What have you really learnt from your past relationships?

I have learnt that you can't change people. You need to know a person well before you move in with them and you need to be prepared to live with them how they are now, not how you would like them to be.

i have learned not to be too good with women-to love but not to trust too much-never trust a scorpio

Yes, I have learnt never to trust anyone and spill all your beans in front of them. I happened to have close person with whom i was in a relationship and did all for that person. I used to do everything to that person and even introduced that person home. But that person truned out to be very abusive type and started using abusive language & letting me down in front of all. That person knew one scret of mine which was hidden from all and now i am off from that person, but within me there is always a fear of that person exposing me in public. Moral of the Story: Never Spell your beans to anyone.

wow!. congratulations for having a long lasting relationship!. i hope me and my hubby could last that long. anyways i have learned from my past relationships quite a few lessons that i now apply in my life. 1. never ever enter a relationship if you are not serious and if you only got "game" in your mind. it will never work out. 2. be honest with yourself and with your partner. a relationship will never work if one of you cheats and lies to the other. 3. do not own your partner. i hated it when one of my partner in my past relationship almost owns me like he wants me to do what he wants and all that. it is so annoying and as a rebellious child we didnt work out because im not used to being owned. 4. accept your partner as he is. do not change him and make him the man you think he is because he is not.he is who he is and you must accept him if you truly love him.. well these lessons are applicable to me and i am not implying that all people must adhere to this lessons. we are all different and we all view the lessons in life differntly.. well.. thats it!. thanks for the discussion.

I have learned that marrying to young is not good..This would not apply to me now,but it is a very good experience that i could and would share with others..i have also learned that when you get into a relationship be sure and give it time,time to know who that person is and not to hurry into anything...Do not try to change a person,who you see is who you get...I have also learned that a relationship is not a jail sentence,it is a commentment to one person,but at the same time be true to yourself..You have to make sure that before getting married that you plan to and commit to having that person in your life forever, and not go into a relationship with the idea that if things don,t work out you can just get a divorce,i feel to many people think that way these days...Another thing that is important is not to dwell on the past,from the day you make a commitment you must take that day and move forward,if that person has a past that you cannot deal with ,then do not get into that relationship period..Do not get into a relationship thinking that you will change that person,it never happens..and last but certainly not least learn to respect that person you are getting into a realionship with...Respect carries a lot of things with it such as ,no put downs ,no talking down too,communication ,and fairness,and you can be angry but never raise you hand in anger to that person... that about sums it up...

Hello guys, i would like to say that i have learned from my past relationship is......Never keep the feelings gor others in ur heart, tell them wat u think for that person or else they will never understand ur inner feelings & one very imp lesson is "One side Love Neve Succeed"... so guys tell whole things which u feels for others.....or else forget them...

i learned that honesty and sincerity are much better than a fake thing..

What i've learned from my past is that don't assume on something that's hard to have. The biggest mistake i had with my past is i'm giving all my trust and love that i haven't remained anything for myself. Now, i have balance all the emotion. I'm not giving up all my trust and love 'coz in times of goodbye's you don't have to do anything but to cry.

I learnt to consider always all the things that you really have in your hands. The very essence of a relationship?!I don't know. But i'm sure that an important point is to remind to yourself and to the other, how much do you really love him/her every day...

i learn from my past relationship stop being immature..and communication is very important to a relationship

I have learned that if you are friends 1st you get to know the other person alot better before your heart gets involved . Security and trust mainly come from within, i have been in 2 bad relationships and my 3rd is excellent, 7yrs this year and it still feels like we only got together last week. I am more secure in myself and where i had trust issues before i dont now. When my partner tells me he loves me , now i believe it.

I've just broke up with my girlfriend. Until now, i can't realize yet that we (she and me) are no longer together. A lot of things that i learnt from that relationship. But the point is, no matter how hard you try to keep her feeling to you, when she said no more, it means no more. So we have to do preventive action, always keep the good feeling, dont EVER leave her with uncertainty, especially her love to you. I thought i have to learn and take the experiences from somebody else...

lol nothing.. dont trust anyone :S havent had a good realtion in the past 5 years :(

well for me is being strong to all trials that you encounter and also do not give a 100% love to your partner cause its bring you hurts so much if broke that relationship...and also the lasthing do not be so crazy about love..

i actually learned a lot thats why i have no boyfriend right now, haha.. just kidding. anyway, one thing i learned is about the time management. most of my past relationships were professionals where as i that time was still a student so we had a bit difficulties when it comes to time. i had some experiences before that we only meet once or twice in a month cause he's busy with his business and so was i in my school. so what i did was understand and consider. another thing is too much question is too much confusion. i learned not to ask questions thats no necessary. i dont ask questions just for the sake of communications, i dont ask questions when i know the answer's going to hurt me. so thats it. primary lessons ive learned that i would be applying to whoever my boyfriend is going tobe then.

hi there.. well i really think that whenever a relationship fails, you should have learned the lesson in the first place, so the next time around, were cautious about making the same mistakes again. but of course there's no guarantee that the relationship would still be perfect, but at least learning from the past experience still counts.

I married late in life, but had a few relationships before as did my wife. I can't say I learned this, or I learned that, by actually pin pointing some specific thing I've learned, but I know this. The experiences I had in other relationships helped to form my perosonality and my character to prepare me for a relationship with my wife, and her likewise. We both had grown up in the same parts of the country, at times living no more than 60 miles miles apart and frequented beaches that were the same or next to each other, but we never met, until 13 years ago when we lived about 350 miles apart, we met on Prodigy before the Internet became a common forum. My wifes experiences had the same character defining affect on her, to prepare her to be able to deal with and love me. There is no doubt in my mind that God was thinking of me when she was conceived, and both of us agree that had we met 20 years sooner we would not have stayed together. We've known each other for 13 years now and married almost 12, and our love for each other stil grows and our relationship and all that goes with it just get's better. The endomorphine thing that happens when your falling in love fades, but the bond between us continues to grow. I cannot see my life without her, nor her without me. What have I learned? I don't know, but I do know that whatever I learned it was exactly what I needed in defining my/our character/s.

I have learnt that the broken heart that you might have today could be the clue of a way to find your soul mate out there another day

I have learnt that the broken heart that you might have today could be a clue to the way of finding your soul mate out there another day.

what i have learned from past relationshipsis that i would not go back to any one of them.some people go back to try again. that does not work .to me that is wasting time. you learn from past relationships so you dont make the same mistakes.