Stay at home, or have a job?

I would prefer to work. I have experienced that Staying at home is only nice in the beginning, but after few months..olala what a boring. Anyway after taking study for years, it will be nice to contribute more instead of only for our family. that will be fair i guess. But of course you can still work while staying at home. That's another option.

i am a working mom. i would have preferred to stay-at-home and would have looked for another employer, or just practice my profession on my free time, but i am tied to my current company at least until 2009. my plan after that is to stay at home and be financially fruitful through various innovative means. many opportunities have opened due to modern technology and i would like to take advantage of that.

I guess to start a good family, I would prefer my wife to be at home and tend for my family's needs. I will not let her work, maybe just give her something that she can work on to. Like a mini store or maybe put a similar business just like that, maybe let her join here in mylot and participate!;) But no matter what happens, I will provide for them the most that I can to live a decent life.

my husband and i talked about it before we got married. he lets me decide if i want to stay at home or work. i say i want to help him earn money. if we want to live a comfortable life then we should work hard not only for us but also for our future children. that's the way life goes. ^_^

Given the choice, I would prefer being a full time mom and wife. This is especially true when you baby is in her/his early years. You get to witness their "FIRSTS" and enjoy caring for them every minute. Though I still believe that you can still work while fulfilling your role as a housekeeper. There will definitely be sacrifices to take and its only a matter of being happy with that choice.

I'm a stay at home wife and mother who has an advanced degree and is still paying for it! lol! My husband and I talked about what roles we wanted to have when we were first discussing marriage. Both of us agreed that we wanted to have one of us home for at least the first 5 or 6 years of our child's (or children's) lives. I personally would rather be at home caring for my family and house then running the rat race any day! Been there, done that, not anxious to go back! But it depends on the couple and their situation. We have to make a lot of sacrifices to live the way that we do. We don't have a lot of the latest and greatest, but that doesn't matter as much to us as it does to some people. There's good and there's bad, but like Baskin Robbins, life has a lot of flavors and there's bound to be something for everyone!

My wife is a stay at home mom by choice but does work part time with flexible hours to supplement our income. She is happy with her situation but is itching to get back into the workforce once all our kids are in school. I support her decisions fully and love the fact that she is the one at home with the kids while I'm at work rather than a nanny or daycare center as I trust her more than anything or anyone in this world.

for the longest time, i've always wanted to be a career woman. but when i got married and had a baby, i've always dreaded weekdays and going to the office. if given a choice, i'd rather stay home and take care of my baby 24/7. that way, i'll always be with him and witness every milestones and discovery. i also want to serve my husband the best that i can, but i think i'll be able to do that only when i'm just at home.

Like others here in the thread, i have a college degree in Hotel and Restaurant Management and worked while i was still single. The moment i got married i resigned from my work as i had opted to start a family right away. Just two weeks after marriage i got pregnant and the rest is history. That has been 10 years ago! I have been a SAHM sonce then and i love it, have three kids and a supportive husband. I recently started a on-line graphic designing biz and it is doing good, it is something that i love to do and at the same time gives me the luxury to stay home and tend to the kids.

i am a working mom. i would have preferred to be a stay-at-home mom or have a part time job. my plan 2-3 years from now is to be a stay-at-home mom and have a passive income that is good enough.

If I was still abroad I would be the supermom and excellent wife plus the working woman! But since I am in the Philippines where the salary would not be worth it I would rather be a full time mom and wife who is trying to open up her own business. Don't get me wrong I would love to work again but here the salary is very poor for us locals. I would rather be my own boss in my own company otherwise be enslaved by my husband and children.

I would like to stay home when I have children because that is my natural instinct - not because I'm a woman, it's just my feeling. It's something I would share with my husbandm if he wanted to stay home and have that time with the kids, I would go to work and we could alternate the responsibility. In you original statement though, you don't mention kids specifically. I don't know if in a couple-household where just two people live and no children, there is any need for one person to stay home just to look after the house. A good relationship and warm, safe environment should be a goal of both parties and can be worked at together regardless of whether you both work.

I'm a SAHM, not a housekeeper. It was OUR decision as a couple for me to stay home and raise our children rather than to give them to someone else to raise. I am NOT a maid, slave, cook ect. I'm here to take care of my girls and to teach them and nourish them. I am not home so that my house is clean for my husband, or to slave over a hot stove. I'm a Stay At Home MOM, not stay at home slave. I love being in the role i'm in. I love the fact that I had my children, and i continue to have the roll in raising them as I see fit, and no have to give them to someone else for the majority of the day.

why can't you have both! there are many home based businesses. i haven't found a good one yet but hey, i'm still trying. good luck

I read this and immediately thought "hands down --a want a job!" Then I started really thinking this through. If I were a parent, I would be thinking differently. As a parent, I would want to be a stay-at-home mom. But, as a childless female, I have no choice but to work. I do like what I do, so for now...definitely a job!

If one marries a career woman, it is only fitting to allow her to keep on being productive and make her significant contribution to the society that way. The services these women offer are sometimes crucial and will really matter in their fields of expertise. There are a lot of brilliant women too, and if they get scraped off from working after marriage, so much is lost in terms of their contribution in their fields of endeavor.

it's my dilemma now..i'm thinking of quitting my job yet am afraid that we would have financial difficulties..but i would also like to be a stay at home mom with small business on the side.it hink this is quite tough decision to make, i'm still weighing the pros and cons.

Honestly, due to my health, I would rather stay home ( I work part time outside of the house and write part time at home) However, we really need the money, but my health is getting much worse :-( That being said, when my daughters were little, I was a stay at home mom.

Before my hubby and I got married, I promised that I would stay at home to raise our kids once we had them. But I also told my husband I'd like to keep a part-time job to keep me sane. So when we had our first-born son, I stayed home to take care of him myself. I don't regret the decision because MOTHERHOOD is a career, too. A very crucial one. I acknowledge that I am moulding a life here, so my job is impotant. When my son turned 6 months, I returned to work on weekends, thus giving me time to sharpen my skills again and at the same time giving my hubby and my son the much needed time for bonding. I am on my way to baby # 2 and as soon as he is about 6 months old, I'd be starting working from home. Plans for operating our own playshool are underway. I made a choice to balance being a mom and a career woman. So this arrangement works for my hubby and me.

its not a matter of want in this current situation, who among any of us doesn't want to stay home and just keep the house clean and buy food and cook for your husband and kids? well maybe some wouldn't like that but yes some still wants the traditional role but there are consequences if you do this. i am a full time working woman + housewife. Now why do i say i'm a housewife too i still have to play the role of the traditional wife, when i get home i still clean the house, i still cook for my husband, not much, most of the time microwave cooking, but i try to do this, so i can be a good wife to him. nowadays its a matter of need, my husband and i just bought, i mean mortgage a house a year ago, before that i was still working and why is that? because we would like to have kids, give our future family, (we havent got any kids yet) a better life, better education, better food. Its just a simple equation: If Husband works and Wife does not Then We can't afford to pay house + bills; Result: Poor Life. If Husband works and Wife works too then We CAN AFFORD To pay house + bills; Result: Better Life if not So Great END