soothing effect. Please try this.
11 Feb 07
well dont be afraid of asking people, when you think about it, asking is caring and who doesnt want a caring father? my grandma she used warm salt water for me when i was young with tooth coming out. it works. and i also suggest water soluble aspirin. use about a quarter of a tablet in a small glass of water, at least 200ml. and just rinse his mouth with them, seperately of course... and remind him not to drink the salt water, dont want him to puke...