how would you know if the one you are with is the one you should be with?

Personally, I think the only way to make a relationship work, is just that. Make it work. It takes time, effort, trust, love, and faith. There are probably hundreds of people you could happily love on this planet. And each one would have different traits you adore. But I told my fiance this once, when he asked me why I stick with him, with so many other beautiful people in the world. I told him each person is like a work of art. Some paintings are realistic, every gritty detail perfect to life. some are surreal, some mystical. some are so abstract you can't make heads or tails of it. Some are made from paint, others mere sketches. There's every variety of painting in the world. But even though one painting may be more precise or accurate than another, you still have a favorite piece of art. One that moves you everytime you look at it. One that captures the essence of your soul. One that you're proud to hang on your wall, yet also want captured inside your memory for all time. And each painting has its perks. And other paintings are good, and beautiful. But you've chosen the one, favorite painting. *shrugs*. I think its possible to love nearly anyone, but its up to you to spend time together, and make the lustful, "first sight" sort of relationship into a long term, devoted, pure, and healthy relationship. So, if you're very happy where you are now, it doesn't matter if there's another beautiful person to walk by. You have one already. Spend more time together, dream together, and he'll stay your 'one'.

Simply by the fact that after every differences you have and after every fights and discussions, instead of wanting to push him out of the door...and find someone who can share your stuff with without problem... you still choose to live with that person with or without arguments... Sometimes in a relationship not the similarities matter... sometimes differences works like magic to fill up those missing pieces of each other... It pushes us to know more about our partners and the things that makes us love them more...

ok you meet a guy that you find attractive ....cos thats what keeps you together in the beginning (lol...the make up s e x) then you iron and make smooth ...you know what just stick it out and it will all work out fine :) forget about the nights he made you cry ...and work on laughing together more :) Em

im not really sure as to how to answer this, as far as i know, im confused myself as to this aspect, knowing if the person i am with is my destiny.. im still in search of my own questions in life.

I don't think you can ever be completely sure if the relationship is the right one, but then if was in it maybe I would know. It is very difficult, but I know you should talk to your partner about the problems and see if you can work out a way together to make things work.

Zavebe puts it very eloquently: you have to work at it, and you stay with that one because like that special painting, he is the one that moves your soul. So I guess one question to answer is does this person feel special to you as that painting on the wall? And also, if you found another person, would you be moved more by this person (in the long run) than the one you are with now? This is a harder question to answer because once you are in a "committed" relationship, how do you have time to find out/know if someone else can move you in the long run? There really is no way to be sure of this. I think another good measure of whether this person is the one is how you feel when you fight? Do you feel bad just because you think fighting is bad? Or do you feel bad because you realise you have hurt the one you love? And if you had to be separated from him, does the thought of that send you into a depression? I don't know how this works for couples who have been together forever, so it may not be a good measure at all. But it's still something to think about. I think it's a lot little things that can help you decide. You say that having different likes and dislikes causes some of your fights, well, I think that knowing this should help you curb some of your fighting because you can control your response to something that you already know about. For the fights that are not about likes/dislikes, I think it's the quality of your relationship after these that can help you discern whether he is the one. Do you both compromise a little more afterward? Do you both readily admit the error of your ways or is it always just one of you doing all the work. I think that willingness to share the blame, or openly admit when you're wrong is part of loving and could be a very good indicator, although pride can be the downfall for many in this regard. Perhaps you should also think about what moved you to choose to be with this person at the beginning of it all, and what factors along the way helped you decide to stay. Sometimes people forget why they chose the person they chose, so it helps if they make the effort to remember all the good things that brought them together in the first place and try to decide whether at this stage, those things still matter. And hopefully, thinking about all these things doesn't give you a headache, because sometimes we can over-analyse and lose sight of the truth. Sometimes you really do just *know* deep down, because maybe this person just remains rooted in our consciousness and somewhere deep within, you realise they have the power to make you smile and you don't even know why. Be blessed! And pray for the guidance you need to help you to realise whether indeed he is The One!

If you can imagine yourself married to this person when you are 80 years old and sitting in a rocking chair on the front porch talking, when no other body part works -- it might be a sign they are the ONE.

i know exactly what you mean, and honestly i dont know either, i think about it and still cant come up with an explanation. the differences between us cause the fights and just makes either one not interested at the time. and it does get nasty at times, and keep getting back together but why i dont think anyone knows the answer really, i think just the head thinks its right.

there are no guidelines nor handbooks that would say "OK! his/her the One!" if there is such things i would have bought one myself. If you think that this person you're with makes you happy, then go! be with her/him. there are no "the right person or the wrong person". as they say "Follow your Heart" you wouldn't know what lies next from the dark forrest (Is this corect?)if your not gotta take risk right? . Peace be with you! =

how would you know if the one you are with is the one you should be with? In terms of using analytical judgment, you don't! Being with the "right" person is not in the sense of thinking, it's a sense of feeling.

well,if you feel the love & care with each other then he might be the one. And if you believe that marriage is a sacrifice then go...

u will know if he is perfect automatically.. cuz every time u speak to him u can feel the diff and also he will keep u smiling and happy thought sometimes people get angey.. but itrs all a part of life.. and also the best thing is that he has come back for u and wants to be with ya.. thats more important

i have been married since nine yrs i know my spouse since when we were 12 yrs old our affair started when we were 16 as usual we used to break up and in a few days patch up again i think we wre made for each other inspite all odds we got married when we wre 22 though we are from diff religion we worked on our marriage god has a way of tellin us that this is ur soulmates listen 2 ur heart all the best

if one care about anyone then he can know that the person who is with me right now will be with him .

You know when you and your partner work it out after fights and the really really down ones. If you still end up together while not being married and then being married will have nothing to do with it.

My hubby and I started to be in a situation of opposites really attracts and i believe with that since then we have met. You have to treasure every moment u are being together. It doesnt matter the indifferences you have but still, you end up jiving with each other and that's what you call a magic.. you knw what, after 6 years of having indifferences interests, we eneded up with each other and because we treasure of wat they called " magic". it is enough to say that we are trully blessed to have each other and we follow what our hearts feel for each other.

That is the miracle of falling in love.Same thing with your question,no one can ever predict our destiny.All we can do is,make the most out of it,nourish and cherish every moment.The good thing is we experience the wonderful feelings of it and ready to learn and accept if it fails.Go with your heart coz that will be your best weapon and will lead you to your prince charming.Spending the rest of your life is for both of you to work it out and cant be predicted.Somebody compare it to a work of art but I will compare you to a new plant.

The short answer? You don't. You never know for sure that whoever you are with right now is really THE ONE. Your own feelings and judgement though will be able to let you know whether you're in a relationship that is worth to take into permanence like marriage. You alone have the power and decision to know whether this relationship is for keeps or not. Search within yourself and ask these questions: Can I see myself spending the rest of my life with this person? And though no relationship is perfect, will the one I share with him/her bring me tremendous joy and fulfillment? Do I know, deep in my heart, that a life without this person is not worth living? If your answer to those questions is YES, then chances are the person you're with is IT.

only God can tell if the two of you are meant for each other...as of now, enjoy each and every moment both of you are spending with each other. we can never tell if the one beside us now are the one we were spending our life forever....what we should be glad of is that once in our life, a guy has come our way and we have share our love, dream and life with him or her.....

God create us as a different kind of "thing". In common relationship, we often expect to "always" have a good time to share. Admit it ? we like it when we can share the same hobbies, same likes and same feeling with another. But faced the truth , we can't be in good situation all the time. We are not having relationship with a MIRROR or our TWIN BROTHER or SISTER. Even a TWIN SISTER / BROTHER not always have a same thing in their life. God give us Emotion to share with another. Not just a GOOD EMOTION but also BAD EMOTION. After a conversation, laugh or even fight with others , we will learn something. Don't we ?? So, the solution is to respect the difference. In good relationship , We must try to addapted to what our partner want. Not demand to make our partner to be changed. Earth is making by various colour , not just one. That makes Earth beautiful place to live